Am I still valid if...

I ONLY wanna....you know to ONLY have kids. I don't wanna do it RIGHT now though

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I mean, Aces do this all the time.
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Origins of Garlic Bread in Ace Culture

Around the early 2010s, Tumblr and other ace spaces were exploding with memes.

Someone joked: “Sex? No thanks, I’d rather have garlic bread.”

It spread like wildfire because it was funny, harmless, and relatable to a lot of aces who felt pressured about sex but would honestly just prefer something cozy and simple.

From there, garlic bread became shorthand for ace joy: choosing what you actually want instead of what society tells you to want.

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🫧Would like a lil clarification I guess 🫧

Okay, so I’m on the ace spectrum and Asexuality is little to no sexual attraction, right? Not physical attraction or sexual desire, right? Attraction ≠ Desire, right? Soooo why do people equate asexuality to absolute incapability of having sex? I try to understand, but I don’t. Someone not feeling sexual attraction towards someone does not mean they can’t/won’t have sex. I’d get it if someone said “ I want a sexless relationship” or “I never want to have sex” but that also doesn’t equal the whole community.

- may delete later ( ◡̀_◡́)ᕤ

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Can I wear an ace of spades if I'm not aromantic?

I'm asexual, but not aromantic. I was going to use the ace of spades, then thought I should probably see if it's got a terrible connotation or something. After some (extremely light) research, I found out that the ace of spades represents aroace people and the ace of hearts represents people who identify as asexual, but not aromantic (with clubs being greyromantics or greysexuals?)

However, I play a lot of card games, and I honestly just like the ace of spades more (both design-wise and as it's usually a higher-ranking card). Spades in general, too, is just my favorite card suit.

I was going to paint it on the back of a jacket, and I kind of just don't feel like wearing a huge heart around? (or cake, garlic bread, etc.) I felt like I should probably clear it with the internet first though, in case it's genuinely an issue and really disrespectful?

(if it's not okay to use spades, I'd appreciate some other ace - symbol ideas for my jacket back? might do the dragon?)

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I want both
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new favourite item of clothing unlocked
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Why were they requiring me to answer questions about my sexuality at just a doctor's appointment

They asked a few demographic questions including my sexuality. This was after I was called back and talking with a nurse, not on paperwork where I could've declined to answer myself. She was putting my answers in a computer. I said "I don't know how to answer that" since I knew my answer may not even be listed (I'm aroace) but she wouldn't move on until I was able to answer so I guess there wasn't any "prefer not to answer" option that she could choose.

What did my sexuality and other demographics have to do with my foot injury and why wasn't I given the option to decline to answer?

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I hope you feel loved and proud of yourself

It took me a while for accepting but i did and I love the way I am

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Why is it so hard for ppl to understand asexuality and aromanticity

I've been asked millions of times if I like my boy bestie. Nah bro I will sell him for like 20 dollars what you talking about 😭 Whenever I tell them I dont catch feelings at all its not possible then they are like you lying like bro what? Also he has a girlfriend why even would I fall even if I wasn't ace. Bro is an ugly peice of shi fr

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r/kinkyaces is back up and running

Hi friends,

Just to say, after a while with no moderators, r/kinkyaces is now unbanned and up and running in case you were there before or in case you are new and want to check it out!

Best,

Your new mod

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Sexn't
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Aegosexuality my beloved
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Asexual/aromantic characters or "monsters" in media

For a college class I'm in, I'm conducting research on representations of asexuality, aromanticism, and heavy allo/amatonormative themes featured in "monster" stories. As an ace person myself (and demiromantic), I'm trying to increase awareness of how monster narratives may impact aro and ace people. Has anyone here, especially aro and ace people, encountered any monster literature or movies (horror, fantasy, and sci-fi included) that features asexual/aromantic (canon, coded, or thematic) characters or monsters? If so, I would be interested in any recommendations you might be able to make and/or any thoughts you’ve had. 

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Thank you for being welcoming

I'm not asexual, but for a few years, I thought I was. Your community has been especially wonderful and accepting, and though I know I'm not asexual, I do miss this. It still keeps me confident in having split attraction (which is why I thought I was ace in the first place!), something I don't always see supported in other queer spaces. I'm glad I knew that was valid from the start of realising I was queer. I will try my best to give back and stand by you defending your rights, defending your place in queer spaces and in the invasion of Denmark (if that's still happening)

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I’m a mess

I am curious if anyone else experiences this- but I cannot be aroused by people in person. Only online. Something about humans turns me off. The conversations and the talk is attractive to me. Exploring online and in VR is fun and exciting for me. But in person. I just have no interest in physical touch or interaction.

I have no desire to have a closed relationship and I’m starting to wonder if it’s possible to be aromantic too? Like because I just have utterly no desire to be loved by or love/ have sex with another person.

But for some reason I love to flirt with people online and am a complete like a nympho-flirt when it comes to like text/speech.

Is this normal? Like being attracted to ideas of sex but not sex itself. Being attracted to doing sexual things in speech and mind but not physically with another person.

is it like common for asexual people to not desire any kind of relationship? Or specifically relationships that have very specific boundaries where you’d borderline hardly even be dating.

I’m in a relationship and I just am constantly pulling my hair stressed because I feel guilty that I’m poly and guilty that I won’t provide sex. My boyfriend said being poly with him would be fine and it really just hasn’t felt that way and I can’t make him understand me and it’s making me kind of miserable. Like desperate to date someone else who is also poly and can leave me alone a lot like I like.

I’m starting to think that maybe the reason this is because I can kind of role play a more feminine role with people through text and VR. In VR I can be exactly the gender I feel in the moment which fluctuates horribly but something that seems the same 24/7 is that I like to acknowledge myself with a female anatomy.

It’s like a huge mess of complicated sex emotions because I have body parts I cant even look at or I get immediately turned off. Being acknowledged as a boy makes me miserable and just like depressed in the moment; and I don’t even mind being a boy. I like being male. I just feel like I’m not right down there because it’s not the right thing. I wonder if that’s why I’m asexual sometimes but I find also there’s a lot of other things that tie into it as well. I feel grossed out by kissing and being touched mostly bothers me even when it’s just cuddling.

I guess this is just a rant because I’ve been feeling really uncomfortable and don’t know who to talk to or what to say.

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Dear Biased Crowd, What's The Verdict? (Ace?)
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Anyone else develop strong platonic "crushes"?

It seems like at almost every stage of my life, I have fallen utterly, head-over-heels for someone with all the intensity of a crush. They (usually "he," if I'm being honest) will consume my thoughts, I think everything they do is cool (and sometimes want to emulate it), I desperately want to talk to them and please them and impress them...except it's not sexual or romantic. In high school, it was a boy in the class ahead of me who I spent three years dearly wanting to befriend. In college, a particular professor whose office hours I haunted and whose approval and mentorship I craved. The last couple of times it's been slightly older authority figures who gave off supportive big brother vibes.

I don't want to say I'm filling a void, exactly, because I'm happy with who I am and consider my lack of inclination towards a "love life" a feature rather than a bug. But I guess in spite of being ace, I contain a certain amount of impassioned admiration and desire for connection that finds expression through other means. Does that resonate with anyone?

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