My boyfriend wants sex more often and I can't give it to him
Hello, I am new here and I would like you to help me inform myself more about what is happening to me, what I have been informing myself about and what is closest to what I feel is a gray asexuality.
I am 27 years old and whenever I have had a partner I have felt that sex is not necessary in the relationship, I feel happy only with the romantic connection, on very rare occasions to be honest 1 or 2 times a month I feel like having sex. This has always brought me problems with my partners, because of course they want to have sex every day. There was a moment where I thought it might be that I wouldn't like men and I decided to try a woman and I still didn't feel sexual attraction.
My current partner, so to speak, is too hot and no matter how much I would like to, I cannot respond to him in the same way.
This is causing me problems because I love him and want to have a family with him, but he doesn't understand how I never have desires and he has even asked me if I feel disgust for him and I don't, I just can't find a way to explain to him what I have always felt and for him to understand me.
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Hello, I am new here and I would like you to help me inform myself more about what is happening to me, what I have been informing myself about and what is closest to what I feel is a gray asexuality.
I am 27 years old and whenever I have had a partner I have felt that sex is not necessary in the relationship, I feel happy only with the romantic connection, on very rare occasions to be honest 1 or 2 times a month I feel like having sex. This has always brought me problems with my partners, because of course they want to have sex every day. There was a moment where I thought it might be that I wouldn't like men and I decided to try a woman and I still didn't feel sexual attraction.
My current partner, so to speak, is too hot and no matter how much I would like to, I cannot respond to him in the same way.
This is causing me problems because I love him and want to have a family with him, but he doesn't understand how I never have desires and he has even asked me if I feel disgust for him and I don't, I just can't find a way to explain to him what I have always felt and for him to understand me.
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Gynaecologist??
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Okay, so..idk how to start this, sorry. Whenever someone mentions going to the gynaecologist I feel a deep sense of disgust and feel borderline nauseous.
Every time the topic is brought up I imagine just being looked and poked at. It makes me feel uncomfortable and something I don’t think I could ever handle.
I just wanted to see if this is normal within the ace community? Or if others experience this visceral reaction to a something I would deem to be a normal part of life.
It’s a reaction I genuinely struggle to control. Ther are def other factors to this(I think so anyway), but I feel this could also be involved with being ace?
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Heyyy!
Okay, so..idk how to start this, sorry. Whenever someone mentions going to the gynaecologist I feel a deep sense of disgust and feel borderline nauseous.
Every time the topic is brought up I imagine just being looked and poked at. It makes me feel uncomfortable and something I don’t think I could ever handle.
I just wanted to see if this is normal within the ace community? Or if others experience this visceral reaction to a something I would deem to be a normal part of life.
It’s a reaction I genuinely struggle to control. Ther are def other factors to this(I think so anyway), but I feel this could also be involved with being ace?
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How I learned to stop lying to myself and love being an Ace Sex meh.
Ok saw a similar post telling their journey with the Ace spectrum and so here is mine.
Warning I talk about sex but nothing graphic
At about age 12 I was staying at a cousin's house and I wanted to read so the only thing I hadn't read was the playboy. It needed less pictures and more articles. I told myself I just preferred the real thing over pictures.
When I was in my early 20s I realized I didn't really care about having sex I wanted the cuddles and discussions. I told myself I just enjoyed making the women happy. I was also really lonely and I wanted connections and happy women tend to stay longer.
In my mid 20s I was hanging out with this woman and she mentioned having nipple piercings I had never seen those before and so she showed me. I examined the piercings while asking questions about the process and how easy was it to change them and how did you keep the holes clean.
It took a therapist to help me realize that woman probably went home frustrated and very confused.
I eventually learned at 31 that my idea of attraction wasn't sexual and a new word asexual. I finally stopped lying to myself and looked back with new eyes.
I had the talk with my partner about being ace and for reasons I don't understand she has stuck with me even after 10 years.
So that's my journey I guess.
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Ok saw a similar post telling their journey with the Ace spectrum and so here is mine.
Warning I talk about sex but nothing graphic
At about age 12 I was staying at a cousin's house and I wanted to read so the only thing I hadn't read was the playboy. It needed less pictures and more articles. I told myself I just preferred the real thing over pictures.
When I was in my early 20s I realized I didn't really care about having sex I wanted the cuddles and discussions. I told myself I just enjoyed making the women happy. I was also really lonely and I wanted connections and happy women tend to stay longer.
In my mid 20s I was hanging out with this woman and she mentioned having nipple piercings I had never seen those before and so she showed me. I examined the piercings while asking questions about the process and how easy was it to change them and how did you keep the holes clean.
It took a therapist to help me realize that woman probably went home frustrated and very confused.
I eventually learned at 31 that my idea of attraction wasn't sexual and a new word asexual. I finally stopped lying to myself and looked back with new eyes.
I had the talk with my partner about being ace and for reasons I don't understand she has stuck with me even after 10 years.
So that's my journey I guess.
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Its liberating to be confident in what i am
i have struggled a good part of my life with this but When i did accept it finally, it honestly was really liberating. It might sound like an over stretch haha but it is what it is. I love myself and I want you to love yourslef too
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i have struggled a good part of my life with this but When i did accept it finally, it honestly was really liberating. It might sound like an over stretch haha but it is what it is. I love myself and I want you to love yourslef too
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“Actual” Asexuals think our label is a random thought and we are gray sexuals .
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My kid identifies as ACE. I have concerns
My adult kid tells me they're aro/ace. I have no problem with this in general, any more than if they were some other letter in the LGBTQIA string. They're mid-level autistic if that makes any difference.
I do have one concern, though. My wife is my companion much more than a sexual partner. Sex is part of what we do as a couple but, when you're our age, marriage is much more about cooperation & companionship than it's about our genitalia.
How many asexuals have companionship relationships? My worry isn't that they're not going to have sex. My worry is they'll simply be lonely.
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My adult kid tells me they're aro/ace. I have no problem with this in general, any more than if they were some other letter in the LGBTQIA string. They're mid-level autistic if that makes any difference.
I do have one concern, though. My wife is my companion much more than a sexual partner. Sex is part of what we do as a couple but, when you're our age, marriage is much more about cooperation & companionship than it's about our genitalia.
How many asexuals have companionship relationships? My worry isn't that they're not going to have sex. My worry is they'll simply be lonely.
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Really enjoying this book I'm reading (The Lost War), this caught me by surprise
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My first pride month gear came in a little late. Still happy though!
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Found a homophobic slur in Portuguese next to an ace pride flag in WPlace
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So asexuals. If there is an annoying creature that keeps telling you ‘’ You are missing out’’ bc of your sexuality. Then SHOW THEM WHAT THEY ARE MISSING OUT ON
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Making something for my QPR wife !
Technically she is my gf but we like husband and wife more to call one another. We have known one another for two years, going on three and have been dating for around six months. This year is our final year together of school and I am making a scrap book/journal for her to keep.
Best part is that she doesn't know about it and I will only give it to here after the school year ends. Also, it will have at least one entry for everyday when I see, text, or talk to her.
She is the kindest, sweetest, smartest, most beautiful person I have ever met. She doesn't force me into doing anything I don't want to, helps me when I need it, always there for an intellectual conversation, and keeps me going. There is nothing more I could ask for.
Her wits drew me in, and the more I got to know her, the more I realized my love was in front of me this whole time.
I would love to marry her someday, but since we are still in school, I don't want to rush it. Maybe after we finish college and after I get to know her family more and vice versa.
Just thinking about her makes me so happy and at ease. I had to share this with someone because I don't want any of my friends to know and my family wouldn't understand because they don't think I'm queer.
I will probably rant about her more here since I am ace and I want others to know that someone out there will love you no matter if you are ace or not.
Have a good day/night my fellowed asexuals!
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Technically she is my gf but we like husband and wife more to call one another. We have known one another for two years, going on three and have been dating for around six months. This year is our final year together of school and I am making a scrap book/journal for her to keep.
Best part is that she doesn't know about it and I will only give it to here after the school year ends. Also, it will have at least one entry for everyday when I see, text, or talk to her.
She is the kindest, sweetest, smartest, most beautiful person I have ever met. She doesn't force me into doing anything I don't want to, helps me when I need it, always there for an intellectual conversation, and keeps me going. There is nothing more I could ask for.
Her wits drew me in, and the more I got to know her, the more I realized my love was in front of me this whole time.
I would love to marry her someday, but since we are still in school, I don't want to rush it. Maybe after we finish college and after I get to know her family more and vice versa.
Just thinking about her makes me so happy and at ease. I had to share this with someone because I don't want any of my friends to know and my family wouldn't understand because they don't think I'm queer.
I will probably rant about her more here since I am ace and I want others to know that someone out there will love you no matter if you are ace or not.
Have a good day/night my fellowed asexuals!
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