I know this might sound weird but I love you guys

Just wanted to tell yall how much i love this community

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Something I learned about surgeries I wished I'd known sooner

I recently learned hospitals that train medical students also have had a history of doing un-consensual pelvic exams and prostate exams on those who are under anesthesia before surgery. The surgery doesn't have to be related to the area being examined, although I can't say for oral surgery whether patients often wear gowns. It's been passed since the early 2003s for some states and more recently 2020s for others banning this without explicit consent being signed by the patient. Nonetheless it's scary how I never knew this was a thing some trainees had been given permission to do under supervision of the surgeon.

As someone with cptsd from sexual abuse (AFAB) this is insane to not know about till later in my life. I would look up whether you're in the states or not if you are protected by needing signed consent because apparently not all states (US) require hospitals to ask permission before doing these procedures without your knowledge. Request medical records of post surgeries since they still list what is done even if they never told you every procedure taken that wasn't what you thought the surgery entailed

I don't mean to fear monger, I just want to share in case anyone would want to look into it themselves and be ready to be extra clear what you're comfortable with people doing to you, and to stand your ground on HIPPA rights.

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Idk seems a bit asexual tho
https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomeyuri/comments/1mmyeog/equestria_girls_i_mean_shes_got_you_there/

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Ace bracelet!
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Join r/PanromanticPansexual
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Anyone else dislike masturbation yet still need to do it 😒

I don't know about most asexuals but I dislike masturbation. Yet Im still a human and have libido.

I really don't like being horny. I don't know if most people do.

So in order to avoid getting horny I masturbate. I also am dopamine deficient and have trouble falling asleep so I got into the habit of doing it regularly to feel something and fall asleep.

Im trying to figure out a system or something so i can not be horny and masturbate as little as possible.

Does anyone else feel like this? Or experience something similar? Any ideas, or thoughts would be great! Thanks!

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silly little thing my ace friend said to me

before meeting said friend, i genuinely didn’t understand asexuality. so one day, i asked my friend “how do you know you don’t like sex if you’ve never had it?” they said:

“how do you know you wouldn’t like hugging a cactus? you’ve never done it! GO HUG A CACTUS!”

i understand now

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Anyone else dislike masturbation yet still need to do it 😒

I don't know about most asexuals but I dislike masturbation. Yet Im still a human and have libido.

I really don't like being horny. I don't know if most people do.

So in order to avoid getting horny I masturbate. I also am dopamine deficient and have trouble falling asleep so I got into the habit of doing it regularly to feel something and fall asleep.

Im trying to figure out a system or something so i can not be horny and masturbate as little as possible.

Does anyone else feel like this? Or experience something similar? Any ideas, or thoughts would be great! Thanks!

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Asexuality and having children

When I was explaining my Aceness and my best friend’s Aceness to my mom, she questioned about me having kids.

“How are you gonna have kids if you’re asexual?”

I myself don’t currently want kids but am not against doing the No Pants Dance to make it happen, it’s just not something I’m too concerned with.

What are your thoughts about this?

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Definitely worth it
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Ask for some help and advice

Hi there, I come from China and graduated from the University of Leeds in the UK last year, where I majored in Film Studies.

Last year, my supervisor asked me to choose a topic for my dissertation. Due to the increasing films featuring LGBTQ+ characters, but still scarcely mention asexuals, I feel it's a bit unfair, and I decided to write for asexuals. When I was doing the relevant research, I found that both the academic and media industries lack information about asexuality. Therefore, at that time, I came up with the idea of applying for a doctoral degree to continue my research in this field. I hope to make some contribution to our community. After all, if we don't voice for ourselves, then who would?

However, because Film Studies research belongs to the humanities area, which is very limited in financial support in this area and at the same time, my status as an international student makes my prospects of obtaining the funding slimmer still. I really want to keep my research going and voice for ourselves in both academic and film, I hope I can make an impact in the cultural area. But affording the PhD is unbearable for me. So here I am, I want to ask some advice, like is there any chance I can get funding from some charity group or others? Or do you have any idea to help me out with this issue?

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Am I asexual?

Hey Reddit, this is my first post, kinda nervous..
I’m 17, female, bisexual, and finished with high school. But I’ve never really had a boyfriend and I’ve only had a long distance girlfriend back in 2020.
Recently I was talking with my friends and we were sharing our guilty pleasures and they all agreed on masturbation but mine was watching dumbass mukbangs at night..so while they’re wanking it I’m watching this random woman I’ve never met eat candied chipotle—pathetic i know.
Anyway, I’ve been thinking a lot about if im asexual or aromantic or whatever it’s called and I just dont know.
When I was 14 I used to read a lot of Wattpad and would get the tingles, but never acted on them. I think sometimes nowadays I get them but when I try to masterbait I just get awkward and feel a sense of guilt and disgust. I’m not religious, nor have I ever been taught that sex was wrong, but I did used to get very uncomfortable with the topic and sometimes still do. My parents were never romantically physical because my father wasn’t the greatest person and they had an extremely messy divorce.
The last time I talked to a boy was almost a year ago, since then I haven’t had any romantic feelings for anyone else. In my life I think I’ve had maybe 5 REAL crushes but I do know I DID want something with someone at one point and have had dreams about sexual fantasies.
Sorry if this like super TMI btw, I just literally have nobody to talk to about this because I feel like such a loser and it’s just an uncomfortable topic for me.
Can yall help me though? Ask me any questions if it helps with what conclusion you come up with, please I NEED help.


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I'm a jester and I hate it!

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Am I Asexual?

If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.

If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.

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Just learned a fact about how most people feel regarding sex. Anyone else think the same?

Feeling confused. I was having a conversation with a friend about how the way sex is portrayed in media (How sex drives everyone, characters in movies have sex multiple times a week, sex is super important, etc.). I mentioned how I found it is unrealistic that people would do it that often. Apparently, most people do have sex often like this. I thought it was portrayed in this manner to be comedic because having sex that often is ridiculous, but apparently it is to be relatable. Am I the only one who thought this?

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What type of asexuality is this?

I know this is on the spectrum but it would be cool to know where I belong on it.

Basically, I still get attracted to the body of a female (I’m male) but I do not experience any form of sexual desire, sex drive, or even interest in sexual activity at all and find the idea completely repulsive and disgusting. I even find the concept of p*rn absolutely disgusting.



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Denmark Invasion on wplace, anyone?

Let’s invade Denmark on wplace!
I thought about a big Flag or something.
Other ideas very welcome.

https://wplace.live/

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Can I be Asexual if I’ve experienced attraction before?

So growing up, I thought something was wrong with me because I had 0 attraction to guys (and girls) when all my friends were talking about crushes and that. I just faked a lot because I didn’t know what else to do and felt broken. I didn’t experience physical attraction to someone until I was maybe 18 or 19, and it was only a brief moment, then it passed. Then again once when I was 24, then it passed. I’ve dated and slept with people and I definitely have a super high drive, but I just generally don’t experience attraction.

The possibility of being Asexual at all is a new concept to me because for a long time, I thought that it meant that you also don’t have a drive or libido, since two Aces I know are that way. Bottom line: I’m not sure where I stand since I’ve experienced attraction in my life. I’m just super confused and want answers, and hopefully someone who understands me.

Thanks! 🖤🩶💙💜

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