PSA

Sex repulsed is not the same thing as sex negative. If you don't want to see people taking about being repulsed by sex or genitals, don't go into the threads that are flaired as sex repulsed, that's literally what the post flairs are for.

That's all. Have a wonderful day.

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First Kiss [Part 2: The Council]

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How do you feel whenever you kiss a partner or friend? Do you get the "butterflies" sensation? Or is it just regular sensual contact?



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What's a common misconception regarding asexuals and aromantics?

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I already know I’m asexual but…

I already know I am asexual whether I use the term and say it in person in real life or not.

As the gay I am and with the also fact that I have mild autism…

I know I’ll probably never find my other cis nonsexual butch woman half; one who I can be completely romantic with all while living life and the outside of that looking in looking like a parent child dynamic when so not that…

But I do think it would be nice.

Never having friends doesn’t help me either; but knowing my mild autism isn’t my fault; it helps a bit.

I don’t quite understand the other asexual terms like allo as one example of the others. I’m pure asexual. Not because of any reason really other than that my body and sensitivity when being full adult to my lower half does not mix. I don’t particularly want to look like I put a bad product on my face or chapped lips type of red. I don’t want to deal with it.

What are your thoughts on your part of all that is Asexuality; or in my preferable case… Nonsexual?

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How to come to terms with the fact that you might never find a partner?

I'm sex-averse to pretty much all sex acts, I also have a libido of literally 0. However I'm monogamous and when I've vented about this in the past all I've gotten was "well some aces have sex" which like okay? Not in my situation lol, or "well then have an open-relationship" Which honestly makes me feel like I'm inherently undesirable/have to be penciled into my partner's schedule with others rather than with a life partner/in a one-sided situation where I'm committed to one person - but they aren't committed to me. I'm also not aromantic so I have no desire for a QPR, and the "just find a friend group" advice was always so unsatisfactory since romantic relationships =/ friendship. I'm 21F, I've never tried dating before and honestly I'm considering just giving up before even starting. At the same time I'm deeply upset I may never find a life partner. Sorry if this was too much of a ramble lol.

I'm aware of the ace dating sub but ngl i'm skeptical of long-distance, online, relationships.

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Everyone need to know this
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Trying to figure out if I’m just anxious or actually on the Ace spectrum

I (25 afab enby) have been trying to figure myself out since the start of the year in earnest. I’ve been medicated off and on for anxiety since I was 13, and I’ve been struggling the last few years to figure out if I’m actually on the ace spectrum or if my anxiety is the barrier preventing me from pursuing relationships. I’ve had one sexual partner, and initially I thought it was going to be a one night stand. She was also on the ace spectrum, and we met during pride month at a bar. After spending 17 hours together, I figured we had run our course since we lived 6 hours away from one another. In actuality, we long distance dated for about 6 months. She was the one who initiated this, and I did find myself attracted to her and enjoyed some of our sex. I also appreciated that when I expressed wasn’t enjoying it, she stopped and was okay with just cuddling. We ended up just fizzling out, but have chatted off and on the last few years if we end up in the other’s city.
I find folks attractive and do get aroused thinking of other people, but when I see real potential of the folks I “like” liking me back, I immediately panic and think through the possibilities of a relationship and nip it in the bud. I think through a combination of my body image, our compatibility, and our existing relationship. It happened a few times with guys when I was younger, and recently happened with another afab person whom I deeply care about and think is attractive. I thought for a while that it was my comp het, but now that it’s also happening with women/queer folk I think I need to figure it out.
I love my independent life. I am financially independent, I have a dog who is my child, and a great healthy community of folks who reciprocates the energy I put into it. I don’t feel like I’m missing out as the token “single” of my crew. I think in order for me to want a partner long term, they’d have to significantly add to my existing life. That being said, I do enjoy drunk make out sessions with strangers/my friends. I am self sufficient in the bedroom on a regular basis, and cuddling brings me joy. Just trying to figure out if my anxiety is due to self esteem issues or something else.

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I just feel so confused

I don't want to be in a relationship with anybody I feel like the times where I had a crush on somebody was because I was bored and I needed some entertainment but one time this crush almost turned into a relationship but I didn't want one I wasn't attracted to the person and it's just other people as well like I like the idea of me like talking to them and stuff like that but when it comes to like being lovey-dovey and stuff like that.
It's disgusting and I don't want to do it and I just like genuinely do not see a future with somebody being married and even having kids I don't want to do any of that.

It would be nice to have somebody to call my partner but I'm very confused because at the same time I don't want a partner so I don't know if I'm a sexual aromantic or if I'm just an avoidant attachment.

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I’m really confused right now…

I find certain individuals attractive but not sexually. I don’t know how to explain it but I’m more attracted to energy and vibe versus sexual appeal. I’m scared if I’ll ever be able to have a family being asexual since I really want one.

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How asexuals be discovering their sexuality

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Do those who identify as ACE not feel pleasure from there … parts?

I’ve often heard asexuals describe sex as a “chore” I guess my question is does the sensation not feel pleasurable ? I understand there are asexuals who masterbate bs those who don’t , I suppose my question is aimed at those who don’t. But I welcome answers from both . Hope I don’t offend I only wish to better understand. Does the sensation feel like any other? Just rubbing skin? Or is it like a solely just sensitive area that you don’t enjoy being touched like if you don’t like being tickled?

Edit : Their*

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Feeling hopeless

I’m putting this on my burner account cause I feel sort of embarrassed.

I’m 30F and want a partner, not someone that I have to talk to all the time or be with all the time just someone who I can enjoy life with and share that connection. I want someone who is also my best and we get so comfortable with each other we can share the silence, that type of connection.

I feel like it’s never going to happen. I’ve tried the dating apps and they lead to nothing, I’ve tried Acespace and even someone I was talking to on there doesn’t seem to be interested. Do the rest of you feel like they are just never going to meet the right person?

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Pinterest blessed me with this gem
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ACE main character in a book.
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Took this last weekend for my gf while at Pride in Lyon, but just realized you guys might like it :D
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"Because fries are a date worth going on". Advertisement of the Swiss potato association. I think we are the target audience 😊
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Belated birthday present from my aunt!
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