Do those who identify as ACE not feel pleasure from there … parts?

I’ve often heard asexuals describe sex as a “chore” I guess my question is does the sensation not feel pleasurable ? I understand there are asexuals who masterbate bs those who don’t , I suppose my question is aimed at those who don’t. But I welcome answers from both . Hope I don’t offend I only wish to better understand. Does the sensation feel like any other? Just rubbing skin? Or is it like a solely just sensitive area that you don’t enjoy being touched like if you don’t like being tickled?

Edit : Their*

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Feeling hopeless

I’m putting this on my burner account cause I feel sort of embarrassed.

I’m 30F and want a partner, not someone that I have to talk to all the time or be with all the time just someone who I can enjoy life with and share that connection. I want someone who is also my best and we get so comfortable with each other we can share the silence, that type of connection.

I feel like it’s never going to happen. I’ve tried the dating apps and they lead to nothing, I’ve tried Acespace and even someone I was talking to on there doesn’t seem to be interested. Do the rest of you feel like they are just never going to meet the right person?

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Pinterest blessed me with this gem
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ACE main character in a book.
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Took this last weekend for my gf while at Pride in Lyon, but just realized you guys might like it :D
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"Because fries are a date worth going on". Advertisement of the Swiss potato association. I think we are the target audience 😊
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Belated birthday present from my aunt!
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The Hunting Wives

so glad I didn’t decide to start The Hunting Wives bc according to other subReddits it’s just sex scene after sex scene. Like bro how is that even a plot? I hate shows like that. You can insinuate two ppl are intimate together without us needing to see strangers bang on a screen. Makes me feel annoyed and I’d probably just end up skipping over it, but apparently with this show I’d just end up fast forwarding through the whole thing 😆

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Have you ever enjoyed feeling sexual attraction or tension towards someone, yet never had an interest in going further than that?



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NSFWStill Confused

I thought I had figured out that I’m Asexual, but recent events have me reevaluating. Some background: I am a 39 year old woman who is blind and has other less obvious disabilities. I have dated men in the past (about 15-20 years ago), but never felt an actual romantic connection with a man. I had intercourse with these men, but took no pleasure in it at all. I only tried it multiple times, because friends/family said I just hadn’t found the right person yet. But, I am unwilling to sleep with every guy just to find the right one, first because I don’t like the experience and also because following that line of logic might mean sleeping with every man on Earth just to find the right one. :) I’m absolutely not going to do that.
While I have not been in a romantic nor a sexual relationship with a woman before, I have experienced limited attraction to a woman’s voice or her personality, but I never pursued those feelings any further. In fact, I have experienced the same kind of limited attraction to a few men, but as you read above, those relationships didn’t go past the initial engagement in sex.
I should also add that I have some medical conditions which are probably contributing to though probablyly not the cause of my problems with sex. In short, I had a brain tumor removed when I was 10 years old which messed up my Pituitary, sexual and emotional hormones among others. As a teenager, I took hormone replacements to get me through puberty, but stopped the hormones as a young adult due to unpleasant side effects. So, the good news is that I am able to live a relatively normal life, but the bad news is that the hormones I can’t produce play a pretty significant role in dating and relationships.
Anyway, I was so happy to recently learn about the Ace orientation, so I tried dating apps again for the first time in 15 years. I’ve chatted with many men, but haven’t been feeling any attraction beyond the initial burst of endorphins when a conversation starts. So, I wondered if I was fishing in the wrong gender pond.
So, I switched my profiles to Lesbian and eventually started chatting with a 20 year old woman. Unfortunately, she came as a package deal with her mother; which was weird, but I tried to just go with it. Anyway, the three of us texted back and forth for several hours across two days. But, instead of talking about our interests and life goals, those two ladies pulled me into a pretty intense sexting sessions. I expressed my discomfort with it, but they managed to convince me to stay in the conversation at least for a while.
And, here’s the really weird part, those text messages actually had me feeling a bit turned on. However, the rational part of my mind and my guilt at what I was doing, quickly extinguished those physical feelings, because even though it felt physically good, the rest of me felt pretty repulsed by it. So, after realizing that those feelings of disgust weren’t going away, I put a hault to the entire encounter.
That brings me back here, asking all of you for help and advice. Am I asexual because of my feelings of disgust? Or, Am I an embarrassed closeted lesbian who needs to get over my self-recrimination and feelings of discomfort?
Ultimately, I’m glad I explored lesbian relationship at least a little bit, because it seemed to reveal that I am more romantically drawn to women, but now I am even more confused about whether or not I am Asexual too. Please provide me with some wisdom and advice to help me through this literal identity crisis.
I will ask follow up questions after receiving responses from this community. Thanks in advance for your assistance.

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I'm really pissed

Getting harrased bc I have an opinion :)... As some of you may know r/actuallyasexual is just a community of asexuals hating on their own community. I defend that asexuality is a spectrum was told "that's bs". I just feel like the ace community has become toxic for NO REASON. Idk I'm just pissed, thoughts?

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Pride festival in Vancouver today, got to make my own pin.
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What's the longest amount of time you've been in a romantic or queerplatonic relationship?

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Why, just why
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Ace moment
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I hate being horny so much
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Someone in the chat thing Reddit has must of been lurking because they sent me this about my asexuality … WHAT

First they sent me a paragraph that sums up who I want in a partner and such.


“I wish for a Butch lesbian woman—a cis, asexual-nonsexual soul—who wants me as I am. Who doesn’t care how my pieces fit together as long as I’m good, trying, and true. She handles what I can’t, without resentment or judgment. She has no friends either, because she doesn’t need them. She just wants a life with me, quiet and steady, grateful that we can do anything at all together”

I do wish for that.


Then they said something out of sheer WHHHYYYYY


“But I don’t think you deserve it. Mild autism makes you dumb”


The hell is wrong with some of you people?

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Asexual pirate 🏴‍☠️
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How being GreyAce feels like for me
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i feel like im not doing enough to get a partner

i am a 14 year old asexual demipamromantic and i dream of having a partner every day but i feel like im not being social enough to find a partner.

i know that im young and will probably find someone im the future but i feel like if i dont learn how to be social now i will have a hard time finding people in the future im trying to make more friends but because i was never social before im having a hard time making friends or even going to social places.

any advice?

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