capable of getting an orgasm. The woman I met with didn't look like on the photos but wasn't ugly either and I really tried to have fun and cum. Although it went a bit better than during the sex with my now ex-girlfriend, as I wasn't instantly going flaccid upon entering the pussy, I wasn't able to cum and my penis wasn't fully hard, more like 70% hard. The sex felt physically tiring and even though I felt a bit of physical pleasure in my penis when fucking her, it wasn't enough.

Now, for the last part, I want to talk a bit of my mental health. For years I was wondering if I have depression. I talk about this because apparently depression can influence libido or something. After meeting some people with depression (my ex-gf being one of them), I realized I probably don't have depression, however I suspect I may have dysthymia, which is somewhat similar (just longer and lighter, I think some people call it high-functioning depression). Next week I'm seeing a psychiatrist for the first time to confirm or deny that. I'm not sure how relevant is that to this topic but I wrote that just in case it's relevant.

Soo... what am I? What should I do? For the time being my plan is to see the psychiatrist and if he confirms I need meds, I will be taking them and if they actually work and make me happier, I will pay for sex again and see if anything changed. I guess..

PS. my testosterone levels are healthy

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I’ve seen a lot of attractive naked people, but just don’t understand how people get off to nudity alone.

I’m for sure aromantic, generally very sex-repulsed & likely gray-ace. I’ve had one enjoyable sexual experience in my life, I posted about it here. I’m AFAB NB and the only group I’ve ever felt any sexual attraction to ever is femme women.

I definitely do kinda understand the theoretical reasons why people like sex. Biological imperative mediated by culture & personal development, makes sense. What I really don’t understand, why do so many people find nudity that big of a deal? It makes sense that it’s escalation from being clothed toward sex… but why is there such a huge difference between bikini & naked? It seems disproportionate. Not even just in arousal or personal perception/behavior, but culturally & legally too. Why does that tiny escalation in the same context (eg a beach) make the difference between being fined (or arrested in some countries) & being totally culturally acceptable?

I’ve been in healthcare since I was 16, med student since 17 (non-western country with undergraduate entry programs), and paramedic since 18. I’ve probably seen thousands of naked people. Given my paramedic role is in the military, I do see a more physically athletic & conventionally attractive naked people than others in healthcare. Outside of healthcare, due to military experience (which there is a very high rate of military service in my country so this is very common), I have showered in the same room as dozens of other naked showering women — members of my preferred sex. Nothing from it at all.

I recently started my dermatology rotation in medical school as well. My first placement on this rotation is the skin screening program, which involves a lot of looking at naked people (to find skin cancer). Yesterday alone I saw 38 patients. Because this placement is at an aesthetic derm clinic marketed to young people, some of them quite conventionally attractive. Cannot fathom getting anything from that.



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Am I asexual?

I'm writing here because I'm not an expert on the subject (and sorry for the grammar, English is not my language). I don't think I experience sexual attraction, or at least I don't understand how it works. I like engaging in sexual activity, I really enjoy getting pleasure from it, I also like reading stuff about sex and got excited, but I don't think of other people that way. I can't imagine myself having sex with others even though I want to, I've never had thoughts like "I want to have sex with that person". When I try to imagine other people in that way, it feels out of place and almost disgusting. Sometimes it's as if my brain is trying to figure out how or what it feels like to be sexually attracted to others, but this desire for satisfaction seems contradictory(?). I don't know how to explain it, and I don't know if I fit the spectrum...

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Sex positive asexuality discrimination

I could just scream right now. Over the past day, ive been getting berated and downvoted on a post i made where in the comments i mentioned being a sex positive asexual. I dont understand why so many people cant get it through their head that just because i dont look at people and experience attraction doesnt mean i cant have the good feels in my pants. The ignorance is just beyond me. This one redditor in particular commented no less than five times that im “mislabelling” myself and “confused” and im actually aromantic (ive been in love many, many times so trust me im not). I know reddit is a place full of trolls and bigots but its honestly just exhausting and ruined my day.

Thanks for listening to my vent

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A sign at a pizza’s place
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Does anyone have this meme but for us?
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Alternatively: "What if I asexually reproduced on the ace pride bed?"
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So I found these memes and decided to share 😂

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I know this might sound weird but I love you guys

Just wanted to tell yall how much i love this community

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Something I learned about surgeries I wished I'd known sooner

I recently learned hospitals that train medical students also have had a history of doing un-consensual pelvic exams and prostate exams on those who are under anesthesia before surgery. The surgery doesn't have to be related to the area being examined, although I can't say for oral surgery whether patients often wear gowns. It's been passed since the early 2003s for some states and more recently 2020s for others banning this without explicit consent being signed by the patient. Nonetheless it's scary how I never knew this was a thing some trainees had been given permission to do under supervision of the surgeon.

As someone with cptsd from sexual abuse (AFAB) this is insane to not know about till later in my life. I would look up whether you're in the states or not if you are protected by needing signed consent because apparently not all states (US) require hospitals to ask permission before doing these procedures without your knowledge. Request medical records of post surgeries since they still list what is done even if they never told you every procedure taken that wasn't what you thought the surgery entailed

I don't mean to fear monger, I just want to share in case anyone would want to look into it themselves and be ready to be extra clear what you're comfortable with people doing to you, and to stand your ground on HIPPA rights.

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Idk seems a bit asexual tho
https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomeyuri/comments/1mmyeog/equestria_girls_i_mean_shes_got_you_there/

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