Can someone please explain to me why whenever I try to explain to other people that I am specifically demisexual, they almost always immediately say "oh so you're normal then?"

No. If demisexuality was "normal", I don't think hookup culture would be as commonplace as it is.

Honestly why I started trying to just say "asexual". It covers all the bases and I don't have to explain myself any or much further than that.


But has any other demis had this happen to them?

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Bubble you can't say that
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Allô
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Looking for Lavender Marriage in Canada

Hi, I’m a male in my late twenties who currently live in Canada, I like guys, my parents are VERY traditional and homophobic, so I want to find a female asexual person, to get married. If you also have pressure from family and their neighborhoods, please text me and we can have a marriage.

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My Asexuality or rather Nonsexual isn’t the only reason I’ve been rejected.

I’m hoping this helps people. (The NSFW tag isn’t working. Somebody contact the mods about it then remove this parentheses part.)


I’ve also been rejected for my acne.

I’m turning 33 in September, 2025 and I still get acne. But these days it is on my chest, back and maybe where the ear piece of my glasses sit in the bit if skin in between my eye and ear.

So clearly my gripe on acne anymore is the location of acne.

I quit mascara at 30. I still own concealer for the parts of my face nobody can see.

Also…

Faces aren’t symmetrical; but and they do go to the right a bit. Like duh that’s what that part of it all is. But my facial structure goes to the left. That is a REJECTED moment too all the time.

I guess I’m just one of those unlucky with my face and body as I also have mild autism; the Forrest Gump autism. Where certain life things I can’t do the doing part of no matter how much I try and want to and know how to.

Yeah I guess if I ever do find my cis masculine butch asexual lesbian woman it will be interdependent and on the outside look like a parent child dynamic although not a parent child dynamic.


But I digress.

I don’t care what my face looks like anymore as long as I’m more clear skinned than not and I have my short short buzzy hair cut.

I guess some of us will just always have acne in some way till death from puberty.

Remember just because is and are as is and are doesn’t mean choosing.

In other words; give people a chance. Who knows maybe they are great just don’t look and sound like it. Of course until you’ve known them for ages.


I get sensitivity issues as to why I skip out on the sex part of being with another. I also just don’t want to. I learned about periods and the safety aspects of that stuff and sex when I was a kid and called it a day.

I will kiss as long as not touching my face. I will hug long as from behind and not any of the ones where your face is smooched in. I will cuddle long ass not the spooning way.

But to reject others for the most mundane things is baffling.








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Coming Out & Cutting Off

So, I've recently came out to three friends after somewhat recently discovering I was ace, didn't really specify any labels or whatever, I just told them I was asexual.


It went well! One was curious and asked me how all the different attractions worked, and the other two were indifferent and just chill about it. The first one did say "maybe it's too soon to say that you're aromantic and asexual", I then affirmed him that it's not, and he understood (he means well, he's just always curious and questions literally everything).

A while ago I made a post in the aromantic subreddit about a different friend of mine, who's very unapproving of me being aromantic, long story short: He wants to fix me, randomly asks if I've "fixed my problem yet", have had multiple arguments about it, and one where he snapped, yelled out that "IT'S AN ISSUE!" and said I need a miracle from God to fix me.

In one of the arguments, I suggested I might be asexual as well (this was before I knew), and he said, "Oh nah, if you're asexual I'm cutting you off." Or something along those lines.

Funnily enough, few months later I realize I'm asexual and I highkey find it funny. Besides his clear disapproval and ignorance, he's overall a weird and childish dude anyway, basically an immature male pass-a-round.

So yeah, oddball is gonna get cut off.

Peace over anything.

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Friends telling me I can't think I'm asexual because of a single kiss

But like, it wasn't that. It was every other aspect of my life, the fact I didn't enjoy the kiss at all felt like the last puzzle piece I needed. And now I'm doubting myself because everyone are saying 16 is way to young to label myself, and that choosing this label means I'm not gonna let myself ever try anything even if I'm not actually asexual. Plus no one seems to be able to actually explain what sexual attraction is, which is just confusing. What do I do

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Is physical arousal + different types of attraction = sexual attraction? ( im sorry )



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Im sorry for the execive asking i am just confused and i am genuinely curious.


Idk if i asked this before. I forgot. Pls tell me if i did or not so i would know.



Soooooooo yeah, ppl in my enviorment says its sexual attraction is you have any physical arousal while being attracted to someone ( non-sexually )

And others says its not.



Idk, maybe it depends for some ppl.


Sooo yeah, i dont wanna make a long post sooo like i said on the title. Does physical arousal + different types of attraction = sexual?


I would like to know

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Have a curious question but it might be TMI. And i am sorry
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What non-romantic and non-sexual aspects attract you to people?

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I apologise for my post. I am sorry to every ace and allo community

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Can asexuals technically have kinks?

So I'm asexual. I've known since I was 17 (that's when I found out what it's called) and I'm 23 now and still a 100% sure of my sexuality. I've never wanted to have sex with anyone, I've never felt sexual attraction to anyone. But I do masturbate. Now here comes my dilemma. I have things that sorta turn me on? Or that I like in the porn I consume, right... So for example kinks like exhibitionism and stuff. But does that count as HAVING that kink? Because I'm asexual, I would NEVER want to have sex in public, but watching porn where that happens is so hot. Basically, all the kinks I like (long list) are only a turn on if it's other people participating and I have nothing to do with it so are they technically MY kinks?? Bro like I'm so confused. Whenever people ask me if I have kinks, idk what the hell to tell them. Like if I say "yes, I have a piss kink" they would think that I'd need to participate in that to cum or something, BUT I DON'T, like it's literally the opposite - I MUSTN'T be participating in order to cum. I'm scared of telling people what I like in case they'll misunderstand... All of my kinks are theoretical rather than practical, I guess.

If anyone wants to give their two cents on this, I'd gladly read you replies.

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how often do you experience sexual attraction

Hi so im not sure im asexual, i have never been in a relationship or had sex so i can’t figure out my stance on it. I has never been a problem for me that i’m still a virgin (19F) and i think even if i find a partner i wont have sex right away. But my question is do you feel sexuall attraction? I don’t know if i have ever been sexually attracted to anyone, generally i’ve only had maybe 2 “crushes” but i don’t get those either. I rarely ever even feel aroused or when i do i can just ignore it. I can’t even imagine what sexual attraction would be other than like thinking “i would hit”. Is that it?

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