If you're a man, or attractive, you can't be asexual.
It just makes sense, right? Well no, but my mother seems to believe men who are asexual are either rapists or have erectile dysfunction. No possibility of asexuality being a thing. And an old man told me (idc if you see this), and I quote, "But I'm attracted to you, and I'm not attracted to asexuals." KABOO, my asexuality just disappeared. Yours should too if someone is attracted to you. Just try it guys, it'll cure your years of suffering😃👍 Then both tell me they're not aphobes. Mhm, sure.
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It just makes sense, right? Well no, but my mother seems to believe men who are asexual are either rapists or have erectile dysfunction. No possibility of asexuality being a thing. And an old man told me (idc if you see this), and I quote, "But I'm attracted to you, and I'm not attracted to asexuals." KABOO, my asexuality just disappeared. Yours should too if someone is attracted to you. Just try it guys, it'll cure your years of suffering😃👍 Then both tell me they're not aphobes. Mhm, sure.
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Does anyone else just assume that no one is attracted to them?
I recently realised that I kind of just assume that no one is attracted to me. This isn’t in a self deprecating way either, it’s not because I think I’m ugly or anything, I just kind of assume people don’t feel that way about me.
Is this a common ace experience? Do you guys feel the same way?
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I recently realised that I kind of just assume that no one is attracted to me. This isn’t in a self deprecating way either, it’s not because I think I’m ugly or anything, I just kind of assume people don’t feel that way about me.
Is this a common ace experience? Do you guys feel the same way?
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“A relationship without sex is just a friendship.” Why do people say this? I’m very confused.
I already posted something like this in another sub but I’m still confused the rationale behind why people say this. Why does “stimulating someone’s junk” equate to “romantic love and a strong bond” and why do some allo people consider it MANDATORY criteria to be considered a relationship? So in some allo people’s minds, in order for my relationship to be considered a romantic one, I must stimulate her crotch frequent enough for their liking? Such as daily or almost daily? (Because we all know if they go too long without sex they start saying it feels like they’re just roommates.) Well, let’s say I did stimulate her crotch daily. What if it didn’t even feel good to her and she hates the sensation? Is that still considered a romantic relationship to allo people? Or does she have to enjoy it? I don’t know, this talking point is confusing me and making my head hurt.
Me not inserting my penis into my girlfriend’s vagina magically means it’s not a relationship? What if my penis got cut off in a horrible accident? Are her and I not a relationship anymore? “Well you guys could still do oral sex.” Okay well what if my hands and tongue got chopped off in a horrible accident too? Are we not together anymore, do we just have to be friends and divorce each other and call off the wedding?
What if I have sex with my worst enemy? Are we dating now? Is that how this works?
Why is me interacting with her genitals a requirement for being in a relationship in a lot of allosexual peoples’ minds? I’m scratching my head here with that one. So you’re telling me, it doesn’t matter how much I have invested in her, it doesn’t matter how much we love each other, it doesn’t matter how loyal we are to each other, or how much romance and affection we have, if I don’t touch her crotch and/or she doesn’t touch mine, that somehow magically means we aren’t in a relationship? 🤨
I don’t understand why touching a genital is a requirement for being in a relationship in some people’s minds. I will never understand that for as long as I live. I guess none of those people would stay loyal to their partner if someone awful happened to their partner, like full body paralysis, or their partner needing a hemicorporectomy done to save their life. That’s sad to think about.
I thought the meaning of love was to sacrifice, be considerate of the other person, commit, and put forth effort to show you care, I didn’t think the meaning of love was “put your penis in my vag”. I must have missed that part in the English dictionary when it’s describing the definition of love. I didn’t see that part.
If someone stimulating my crotch is supposedly a requirement to be in a romantic relationship, then I don’t think I want a relationship. I’ll just stay single. I can stimulate my own crotch just fine.
If anyone can make sense of this and enlighten me on why people say this I would be appreciative because I’ve had several people tell me my relationship isn’t “real” because I don’t checks notes massage her clitoris? I guess? Not sure why that’s a requirement, what about just a normal back/shoulder massage? Her and I would both much rather do that.
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I already posted something like this in another sub but I’m still confused the rationale behind why people say this. Why does “stimulating someone’s junk” equate to “romantic love and a strong bond” and why do some allo people consider it MANDATORY criteria to be considered a relationship? So in some allo people’s minds, in order for my relationship to be considered a romantic one, I must stimulate her crotch frequent enough for their liking? Such as daily or almost daily? (Because we all know if they go too long without sex they start saying it feels like they’re just roommates.) Well, let’s say I did stimulate her crotch daily. What if it didn’t even feel good to her and she hates the sensation? Is that still considered a romantic relationship to allo people? Or does she have to enjoy it? I don’t know, this talking point is confusing me and making my head hurt.
Me not inserting my penis into my girlfriend’s vagina magically means it’s not a relationship? What if my penis got cut off in a horrible accident? Are her and I not a relationship anymore? “Well you guys could still do oral sex.” Okay well what if my hands and tongue got chopped off in a horrible accident too? Are we not together anymore, do we just have to be friends and divorce each other and call off the wedding?
What if I have sex with my worst enemy? Are we dating now? Is that how this works?
Why is me interacting with her genitals a requirement for being in a relationship in a lot of allosexual peoples’ minds? I’m scratching my head here with that one. So you’re telling me, it doesn’t matter how much I have invested in her, it doesn’t matter how much we love each other, it doesn’t matter how loyal we are to each other, or how much romance and affection we have, if I don’t touch her crotch and/or she doesn’t touch mine, that somehow magically means we aren’t in a relationship? 🤨
I don’t understand why touching a genital is a requirement for being in a relationship in some people’s minds. I will never understand that for as long as I live. I guess none of those people would stay loyal to their partner if someone awful happened to their partner, like full body paralysis, or their partner needing a hemicorporectomy done to save their life. That’s sad to think about.
I thought the meaning of love was to sacrifice, be considerate of the other person, commit, and put forth effort to show you care, I didn’t think the meaning of love was “put your penis in my vag”. I must have missed that part in the English dictionary when it’s describing the definition of love. I didn’t see that part.
If someone stimulating my crotch is supposedly a requirement to be in a romantic relationship, then I don’t think I want a relationship. I’ll just stay single. I can stimulate my own crotch just fine.
If anyone can make sense of this and enlighten me on why people say this I would be appreciative because I’ve had several people tell me my relationship isn’t “real” because I don’t checks notes massage her clitoris? I guess? Not sure why that’s a requirement, what about just a normal back/shoulder massage? Her and I would both much rather do that.
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I’m at work right now and my coworkers are discussing LGBT topics
Like I said my coworkers are talking about LGBTQ+ topics and are in a tangent saying
« Gay and lesbian are alright but the rest is just too much »
I don’t want to get into the debate cause I don’t want to share my sexuality with these people, I can tell what they say is mostly because they don’t know what they’re talking about rather than hate but still
They just mentioned asexuality being ridiculous, I kinda liked this :
« people saying they’re ace, stop living in One Piece »
That’s a new one I haven’t heard before lol
Anyway just wanted to share how uncomfortable I suddenly am. I wouldn’t have known they have such thoughts if the topic didn’t come up, they look like good people normally
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Like I said my coworkers are talking about LGBTQ+ topics and are in a tangent saying
« Gay and lesbian are alright but the rest is just too much »
I don’t want to get into the debate cause I don’t want to share my sexuality with these people, I can tell what they say is mostly because they don’t know what they’re talking about rather than hate but still
They just mentioned asexuality being ridiculous, I kinda liked this :
« people saying they’re ace, stop living in One Piece »
That’s a new one I haven’t heard before lol
Anyway just wanted to share how uncomfortable I suddenly am. I wouldn’t have known they have such thoughts if the topic didn’t come up, they look like good people normally
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Heyyy is it possible to....
Be queerplatonic but also not mind being in a relationship because I would rather have like close friends and roommates (yes plural I'm ambigamous) but I also wouldn't mind being in a relantionship but it's not a BIG goal I'd rather have friends
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Be queerplatonic but also not mind being in a relationship because I would rather have like close friends and roommates (yes plural I'm ambigamous) but I also wouldn't mind being in a relantionship but it's not a BIG goal I'd rather have friends
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Tell me this isn't an accurate depiction of how Ace folks process singlehood vs allo folks?
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The asexual community just formed the coolest band in existence! What’s our name?
Rock on, dudes 🤘
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Rock on, dudes 🤘
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How do you even come out as aegosexual 😭
It's so awkward to explain for me. I wanna know if anyone else feels the same. 😭😭
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It's so awkward to explain for me. I wanna know if anyone else feels the same. 😭😭
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After years of contemplating how to explain, this is what I have. I present: how to counter "asexual relationships = friendship/roommate".
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When I was younger I thought “sleeping with” meant real sleeping
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why do my friends seem to think I'm ace?
basically whenever conversations turn to like people being attracted to others or like having crushes and things people always say "I'm pretty sure you're asexual.." but I don't understand. Like I jerk off to porn like anyone else, I can appreciate people who are objectively attractive without being attracted to them myself (for multiple reasons, such as they have a partner so I know feelings would be a waste of time and impractical or they're attractive and I'm aware of it cause like they have traits of a conventionally attractive person e.g. skinny, small nose, glasses that suit their face shape etc or things that personality-wise could make them attractive e.g. kind, caring, friendly, sarcastic, etc. without feeling an attraction to them myself) but I've had crushes in the past and I get aroused like other people but like...idk if 1. If I don't know a person how can I be attracted to them, I know nothing of their personality and 2. isn't it normal to not want to fuck everybody of the opposite gender? like genuinely it stresses me out because I wanna start dating properly but if people assume I'm asexual what if the people I date think that I'm not attracted to them because I don't show an immediate interest? Also how can I say I have or haven't felt sexually attracted to a person if there's no way to relate it to other feelings I've had until I've had it...idk it's just something that goes on and off of my brain from time to time and it's always stressful when I realize it even though ik they aren't looking down on me sometimes it feels like they are.
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basically whenever conversations turn to like people being attracted to others or like having crushes and things people always say "I'm pretty sure you're asexual.." but I don't understand. Like I jerk off to porn like anyone else, I can appreciate people who are objectively attractive without being attracted to them myself (for multiple reasons, such as they have a partner so I know feelings would be a waste of time and impractical or they're attractive and I'm aware of it cause like they have traits of a conventionally attractive person e.g. skinny, small nose, glasses that suit their face shape etc or things that personality-wise could make them attractive e.g. kind, caring, friendly, sarcastic, etc. without feeling an attraction to them myself) but I've had crushes in the past and I get aroused like other people but like...idk if 1. If I don't know a person how can I be attracted to them, I know nothing of their personality and 2. isn't it normal to not want to fuck everybody of the opposite gender? like genuinely it stresses me out because I wanna start dating properly but if people assume I'm asexual what if the people I date think that I'm not attracted to them because I don't show an immediate interest? Also how can I say I have or haven't felt sexually attracted to a person if there's no way to relate it to other feelings I've had until I've had it...idk it's just something that goes on and off of my brain from time to time and it's always stressful when I realize it even though ik they aren't looking down on me sometimes it feels like they are.
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This homie said out loud what a lot of conservative men are thinking. This text can make you asexual.
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From the antinatalism community on Reddit: Need your womb, not your love
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