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i know ACE is a spectrum, but...
i just want to share my life experience. ive always wondered if i was different, i dont enjoy sex, i dont feel pleasure and ive never felt the need to masturbate. ive always felt weird about it and i was and still am MAD that im this way. why? im so mad that i can enjoy it, it must be really nice.
however, i like what comes before sex, im interested in making out and being touched? like the "steamy moments" before, but again during all this i dont feel pleasure, its just? fun?
i don't know, but its been really hard to get over this and accept the way that i am, im just so sad that i will never experience sex like others!
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i just want to share my life experience. ive always wondered if i was different, i dont enjoy sex, i dont feel pleasure and ive never felt the need to masturbate. ive always felt weird about it and i was and still am MAD that im this way. why? im so mad that i can enjoy it, it must be really nice.
however, i like what comes before sex, im interested in making out and being touched? like the "steamy moments" before, but again during all this i dont feel pleasure, its just? fun?
i don't know, but its been really hard to get over this and accept the way that i am, im just so sad that i will never experience sex like others!
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Shoutout to all the gay and trans animals on my phone who spent six months helping me realize that I'm not a cishet man with something wrong with him, I'm a panromantic ace enbie whose perfect exactly the way they are.
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You might be an Ace
Found an old post of a "You might be ace if..." checklist (post itself is gone, but the comments are still there) and the title made me think of the Jeff Foxworthy "You might be a redneck" routine.
So wanted to make a post and ask for everyone's best "You might be an ace" joke.
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Found an old post of a "You might be ace if..." checklist (post itself is gone, but the comments are still there) and the title made me think of the Jeff Foxworthy "You might be a redneck" routine.
So wanted to make a post and ask for everyone's best "You might be an ace" joke.
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Personal musings and thoughts as a POC ace
If you can relate to any of these things or if you have something to add, feel free to comment. Some things mentioned are specifically speaking about a woman/woman presenting experience. So, I was thinking about how people subconsciously, and consciously, make assumptions about each other's sexuality based on superficial information. Things like:
1. Age- this one is just based off statistics as you age and the likelihood that you have had sex at a certain point in your life
2. Attractive people definitely have sex and have a lot of it. Shocked reaction if they find out you haven't and don't want to. *This one is also somewhat insulting since it's almost an unconscious bias that anyone attractive has definitely had sex and OF COURSE it is shocking if they haven't. Think in comparison how finding out someone conventionally UNattractive is a virgin is not treated with as much surprise unless they are older. Honestly, our culture is so appearance based that this one, sadly, makes sense to me, too. **side note: it is important for you to recognize if you are attractive, it's actually more dangerous for you to not know, because it means you are unaware of how you are perceived by others. Being pretty is as dangerous to you as it is an advantage for you
3. Revealing clothing = sex life and wanting to make people attracted to you. Which is why I like to revisit https://www.qwearfashion.com/home/this-is-what-asexual-looks-like to remind me that there are others who like to dress the way I do for the reasons I do
4. Ethnicity- ethnic people are seen as sexually 'exotic' and are sexualized at a much earlier age
5. Singlehood = dating scene and/or sex life; the basic mainstream assumption is that every adult has a sex life unless there is a situation that would prohibit or inhibit it, but being single has been tied to dating and/or sex for years until recently. Movements like 4B from S. Korea have helped to discover the benefits of singlehood for women without centering it on 'finding' a permanent romantic tie that's goal-oriented towards creating a family
6. Women are demonized for their sexuality (speaking from a Western societal perspective) and this applies to their perceived sexuality, as well (their sexuality as it is seen by others)
Most of the time, I don't care about what's going on in a persons head unless they are my friend, but it's important to be aware of how you are seen by others. Any of the factors I mentioned can influence someone's perception of your sex life by itself, and with the addition of each one, the incorrect perception gets stronger and stronger. It's frightening, depressing, and enraging all at once when you think about how much influence societal perception has on your experiences and reputation. But at least there's always cake right? 🍰
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If you can relate to any of these things or if you have something to add, feel free to comment. Some things mentioned are specifically speaking about a woman/woman presenting experience. So, I was thinking about how people subconsciously, and consciously, make assumptions about each other's sexuality based on superficial information. Things like:
1. Age- this one is just based off statistics as you age and the likelihood that you have had sex at a certain point in your life
2. Attractive people definitely have sex and have a lot of it. Shocked reaction if they find out you haven't and don't want to. *This one is also somewhat insulting since it's almost an unconscious bias that anyone attractive has definitely had sex and OF COURSE it is shocking if they haven't. Think in comparison how finding out someone conventionally UNattractive is a virgin is not treated with as much surprise unless they are older. Honestly, our culture is so appearance based that this one, sadly, makes sense to me, too. **side note: it is important for you to recognize if you are attractive, it's actually more dangerous for you to not know, because it means you are unaware of how you are perceived by others. Being pretty is as dangerous to you as it is an advantage for you
3. Revealing clothing = sex life and wanting to make people attracted to you. Which is why I like to revisit https://www.qwearfashion.com/home/this-is-what-asexual-looks-like to remind me that there are others who like to dress the way I do for the reasons I do
4. Ethnicity- ethnic people are seen as sexually 'exotic' and are sexualized at a much earlier age
5. Singlehood = dating scene and/or sex life; the basic mainstream assumption is that every adult has a sex life unless there is a situation that would prohibit or inhibit it, but being single has been tied to dating and/or sex for years until recently. Movements like 4B from S. Korea have helped to discover the benefits of singlehood for women without centering it on 'finding' a permanent romantic tie that's goal-oriented towards creating a family
6. Women are demonized for their sexuality (speaking from a Western societal perspective) and this applies to their perceived sexuality, as well (their sexuality as it is seen by others)
Most of the time, I don't care about what's going on in a persons head unless they are my friend, but it's important to be aware of how you are seen by others. Any of the factors I mentioned can influence someone's perception of your sex life by itself, and with the addition of each one, the incorrect perception gets stronger and stronger. It's frightening, depressing, and enraging all at once when you think about how much influence societal perception has on your experiences and reputation. But at least there's always cake right? 🍰
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I’m Yasmin Benoit (@ theyasminbenoit ), an alternative model and asexuality activist from Berkshire, England.
I feel so alone
I am asexual due to many reasons. Im 24F, and i feel so alone not having these desires or sex being way too painful for me. It makes me feel secluded and disgusted because even my own boyfriend doesn't understand, im going to have to break it off with him, even though I care deeply about him. Its more than this but just to give you an idea we cant even cuddle without him getting excited. It makes me feel useless. I feel like almost every guy i meet is flirtatious with me when all I want is just cuddles and friendship, and whenever I want a relationship all they talk about is sex. It makes me feel gutted, like im weird or abnormal when i know I'm not. I hate it. It hurts. I like being asexual and not doing any of that stuff, but a lot of people dont understand it in my circle and say I'll "grow out of it" or "it'll stop hurting if you do it enough" when i don't WANT to do it. They don't understand that the desire is rarely there, and if it is, it's because im drunk and cant feel much pain anyway so I dont care if it happens or not. My boyfriend said its like we're basically roomates, and that hurts too. I just want friends who get it, who dont push for that when they know i dont want or like it. I rarely like it, and everyone is making me feel bad for not feeling it often, like there's something wrong with me. I wish I could surround myself with more people who get it, but i dont know where to look. As pathetic as it sounds ive even downloaded friend making apps and almost all they want is FWB so no luck there. I'm lost, and I resent the fact that I'm starting to wish I felt those desires more, because it feels like im being forced to change into something I don't want. To be someone I'm not. Every day it just gets worse and worse, and it doesn't help that I'm shy and suck introducing myself to people without being awkward or saying dumb jokes. I don't know what I'm hoping for in responses to this post, or what I'm even writing this for (i guess to just get it out) but thank you for reading it, I really appreciate it. Rant over, I guess.
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I am asexual due to many reasons. Im 24F, and i feel so alone not having these desires or sex being way too painful for me. It makes me feel secluded and disgusted because even my own boyfriend doesn't understand, im going to have to break it off with him, even though I care deeply about him. Its more than this but just to give you an idea we cant even cuddle without him getting excited. It makes me feel useless. I feel like almost every guy i meet is flirtatious with me when all I want is just cuddles and friendship, and whenever I want a relationship all they talk about is sex. It makes me feel gutted, like im weird or abnormal when i know I'm not. I hate it. It hurts. I like being asexual and not doing any of that stuff, but a lot of people dont understand it in my circle and say I'll "grow out of it" or "it'll stop hurting if you do it enough" when i don't WANT to do it. They don't understand that the desire is rarely there, and if it is, it's because im drunk and cant feel much pain anyway so I dont care if it happens or not. My boyfriend said its like we're basically roomates, and that hurts too. I just want friends who get it, who dont push for that when they know i dont want or like it. I rarely like it, and everyone is making me feel bad for not feeling it often, like there's something wrong with me. I wish I could surround myself with more people who get it, but i dont know where to look. As pathetic as it sounds ive even downloaded friend making apps and almost all they want is FWB so no luck there. I'm lost, and I resent the fact that I'm starting to wish I felt those desires more, because it feels like im being forced to change into something I don't want. To be someone I'm not. Every day it just gets worse and worse, and it doesn't help that I'm shy and suck introducing myself to people without being awkward or saying dumb jokes. I don't know what I'm hoping for in responses to this post, or what I'm even writing this for (i guess to just get it out) but thank you for reading it, I really appreciate it. Rant over, I guess.
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Yo……idk why boobs are so sexualized….
Like….its just boobs
Like, yes, there are ppl who find it sexually appealing ( which is ok, i don’t get why they do. But its still ok )
But sometimes it feels like ppl oversexualized it so much ( and i mean SO MUCH ) to the point that if they see someone who has a bigger chest, they become targeted BADLY
Sir….WHAT????
Like, they dont Even do anything. They would talking abt how they are eating pineapples or just talking about CHEESE. But ppl would go insane abt their chest ( im talking abt social media. I have noticed ppl doing this. Even with other ppls OCs. They would hate on them bc of the characters having a larger chest and then accuse them of fetishizing. The OCs was just drinking coffee btw )
I don’t get why everything is so sexualized.
Feets are sexualized, armpits…SEXUALIZED, and boobs…SEXUALIZED TO THE CORE.
And again, i am not talking abt ppl who find it sexually appealing.
I am talking abt ppl only thinking that boobs are just sexual and sexual ONLY and then shame on others for having a bigger chest bc to them its ‘’ fetishizing ‘’ even though the person was not showing any behaviour of fetishizing bigger chest.
( someone even sexualized a woman BREASTFEEDING THEIR CHILD……ARE YOU KIDDING ME )
Like, dont get me wrong, i do think boobs have an aesthetic appeal. Like in clothes and would fit their shape and all. Or like a renaissance painting.
Heck it could Even be used as pillows! And you can also hear someones heartbeat when lying on them so i don’t mind them.
I just hate how its so oversexualized to the point that ppl don’t see it differently
It makes me go insane bc most ppl are just oversexualizing it so much. Idk if its Even just me tbh
Does anyone relate?
I Hope this post isnt too insensitive. Bc i don’t want it to be. Its just that i have noticed this pattern everywhere and its getting tiring bc of how its so….yk.sexualized.
So yeah, i am very sorry if this post sounded insensitive. Pls let me know if it is so i wont do the same mistake again.
Ty for listening!
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Like….its just boobs
Like, yes, there are ppl who find it sexually appealing ( which is ok, i don’t get why they do. But its still ok )
But sometimes it feels like ppl oversexualized it so much ( and i mean SO MUCH ) to the point that if they see someone who has a bigger chest, they become targeted BADLY
Sir….WHAT????
Like, they dont Even do anything. They would talking abt how they are eating pineapples or just talking about CHEESE. But ppl would go insane abt their chest ( im talking abt social media. I have noticed ppl doing this. Even with other ppls OCs. They would hate on them bc of the characters having a larger chest and then accuse them of fetishizing. The OCs was just drinking coffee btw )
I don’t get why everything is so sexualized.
Feets are sexualized, armpits…SEXUALIZED, and boobs…SEXUALIZED TO THE CORE.
And again, i am not talking abt ppl who find it sexually appealing.
I am talking abt ppl only thinking that boobs are just sexual and sexual ONLY and then shame on others for having a bigger chest bc to them its ‘’ fetishizing ‘’ even though the person was not showing any behaviour of fetishizing bigger chest.
( someone even sexualized a woman BREASTFEEDING THEIR CHILD……ARE YOU KIDDING ME )
Like, dont get me wrong, i do think boobs have an aesthetic appeal. Like in clothes and would fit their shape and all. Or like a renaissance painting.
Heck it could Even be used as pillows! And you can also hear someones heartbeat when lying on them so i don’t mind them.
I just hate how its so oversexualized to the point that ppl don’t see it differently
It makes me go insane bc most ppl are just oversexualizing it so much. Idk if its Even just me tbh
Does anyone relate?
I Hope this post isnt too insensitive. Bc i don’t want it to be. Its just that i have noticed this pattern everywhere and its getting tiring bc of how its so….yk.sexualized.
So yeah, i am very sorry if this post sounded insensitive. Pls let me know if it is so i wont do the same mistake again.
Ty for listening!
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How Do I Know If I Am Asexual?
I'll try to censor myself as best as possible, but just a warning that I will mention sexual things. For a few years now, I've wondered if I'm asexual but can't quite figure it out. I think the hardest part for me is determining if what I feel is sexual attraction or not. I'm on the younger side so I've only had two sexual experiences. The first time was unenjoyable for... other reasons. And the second time I ended up crying to him because I just couldn't get myself to do it(still kind of embarrassed by that). I also am incredibly grossed out (to the point I almost want to gag) by a certain substance that appears when doing sexual activities. As far as what I feel outside of personal experiences, I sometimes fantasize about having sex. However, I know I probably wouldn't want to if an opportunity did actually arise and a lot of days it sounds really unappealing.
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I'll try to censor myself as best as possible, but just a warning that I will mention sexual things. For a few years now, I've wondered if I'm asexual but can't quite figure it out. I think the hardest part for me is determining if what I feel is sexual attraction or not. I'm on the younger side so I've only had two sexual experiences. The first time was unenjoyable for... other reasons. And the second time I ended up crying to him because I just couldn't get myself to do it(still kind of embarrassed by that). I also am incredibly grossed out (to the point I almost want to gag) by a certain substance that appears when doing sexual activities. As far as what I feel outside of personal experiences, I sometimes fantasize about having sex. However, I know I probably wouldn't want to if an opportunity did actually arise and a lot of days it sounds really unappealing.
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I figured this was funny.
I’ve decided that I shall call my particular brand of asexuality something new.
Essentially what it is, is that sex itself is not something I have any interest in, but the fantasy of sex itself, even with people I might know, is something I very much am interested in.
Hypothetisexual. In reality, would I screw you? Absolutely not. Theoretically, would I screw you? Yes.
You must tickle my fancy, of course, but in a world where I wanted to actually have sex? Yes, you are a candidate. Feel honored. Is there any chance of me acting on the desire to screw you? No, because it’s not there.
Idk, I thought it was funny. 😆😂🤣
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I’ve decided that I shall call my particular brand of asexuality something new.
Essentially what it is, is that sex itself is not something I have any interest in, but the fantasy of sex itself, even with people I might know, is something I very much am interested in.
Hypothetisexual. In reality, would I screw you? Absolutely not. Theoretically, would I screw you? Yes.
You must tickle my fancy, of course, but in a world where I wanted to actually have sex? Yes, you are a candidate. Feel honored. Is there any chance of me acting on the desire to screw you? No, because it’s not there.
Idk, I thought it was funny. 😆😂🤣
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