Anyone else dislike masturbation yet still need to do it 😒

I don't know about most asexuals but I dislike masturbation. Yet Im still a human and have libido.

I really don't like being horny. I don't know if most people do.

So in order to avoid getting horny I masturbate. I also am dopamine deficient and have trouble falling asleep so I got into the habit of doing it regularly to feel something and fall asleep.

Im trying to figure out a system or something so i can not be horny and masturbate as little as possible.

Does anyone else feel like this? Or experience something similar? Any ideas, or thoughts would be great! Thanks!

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Asexuality and having children

When I was explaining my Aceness and my best friend’s Aceness to my mom, she questioned about me having kids.

“How are you gonna have kids if you’re asexual?”

I myself don’t currently want kids but am not against doing the No Pants Dance to make it happen, it’s just not something I’m too concerned with.

What are your thoughts about this?

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Definitely worth it
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Ask for some help and advice

Hi there, I come from China and graduated from the University of Leeds in the UK last year, where I majored in Film Studies.

Last year, my supervisor asked me to choose a topic for my dissertation. Due to the increasing films featuring LGBTQ+ characters, but still scarcely mention asexuals, I feel it's a bit unfair, and I decided to write for asexuals. When I was doing the relevant research, I found that both the academic and media industries lack information about asexuality. Therefore, at that time, I came up with the idea of applying for a doctoral degree to continue my research in this field. I hope to make some contribution to our community. After all, if we don't voice for ourselves, then who would?

However, because Film Studies research belongs to the humanities area, which is very limited in financial support in this area and at the same time, my status as an international student makes my prospects of obtaining the funding slimmer still. I really want to keep my research going and voice for ourselves in both academic and film, I hope I can make an impact in the cultural area. But affording the PhD is unbearable for me. So here I am, I want to ask some advice, like is there any chance I can get funding from some charity group or others? Or do you have any idea to help me out with this issue?

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Am I asexual?

Hey Reddit, this is my first post, kinda nervous..
I’m 17, female, bisexual, and finished with high school. But I’ve never really had a boyfriend and I’ve only had a long distance girlfriend back in 2020.
Recently I was talking with my friends and we were sharing our guilty pleasures and they all agreed on masturbation but mine was watching dumbass mukbangs at night..so while they’re wanking it I’m watching this random woman I’ve never met eat candied chipotle—pathetic i know.
Anyway, I’ve been thinking a lot about if im asexual or aromantic or whatever it’s called and I just dont know.
When I was 14 I used to read a lot of Wattpad and would get the tingles, but never acted on them. I think sometimes nowadays I get them but when I try to masterbait I just get awkward and feel a sense of guilt and disgust. I’m not religious, nor have I ever been taught that sex was wrong, but I did used to get very uncomfortable with the topic and sometimes still do. My parents were never romantically physical because my father wasn’t the greatest person and they had an extremely messy divorce.
The last time I talked to a boy was almost a year ago, since then I haven’t had any romantic feelings for anyone else. In my life I think I’ve had maybe 5 REAL crushes but I do know I DID want something with someone at one point and have had dreams about sexual fantasies.
Sorry if this like super TMI btw, I just literally have nobody to talk to about this because I feel like such a loser and it’s just an uncomfortable topic for me.
Can yall help me though? Ask me any questions if it helps with what conclusion you come up with, please I NEED help.


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I'm a jester and I hate it!

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Am I Asexual?

If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.

If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.

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Just learned a fact about how most people feel regarding sex. Anyone else think the same?

Feeling confused. I was having a conversation with a friend about how the way sex is portrayed in media (How sex drives everyone, characters in movies have sex multiple times a week, sex is super important, etc.). I mentioned how I found it is unrealistic that people would do it that often. Apparently, most people do have sex often like this. I thought it was portrayed in this manner to be comedic because having sex that often is ridiculous, but apparently it is to be relatable. Am I the only one who thought this?

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What type of asexuality is this?

I know this is on the spectrum but it would be cool to know where I belong on it.

Basically, I still get attracted to the body of a female (I’m male) but I do not experience any form of sexual desire, sex drive, or even interest in sexual activity at all and find the idea completely repulsive and disgusting. I even find the concept of p*rn absolutely disgusting.



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Denmark Invasion on wplace, anyone?

Let’s invade Denmark on wplace!
I thought about a big Flag or something.
Other ideas very welcome.

https://wplace.live/

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Can I be Asexual if I’ve experienced attraction before?

So growing up, I thought something was wrong with me because I had 0 attraction to guys (and girls) when all my friends were talking about crushes and that. I just faked a lot because I didn’t know what else to do and felt broken. I didn’t experience physical attraction to someone until I was maybe 18 or 19, and it was only a brief moment, then it passed. Then again once when I was 24, then it passed. I’ve dated and slept with people and I definitely have a super high drive, but I just generally don’t experience attraction.

The possibility of being Asexual at all is a new concept to me because for a long time, I thought that it meant that you also don’t have a drive or libido, since two Aces I know are that way. Bottom line: I’m not sure where I stand since I’ve experienced attraction in my life. I’m just super confused and want answers, and hopefully someone who understands me.

Thanks! 🖤🩶💙💜

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"CompSex"

I was thinking about how many of us in the queer community use the term "CompHet" as a short hand for Compulsory Heterosexuality, or the social pressure to be in a heterosexual relationship.

Ace-specs are already subjected to this pressure, but we also experience additional social pressure even in spaces without CompHet. I can't tell you how many lesbians have offered to "fix" me.

I came across the term "compulsory sexuality" in a paper on asexual-affirming healthcare. Up to 50% of healthcare providers hold a bias of compulsory sexuality.

So I hereby propose we use the term "CompSex" to describe the ubiquitous social pressure to be sexual.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

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Am I aroace or just asexual 🙏🙏

Hi I know this may sound weird, but I’ve been questioning my sexuality for a while. So uhm yeah this rant is basically the title. Someone from the aroace community suggested that I ask this here so this is the rant:

I know that I don’t like men romantically or sexually, and I think if I would have to go with being involved with someone it would definitely be a woman.

I’ve looked at woman before and thought „waow she’s pretty” and I’ve had dreams / daydreams about cuddling with woman before. But here’s where it gets weird for me, I have a friend ( I’ll call her v) and I’ve been in a relationship with her before but we decided we’re better friends. Idk if I had feelings for her ( or still do but I’ll get into that later ) because I think I may have ejust adored her. I always thought that she was very pretty and that her art was amazing. Like shes genuinely beautiful.

Now, I think that about all my friends but she was different, like idk how to explain it, I don’t think it was a crush tho, because I never wanted to do much with her ( like really romantic stuff, just hugs and forehead kisses ). Unfortunately these feelings have resurfaced and idk if I’m not aroace or if there is a term to describe this.

Holy rant my bad 🙇🙇 and if you know anything about this please help me in going through a crisis 🙏🙏

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I’m asexual and aromantic. Here’s what university was like for me
https://www.thetimes.com/uk/education/article/student-guide-asexual-hook-up-culture-bq2cbdpgf?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Reddit#Echobox=1754999861

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I’m asexual and aromantic. Here’s what university was like for me
https://www.thetimes.com/uk/education/article/student-guide-asexual-hook-up-culture-bq2cbdpgf?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Reddit#Echobox=1754999861

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I literally cannot differentiate horny and tired.

So when I occasionally get horny (usually just randomly or related to ovulation cycle), I almost always assume I'm just really tired and go to take a nap. Then I can't sleep, so I try masturbating instead. Like, I truly cannot tell the difference between the feelings. Does anyone else feel this way?

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I'm tired of Compsex!

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Global warming. Global warming. Global warming.
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My mom is homophobic

My mom has been homophobic my whole life and even before that according to my older siblings. She says that Obama and gay people are the devil in a derogatory way and says to read the bible because according to her interpretation it says God dosen't love gay people and it is a sin to be anything except straight. I came out to her as autosexual and i said it means i love myself in a romantic and sexual way and she says "everybody love themself". And i said not in that way and she calls me crazy and blames it on my schizophrenia. I told her i like boys too because I am also pansexual and she says thats why you went to the mental hospital and that it comes from schizophrenia. I tell her God loves gay people and people are born like that, its not a choice. Then she says it is a choice that people think like that and that no one is born gay. Then she says thats why God made Adam and Eve and thats why gay people are the devil because God did not make gay people but he made only man and woman to love eachother in that way because of Adam and Eve... My older sis said it is pointless to talk to her about pretty much anything and I agree, my mom is a narcicist and is racist, acephobic and homophobic, she hates pretty much anyone who is not heterosexual and believes that not being straight is going against God. She makes the rest of the family so upset and angry including me every day. Should I just give her the silent treatment for the rest of my life, what should I do? She'll force me to talk to her by taking away my belongings, etc. I can't stand her bullcrap.

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Starting a relationship with an asexual, thoughtful girl — first time for me with someone like this, and it’s her first relationship ever. Need advice!

Hey Reddit, I’m in a new situation and could really use some advice or perspective.

I recently got closer to a girl who’s asexual (or at least believes she is), very thoughtful, and someone who carefully thinks things through before making decisions. We’ve been friends and talk a lot.

At one point, she joked about us getting married, and I joked back that we should at least go on a couple of dates first. Then she gave me a challenge: if I ever dreamed about us dating, that would mean we’re actually dating — no dates needed.

I told her I had that dream, and she said that means we’re now officially dating.

This isn’t my first relationship, but it would be my first with someone asexual and with her kind of thoughtful, measured nature. It’s also her very first relationship ever. Since she initiated it, it feels real but also a bit overwhelming.

I’m looking for advice on what to expect and how to approach this thoughtfully and respectfully. Has anyone been in a similar situation or have insights on building a meaningful relationship like this?


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