Can some asexuals have sexual needs?
Like..not for ppl but for their horniness?
Like, they are so hungry they need food but they dont crave a specific food. They just crave food?
Idk how to explain it. Ppl keep saying that asexuals dont have sexual needs. Which i got confused bc there are some who has libido and yes ik there are some who has a libido but dont need to be taken care of. I am talking abt the ones who needs sex for their libido.
Idk if its possible or not. So i am here to Ask if it is possible?
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Like..not for ppl but for their horniness?
Like, they are so hungry they need food but they dont crave a specific food. They just crave food?
Idk how to explain it. Ppl keep saying that asexuals dont have sexual needs. Which i got confused bc there are some who has libido and yes ik there are some who has a libido but dont need to be taken care of. I am talking abt the ones who needs sex for their libido.
Idk if its possible or not. So i am here to Ask if it is possible?
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Anyone else depressed that they won’t ever find an ace partner?
Im a very romantic ace and I dream of the perfect relationship with another ace, however I’m also socially awkward and scared to talk to people. I’m also scared of men which is rough because I’m attracted to men..
I’m also less likely to find someone who will accept me because I’m also nonbinary.. AFAB but I present gender neutrally.
It upsets me that I’ll end up probably in an online relationship, that means I can’t ever hug, cuddle, or kiss my partner.. and I am extremely touch starved
I cant settle for an allo, I cant compromise either. I’m sex repulsed and even if someone touches me sexually while fully clothed I get uncomfortable and nope out.
Either way I’m scared of dying alone, I wish I was Aro as well as Ace so I wouldn’t have to worry about this.. sucks to be in the 1% of people worldwide..
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Im a very romantic ace and I dream of the perfect relationship with another ace, however I’m also socially awkward and scared to talk to people. I’m also scared of men which is rough because I’m attracted to men..
I’m also less likely to find someone who will accept me because I’m also nonbinary.. AFAB but I present gender neutrally.
It upsets me that I’ll end up probably in an online relationship, that means I can’t ever hug, cuddle, or kiss my partner.. and I am extremely touch starved
I cant settle for an allo, I cant compromise either. I’m sex repulsed and even if someone touches me sexually while fully clothed I get uncomfortable and nope out.
Either way I’m scared of dying alone, I wish I was Aro as well as Ace so I wouldn’t have to worry about this.. sucks to be in the 1% of people worldwide..
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Ok it's a rant but more like a ugh do I have to identify myself rant
So I recently went to LGBTQ community thing I was the only person with the he pronouns. I didn't say I'm asexual because I don't really feel the need to identify myself and I'm not out to my coworkers or family and only 2 people in my life are aware.
So I don't broadcast it even if my coworkers wouldn't care it would be a violation of the unspoken separation of life and work rule.
My friends and family would probably have a million questions and make it into a big deal I would be defined by my asexuality.
So yeah I realize that I seem to be getting kind of pushed to the edge like I'm hitting a fence. One of them tells me they're a lesbian and I'm just like ok cool. afterwards I started to think about it and realized she probably wanted me to identify myself.
I'm just miffed like I get why they are cautious with men but I really don't want to feel like I need to wear an ace flag pin or something. O well I guess keep going until they realize I'm not trying to sleep with them or something else.
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So I recently went to LGBTQ community thing I was the only person with the he pronouns. I didn't say I'm asexual because I don't really feel the need to identify myself and I'm not out to my coworkers or family and only 2 people in my life are aware.
So I don't broadcast it even if my coworkers wouldn't care it would be a violation of the unspoken separation of life and work rule.
My friends and family would probably have a million questions and make it into a big deal I would be defined by my asexuality.
So yeah I realize that I seem to be getting kind of pushed to the edge like I'm hitting a fence. One of them tells me they're a lesbian and I'm just like ok cool. afterwards I started to think about it and realized she probably wanted me to identify myself.
I'm just miffed like I get why they are cautious with men but I really don't want to feel like I need to wear an ace flag pin or something. O well I guess keep going until they realize I'm not trying to sleep with them or something else.
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How feasible is it to live with a best friend?
I’ve known my best friend (we’re both women btw) for about 13 years now, and she’s amazing. When we were younger, we’d joke that we’d live together someday.
Well, we’re in college now. The other day, she asked me if I’d want to own a house or share an apartment with her some day—as in, we’d grow old together, raise some cats along the way—and I told her, truthfully, that it sounds amazing. She’s aroace, so she’s never planning on getting married or having children.
As for me, it’s odd. I’m asexual, but not quite aromantic. I’ve had crushes (rarely, though), I’ve been on dates and I’ve felt the butterflies, but I’ve never had a boyfriend, and I’m not interested in marriage or children either. Honestly, I’ve never felt as comfortable with or as connected to someone as I do with my best friend. She’s the only person I can hang out with for days on end and not get bored or end up feeling drained. Maybe that’s why I don’t feel like dating anyone. So, I would love to live with her for the rest of my days.
But it seems like that’s just… not a thing people do? I’ve seen people who are married with children, who are married/dating but without children, who live alone, who live with their friends until they can move out, but never someone who lives with their best friend permanently. I know it’s early to be thinking about any of this, but still, is it possible? Are we just weird?
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I’ve known my best friend (we’re both women btw) for about 13 years now, and she’s amazing. When we were younger, we’d joke that we’d live together someday.
Well, we’re in college now. The other day, she asked me if I’d want to own a house or share an apartment with her some day—as in, we’d grow old together, raise some cats along the way—and I told her, truthfully, that it sounds amazing. She’s aroace, so she’s never planning on getting married or having children.
As for me, it’s odd. I’m asexual, but not quite aromantic. I’ve had crushes (rarely, though), I’ve been on dates and I’ve felt the butterflies, but I’ve never had a boyfriend, and I’m not interested in marriage or children either. Honestly, I’ve never felt as comfortable with or as connected to someone as I do with my best friend. She’s the only person I can hang out with for days on end and not get bored or end up feeling drained. Maybe that’s why I don’t feel like dating anyone. So, I would love to live with her for the rest of my days.
But it seems like that’s just… not a thing people do? I’ve seen people who are married with children, who are married/dating but without children, who live alone, who live with their friends until they can move out, but never someone who lives with their best friend permanently. I know it’s early to be thinking about any of this, but still, is it possible? Are we just weird?
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Sharing all of my asexual pride pins, including my new oyster 💜do you have a favourite?
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Stop it with these posts - PLEASE
Vented about this before, but seeing more posts like that again I couldn't keep quiet.
Okay, alloromantic asexuals - how would you feel about an allosexual saying something like "I wish I was asexual, everything would be SO much easier if I didn't have any sexual desires"?
I'd assume you wouldn't like it, correct? You wouldn't like it because such a person would be ignoring the struggles of being asexual while also not fully understanding what asexuality even is. And rightfully so, because it subtly invalidates your identity, making it out to be something that makes your life easier, when it's not.
Why then do I see at least one post every week or so being like "I wish I was also aromantic, being aroace would be sooooo much easier because I just wouldn't care for romance nor crave affection"???
Saying that is just as insensitive and invalidating as an allosexual saying they wished they were ace. It completely ignores the struggles of being aromantic while also misrepresenting it.
Being aroace is NOT easy. On top of feeling broken for not experiencing sexual attraction like most people aroaces also lack normative romantic attraction. It's an additional factor that can make them feel even more alienated by society.
And it's not all black and white either; aromantics CAN care for romance. Aromantics CAN desire romance. Aromantics CAN desire affection - try explaining to someone how you want to date them, but won't love them back the same way they do. Try explaining to someone how you want affection and emotional closeness, but don't want it to be romantic.
I implore you, stop making posts like that and even more so, stop thinking that way. It's hurtful, invalidating, and yes, it's low-key arophobic.
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Vented about this before, but seeing more posts like that again I couldn't keep quiet.
Okay, alloromantic asexuals - how would you feel about an allosexual saying something like "I wish I was asexual, everything would be SO much easier if I didn't have any sexual desires"?
I'd assume you wouldn't like it, correct? You wouldn't like it because such a person would be ignoring the struggles of being asexual while also not fully understanding what asexuality even is. And rightfully so, because it subtly invalidates your identity, making it out to be something that makes your life easier, when it's not.
Why then do I see at least one post every week or so being like "I wish I was also aromantic, being aroace would be sooooo much easier because I just wouldn't care for romance nor crave affection"???
Saying that is just as insensitive and invalidating as an allosexual saying they wished they were ace. It completely ignores the struggles of being aromantic while also misrepresenting it.
Being aroace is NOT easy. On top of feeling broken for not experiencing sexual attraction like most people aroaces also lack normative romantic attraction. It's an additional factor that can make them feel even more alienated by society.
And it's not all black and white either; aromantics CAN care for romance. Aromantics CAN desire romance. Aromantics CAN desire affection - try explaining to someone how you want to date them, but won't love them back the same way they do. Try explaining to someone how you want affection and emotional closeness, but don't want it to be romantic.
I implore you, stop making posts like that and even more so, stop thinking that way. It's hurtful, invalidating, and yes, it's low-key arophobic.
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