Does anyone developped intrusive thoughts after finding out abt asexuality?



Bc i did…i dont even wanna talk abt any details of myself. Bc i won’t


Lets say that you never felt sexual attraction in your Life and thought that sexual attraction meant admiration or cuteness aggression.


Until you found out abt asexuality and then realized how you misunderstood sexual attraction your entire Life bc of how ppl described it to you.

And now you started to develop intrusive thoughts abt if you are feeling sexual attraction and are just unconsciously repressing it yayyy.

Or the fact that your brain is telling you how you are forcing yourself not to feel that way for others bc you are forcing yourself or be ace or that you think its ‘’ shameful ‘’ even though you don’t know what could possibly be shameful abt sexual attraction but STILL don’t know how it supposed to feel either


( don’t talk abt how sexual attraction feels pls. I dont want any explanation since sexual attraction is just so confusing and very hard to even know you feel it or not to the point it becomes a crisis. So plsss dont explain it to me )

And now you are sitting there with your brain not giving you a break : D


Soooo, yeah. Who wants to talk abt it?

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Aces have family!
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I am making queer coat of arms, finally got around to adjust and give full colors for Ace, still looking for ideas/ advice/ suggestions for Aro-Ace. Anyone got anything good?

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I am making queer coat of arms, finally got around to adjust and give full colors for Ace, still looking for idead7 advice / suggestions for Aro-Ace. Anyone got anything good?

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So true lol
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came out to my family, didn't really go as I expected.

Came out to my family last night, and this is how they responded

Dad: "Well, cats exist." For context, my dad is a vet. And apparently, cats are such f*cked up animals that in almost every part of the textbook content on mammals should come with a side note that says 'except cats'. Idk if that's true or he's just exaggerating. Him being a dog person might have sth to do with it as well. But yeah. I guess in his book a human not having any sexual attraction isn't any weirder than a mammal being able to drop from great heights and being fine. Which does make sense.

However, he did go on Google to 'research' asexuality and decided it was fate that I was born on the year of the dragon.

Mom was surprised that I wasn't bi or lesbian. "You always said you thought (female princess character) was pretty!" "When I was like 3, mom, and I'm ace, not blind!" "Oh."

My brother, a psychology major just went into his room and brought out his textbook, opened to the part of Freud and generously handed me a pen, saying "Stab him to death- you already killed his theory, might as well finish the job."

My family is weird, but I love them.


\+) my family is pretty conservative, so I was expecting some kind of backlash or having to explain myself. I mean I did, but only because my parents had never heard of that term. My brother helped, said he had a classmate who was aro.

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what’s the freakiest explicit song you vibe too even though you’re maybe sex repulsed?

i’m currently vibing so bad at “house tour” by sabrina carpenter (the queen of freakyland) and i’m sex repulsed lol

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is he ace
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Is there a possibility?

There is a possibility that I might like someone being aroace. I'm not saying that I'm going to like several people. I mean, I mean that at some point in my life I could like someone.

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I joined AceSpace. Wish me luck!

I am 42 have finally realized I am ace after decades of failed relationships and thinking there was something wrong with me. And I am excited to have found this community that is so incredibly welcoming, so I feel like I am not alone in my Journey.

That said, I have been struggling to find people in person who are ace whom I can add to my circle. I’ve told a few people about my revelation and they mostly have been supportive but confused about it. I want friends, and ultimately a relationship, with people who really understand.

I’m hoping AceSpace can help me with that. It’s not giving me a ton of results, only 6 people or so in a 100 mile radius. But I’m hopeful patience will win out here.


Anyone have positive experiences they can share?


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Asexual/ARomantic Looking for friends or possible relationship.
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I tried sx but heck nah, I felt like I betrayed myself :')
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I hate my queen bed 😭

When I finally moved out, I went shopping at Ikea with my family to buy a bed. And I got pressured to get a queen sized bed. They said "trust me you want a big bed". But why?!?! I'm not having one night stands! There's no demand for ace guys in this dating market so who is the other side of the bed for?! I just want to play Elden Ring on a 65 inch screen and eat sushi, but because of this giant ass bed in my awkwardly designed studio apartment, there's no space for a TV or couch!

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