Am I the only one who finds the classic asexual community inside jokes unfunny?😅
Absolutely no hate to people who enjoy it but shit like, "I like garlic bread, not sex" or like the being obsessed with dragons or whatever just feel like they're trying too hard to be quirky and random😭😭 I already feel like I'm not taken seriously BECAUSE I'm asexual, if anyone associated me with that kind of humor because I'm ace I think I'd die. I'm sorry for being a fun hater🙏
(Also yes I do like garlic bread and dragons but that's besides the point💔)
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Absolutely no hate to people who enjoy it but shit like, "I like garlic bread, not sex" or like the being obsessed with dragons or whatever just feel like they're trying too hard to be quirky and random😭😭 I already feel like I'm not taken seriously BECAUSE I'm asexual, if anyone associated me with that kind of humor because I'm ace I think I'd die. I'm sorry for being a fun hater🙏
(Also yes I do like garlic bread and dragons but that's besides the point💔)
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Is there any other ways to show vulnerability towards someone without it being sexual? If so, could you give me any examples?
The reason why i am asking this is bc of how ppl percieve vulnerability in a relationship or in sexual attraction.
I always Heard that sexual attraction and sex itself is a way to show vulnerability towards someone by letting your guard down or show your weakness.
Or that its the only way to be Closer to someone.
But what if you dont want that kind of vulnerability?
Not like an ‘’ oh i am scared of this vulnerability and weakness. Im not showing it ‘’ more of a ‘’ i just dont feel this vulnerability. I don’t feel any kind of weakness in it and i don’t need it ‘’
Kind of way.
And i just never understood it.
I used to think there are many ways to show vulnerability. By emotions, by Joy and Even by expressing it but now i don’t know.
Idk if its bc my enviorment is oversexualized or if its just me.
But it always feels like ppl keep telling you that you should be vulnerable towards someone that way or else you don’t love them enough. Or that its the only way to show this love and if you dont have that kind of vulnerability then you are selfish and never loved them.
I dont think this kind of vulnerability is bad. Its okay for ppl to want it or Even like it. Its okay to want it too
But it just feels like ppl force you to feel that kind of vulnerability, and tells you that there are no other kinds of vulnerability then to just show your naked body and show your weakness by orgasm.
But you dont feel that kind of vulnerability or weakness towards sex/someone else.
You feel it differently but its shown as not enough or just not even vulnerable.
And anytime you hear what ppl hear you just dont know how you should be feeling towards someone. How you should feel vulnerable towards someone. Or how you love.
Now you think there is just only one way of vulnerability and nothing else.
Even though you wish there were, everyone tells you otherwise to the point that you give up.
Its tiring. Idk if there are Even non-sexual kinds of vulnerability. I Hope so.
Is there any kind of way to show vulnerability towards someone without it being sexual?
If so, is there any examples? I would like to know
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The reason why i am asking this is bc of how ppl percieve vulnerability in a relationship or in sexual attraction.
I always Heard that sexual attraction and sex itself is a way to show vulnerability towards someone by letting your guard down or show your weakness.
Or that its the only way to be Closer to someone.
But what if you dont want that kind of vulnerability?
Not like an ‘’ oh i am scared of this vulnerability and weakness. Im not showing it ‘’ more of a ‘’ i just dont feel this vulnerability. I don’t feel any kind of weakness in it and i don’t need it ‘’
Kind of way.
And i just never understood it.
I used to think there are many ways to show vulnerability. By emotions, by Joy and Even by expressing it but now i don’t know.
Idk if its bc my enviorment is oversexualized or if its just me.
But it always feels like ppl keep telling you that you should be vulnerable towards someone that way or else you don’t love them enough. Or that its the only way to show this love and if you dont have that kind of vulnerability then you are selfish and never loved them.
I dont think this kind of vulnerability is bad. Its okay for ppl to want it or Even like it. Its okay to want it too
But it just feels like ppl force you to feel that kind of vulnerability, and tells you that there are no other kinds of vulnerability then to just show your naked body and show your weakness by orgasm.
But you dont feel that kind of vulnerability or weakness towards sex/someone else.
You feel it differently but its shown as not enough or just not even vulnerable.
And anytime you hear what ppl hear you just dont know how you should be feeling towards someone. How you should feel vulnerable towards someone. Or how you love.
Now you think there is just only one way of vulnerability and nothing else.
Even though you wish there were, everyone tells you otherwise to the point that you give up.
Its tiring. Idk if there are Even non-sexual kinds of vulnerability. I Hope so.
Is there any kind of way to show vulnerability towards someone without it being sexual?
If so, is there any examples? I would like to know
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How do you deal with the “You’re not asexual, you just haven’t had good sx yet.” comments?
Hi, I (19F) just recently discovered that I’m on the asexual spectrum. (I’ve known something was off for years but couldn’t place my finger on it) I always try to explain it to my friends and even my parents, but they always make the excuse of “you just need to have good sx, then you’ll change your mind.” and it’s absolutely infuriating. Is there a good way to explain it to them? Should I ignore it and cope with it? I know they’re all good people and everything, but it is so frustrating for people to say that and then tell me I’m never going to love someone correctly because I wont be intimate with them. I’m currently in a very happy relationship and no one I know (besides my partner) believes that you can succeed in love without sxual intimacy. Either that or the classic “absolutely nothing is better than sx so you’re just lying to yourself.” Everyone I’ve told about my asexuality brings it up a lot now, and I can’t seem to live without these comments tearing me down.
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Hi, I (19F) just recently discovered that I’m on the asexual spectrum. (I’ve known something was off for years but couldn’t place my finger on it) I always try to explain it to my friends and even my parents, but they always make the excuse of “you just need to have good sx, then you’ll change your mind.” and it’s absolutely infuriating. Is there a good way to explain it to them? Should I ignore it and cope with it? I know they’re all good people and everything, but it is so frustrating for people to say that and then tell me I’m never going to love someone correctly because I wont be intimate with them. I’m currently in a very happy relationship and no one I know (besides my partner) believes that you can succeed in love without sxual intimacy. Either that or the classic “absolutely nothing is better than sx so you’re just lying to yourself.” Everyone I’ve told about my asexuality brings it up a lot now, and I can’t seem to live without these comments tearing me down.
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Thank you fellow Asexuals and of the like.
When I first discovered this sexuality subreddit I didn’t know I’d I’d be accepted and especially due to the kind of lesbian I am.
But thank you so much for being so nice and kind.
It isn’t easy and I do my best with what I can.
But I am so appreciative of you guys. 🥹
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When I first discovered this sexuality subreddit I didn’t know I’d I’d be accepted and especially due to the kind of lesbian I am.
But thank you so much for being so nice and kind.
It isn’t easy and I do my best with what I can.
But I am so appreciative of you guys. 🥹
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there are plenty of men that do not want an underdressed conventionally attractive woman
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I thought we were friends...
My male "friend" asked me if I had a boyfriend and I was like, "Didn't I tell you that I'm not attracted to people...?" and he said "What about me?" "I'm not attracted to people.". He then says "Damn, thats harsh"...and then has the audacity to tell me I'm "Very Pretty". WTH, I thought we were friends.
Context: I came out to him as asexual a month ago. I am AFAB/Genderfluid.
Update: I blocked his number.
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My male "friend" asked me if I had a boyfriend and I was like, "Didn't I tell you that I'm not attracted to people...?" and he said "What about me?" "I'm not attracted to people.". He then says "Damn, thats harsh"...and then has the audacity to tell me I'm "Very Pretty". WTH, I thought we were friends.
Context: I came out to him as asexual a month ago. I am AFAB/Genderfluid.
Update: I blocked his number.
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Hospital asked me my sexuality
I said "asexual."
The person taking my information (I think some sort of social worker?) said "I don't know what that is so I'm just going to write straight."
I just wanted to leave by that point so I didn't argue but it was an interesting experience.
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I said "asexual."
The person taking my information (I think some sort of social worker?) said "I don't know what that is so I'm just going to write straight."
I just wanted to leave by that point so I didn't argue but it was an interesting experience.
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Dating an Asexual partner
Ive been with my partner f65 for about 2+ years. I'm m70 and a widow. At first we were platonic friends looking for company. Not exclusive. I was dating other women and looking for a possible partner to share my final life with. Not a marriage partner. As time went by my partner began having "feelings for me". One day she asked for exclusivity in our relationship. I agreed. Early on in our relationship she said she was Asexual. While I knew the term, I did not have much knowledge on the subject. We have had sex off an on through the relationship.
Sex we have, is not the affectionate sex I was use to from my wife. So this was new territory. Through the relationship I always thought by showing love and care she would begin to "come around". That was further from the truth. As I pushed further, she pushed back. Things like hand holding, embracing each other and conversations about love sent her hiding for cover. This caused me some angry thoughts and made me upset with thoughts of breaking away. I am still hanging in there but questioning why she wants a partner.
Recently our conversation have been about her attachment issues and whether she will ever meet me in the middle. Deep down I do love her and she does acknowledge her love for me but whether that will be enough time will tell. The best thing I can say about our relationship is it feels like I've done a jig saw puzzle only to find a piece missing.
Thanks for letting me speak. BTW it's a very complex subject.
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Ive been with my partner f65 for about 2+ years. I'm m70 and a widow. At first we were platonic friends looking for company. Not exclusive. I was dating other women and looking for a possible partner to share my final life with. Not a marriage partner. As time went by my partner began having "feelings for me". One day she asked for exclusivity in our relationship. I agreed. Early on in our relationship she said she was Asexual. While I knew the term, I did not have much knowledge on the subject. We have had sex off an on through the relationship.
Sex we have, is not the affectionate sex I was use to from my wife. So this was new territory. Through the relationship I always thought by showing love and care she would begin to "come around". That was further from the truth. As I pushed further, she pushed back. Things like hand holding, embracing each other and conversations about love sent her hiding for cover. This caused me some angry thoughts and made me upset with thoughts of breaking away. I am still hanging in there but questioning why she wants a partner.
Recently our conversation have been about her attachment issues and whether she will ever meet me in the middle. Deep down I do love her and she does acknowledge her love for me but whether that will be enough time will tell. The best thing I can say about our relationship is it feels like I've done a jig saw puzzle only to find a piece missing.
Thanks for letting me speak. BTW it's a very complex subject.
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Falling for my asexual friend
i have this friend who of a few months who is someone i love talking to and feel so safe, heard , and seen by. i have begun developing a crush on her, and i know she is is asexual and i am too but i am homo romantic and i am not entirely sure if she’s open to anything in the realm but i don’t wanna scare her off bc i would hate more than anything to risk losing her entirely than acting on my crush .. the emotional closeness we have is more important to me than any physical affection which i want but its not at the forefront of a relationship for me .. i don’t know im just having a hard time bc i like her so so much and i guess i just am looking for advice with how to approach the situation in a way that can protect my heart while not losing our friendship.
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i have this friend who of a few months who is someone i love talking to and feel so safe, heard , and seen by. i have begun developing a crush on her, and i know she is is asexual and i am too but i am homo romantic and i am not entirely sure if she’s open to anything in the realm but i don’t wanna scare her off bc i would hate more than anything to risk losing her entirely than acting on my crush .. the emotional closeness we have is more important to me than any physical affection which i want but its not at the forefront of a relationship for me .. i don’t know im just having a hard time bc i like her so so much and i guess i just am looking for advice with how to approach the situation in a way that can protect my heart while not losing our friendship.
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Does anyone feel attraction but not get turned on by anything?
I used to call myself asexual but I definitely feel attraction. The only issue is that I feel no arousal response when around someone attractive.
Does anyone else experience anything like this?
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I used to call myself asexual but I definitely feel attraction. The only issue is that I feel no arousal response when around someone attractive.
Does anyone else experience anything like this?
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Can someone please explain to me why whenever I try to explain to other people that I am specifically demisexual, they almost always immediately say "oh so you're normal then?"
No. If demisexuality was "normal", I don't think hookup culture would be as commonplace as it is.
Honestly why I started trying to just say "asexual". It covers all the bases and I don't have to explain myself any or much further than that.
But has any other demis had this happen to them?
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No. If demisexuality was "normal", I don't think hookup culture would be as commonplace as it is.
Honestly why I started trying to just say "asexual". It covers all the bases and I don't have to explain myself any or much further than that.
But has any other demis had this happen to them?
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