Princess Peach and Mario are just friends, according to Nintendo
https://www.eonline.com/news/1420332/nintendo-addresses-mario-princess-peachs-relationship
A lot of people are making pretty crude jokes about how they're clearly more than that, but I choose to believe Peach is aro/ace, and Mario, after a couple of failed attempts at wooing her (see the end of Mario Odyssey), has come to respect her orientation.
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A lot of people are making pretty crude jokes about how they're clearly more than that, but I choose to believe Peach is aro/ace, and Mario, after a couple of failed attempts at wooing her (see the end of Mario Odyssey), has come to respect her orientation.
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Nintendo Clarifies the Truth About Mario and Princess Peach’s Relationship
After decades of romance rumors, Nintendo revealed the status of Mario and Princess Peach’s relationship.
Recently discovered I'm ace, now what?
At the ripe old age of 28, I just had a profound realization about myself. After years of identifying as gay (at least socially, I align more spiritually and politically with the term "queer") I have come to understand that I'm actually more of a homoromantic asexual than I am homosexual.
Even though it made a lot of sense in hindsight, I was actually quite shocked initially because I've had a lot of sexual partners over the years, but the truth is, sex has always felt like something I "had" to do than something I *wanted* to do. In fact, everytime I had sex I was either under the influence of alcohol or completely dissociated. I might have consented, but I was never fully present. I don't know if I even really enjoyed sex or tricked myself into thinking I did. But now I realize I've actually been traumatizing myself with every sexual encounter because for years I was walking around in a haze and feeling constantly foggy-headed/on autopilot and at first I thought i was experiencing symptoms of derealization/depersonalization or some undiagnosed mental disorder but now I've come to realize that my brain was protecting me from all the trauma I put my body through.
Sex was always transactional. I thought I needed to have sex to get a guy to like me or get him to "stay" but the irony is that even if I gave in and gave a guy what I thought he wanted, I rarely got what *I* wanted, which was companionship and intimacy and genuine connection. After a hookup, the guy would either ghost or only ever hit me up to have sex or trade nudes. And the cycle would repeat itself where I felt like I "had" to have sex or trade nudes in order to keep their interest or they'd get bored of me. Which would make me feel crummy because I knew I was smart and funny and kind and interesting and all these wonderful things but they didn't care. They only wanted my body. Not my mind, not my heart. They didn't actually like me for who I was as a person, but for what I could do for them. And I was willing to do anything, because I wanted to be liked.
And I take full responsibility for never saying no. Well that's not true. I did say no sometimes. But no never really means no when it comes to these men, because they don't really care about what you want. They'll give you the silent treatment or guilt trip you into giving them what *they* want. So even if I was uncomfortable, I always relented. And of course that would make me feel even crummier afterwards. Violated even. It felt like a self-betrayal. Like I let myself down. Especially since I was the one who put myself in those positions to begin with and I have no one to blame but myself, especially when it came to sexualizing myself. Or allowing myself to be objectified.
I will admit that there were times that I downplayed my intelligence (both emotional and intellectual) and put more emphasis on my sex appeal but all that did was attract the wrong crowd and send the wrong message and made me feel misunderstood, but only because I was misrepresenting and mischaracterizing myself. There were even times where I felt like I "had" to put out if a guy was nice to me or did me a kindness, such as paying for a meal or allowing me to spend the night at his place after a night out to the point where I started to believe that all I had to offer *was* my body, when that couldn't be further from the truth. The truth is, I am loveable. I am worth getting to know. And I can have a good time without taking my clothes off.
In fact, whenever I was aroused it was not because I was sexually attracted to someone per se, but more so because we were being emotionally vulnerable with each other. He was opening up and sharing things with me or I was opening up and sharing things with him. It was a physical reaction to me feeling seen, appreciated, understood. Which is all I've ever wanted. All I ever wanted was to love and be loved in return and I fear I conflated sex and love even though the two are mutually exclusive and have practically nothing to do with each other.
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At the ripe old age of 28, I just had a profound realization about myself. After years of identifying as gay (at least socially, I align more spiritually and politically with the term "queer") I have come to understand that I'm actually more of a homoromantic asexual than I am homosexual.
Even though it made a lot of sense in hindsight, I was actually quite shocked initially because I've had a lot of sexual partners over the years, but the truth is, sex has always felt like something I "had" to do than something I *wanted* to do. In fact, everytime I had sex I was either under the influence of alcohol or completely dissociated. I might have consented, but I was never fully present. I don't know if I even really enjoyed sex or tricked myself into thinking I did. But now I realize I've actually been traumatizing myself with every sexual encounter because for years I was walking around in a haze and feeling constantly foggy-headed/on autopilot and at first I thought i was experiencing symptoms of derealization/depersonalization or some undiagnosed mental disorder but now I've come to realize that my brain was protecting me from all the trauma I put my body through.
Sex was always transactional. I thought I needed to have sex to get a guy to like me or get him to "stay" but the irony is that even if I gave in and gave a guy what I thought he wanted, I rarely got what *I* wanted, which was companionship and intimacy and genuine connection. After a hookup, the guy would either ghost or only ever hit me up to have sex or trade nudes. And the cycle would repeat itself where I felt like I "had" to have sex or trade nudes in order to keep their interest or they'd get bored of me. Which would make me feel crummy because I knew I was smart and funny and kind and interesting and all these wonderful things but they didn't care. They only wanted my body. Not my mind, not my heart. They didn't actually like me for who I was as a person, but for what I could do for them. And I was willing to do anything, because I wanted to be liked.
And I take full responsibility for never saying no. Well that's not true. I did say no sometimes. But no never really means no when it comes to these men, because they don't really care about what you want. They'll give you the silent treatment or guilt trip you into giving them what *they* want. So even if I was uncomfortable, I always relented. And of course that would make me feel even crummier afterwards. Violated even. It felt like a self-betrayal. Like I let myself down. Especially since I was the one who put myself in those positions to begin with and I have no one to blame but myself, especially when it came to sexualizing myself. Or allowing myself to be objectified.
I will admit that there were times that I downplayed my intelligence (both emotional and intellectual) and put more emphasis on my sex appeal but all that did was attract the wrong crowd and send the wrong message and made me feel misunderstood, but only because I was misrepresenting and mischaracterizing myself. There were even times where I felt like I "had" to put out if a guy was nice to me or did me a kindness, such as paying for a meal or allowing me to spend the night at his place after a night out to the point where I started to believe that all I had to offer *was* my body, when that couldn't be further from the truth. The truth is, I am loveable. I am worth getting to know. And I can have a good time without taking my clothes off.
In fact, whenever I was aroused it was not because I was sexually attracted to someone per se, but more so because we were being emotionally vulnerable with each other. He was opening up and sharing things with me or I was opening up and sharing things with him. It was a physical reaction to me feeling seen, appreciated, understood. Which is all I've ever wanted. All I ever wanted was to love and be loved in return and I fear I conflated sex and love even though the two are mutually exclusive and have practically nothing to do with each other.
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be honest if I spent the rest of my life never having sex ever again I genuinely believe I would be perfectly content. Even if it meant being a side, not a top or a bottom or a verse, just a side, that would be fine with me too. I've had enough sex to last me a lifetime and there's nothing I want more than to read my books in peace, travel to beautiful places, go on long walks, see interesting sights, meet interesting people, drink hot coffee (preferably with a nice pastry), listen to great music and watch exciting films. It would be nice to share these moments with someone special of course but I enjoy my company enough to know that I'll be fine with or without them. I wouldn't even know where to find another homoromantic ace (I checked out acespace, not for me personally but I'm open to recs).
So yeah, I say all of this to say, I will be abstinent for the foreseeable future because I have zero interest in or desire to have sex rn (and dare I say, I don't think I ever did). In any case, I'm happy to be part of the community. Where's the garlic bread?
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So yeah, I say all of this to say, I will be abstinent for the foreseeable future because I have zero interest in or desire to have sex rn (and dare I say, I don't think I ever did). In any case, I'm happy to be part of the community. Where's the garlic bread?
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Am I Asexual?
If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.
If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.
If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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this is literally what made me realise I am Ace- Loveless by Alice Oseman
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Thought I'd put this here, [Not OC, think it's by u/BoultonPaulDefiant ]
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Friends say my asexuality makes them feel safe/comfortable around me
Hello! My friend got a new job and its already taking a toll on her body. We were eating dinner when her face lit up out of no where. "Could you give me a massage?" This was kinda crazy coming from her since she hates physical touch. She mustve noticed my face since she tried to explain. She continues with how she trusts me to give her a massage since I am "...void of a sexual agenda." (???) This suprisingly is not the first time I heard something like this, a lot of people around me just get a "pure" vibe from me. Especially the women in my life who tell me they constantly have to be on guard or hyper aware of interactions just incase. Im happy I can be that for my friends. I have never came out to anyone around me but I guess they all just assume because of my character. If I can make a friend who was a victim of sexual assault comfortable by just being me, thats worth the world. I really enjoy being a beacon for my friends. Always have and always will. I want to know if you guys have had a similar experience.
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Hello! My friend got a new job and its already taking a toll on her body. We were eating dinner when her face lit up out of no where. "Could you give me a massage?" This was kinda crazy coming from her since she hates physical touch. She mustve noticed my face since she tried to explain. She continues with how she trusts me to give her a massage since I am "...void of a sexual agenda." (???) This suprisingly is not the first time I heard something like this, a lot of people around me just get a "pure" vibe from me. Especially the women in my life who tell me they constantly have to be on guard or hyper aware of interactions just incase. Im happy I can be that for my friends. I have never came out to anyone around me but I guess they all just assume because of my character. If I can make a friend who was a victim of sexual assault comfortable by just being me, thats worth the world. I really enjoy being a beacon for my friends. Always have and always will. I want to know if you guys have had a similar experience.
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What’s your dream slogan for an asexual themed T-shirt?
Mine: Sex scenes are my cue to go grab a snack.
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Mine: Sex scenes are my cue to go grab a snack.
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Needed to get this off my chest.
I'll probably get downvoted but I honestly don't care. I'm so fucking tired of sex-repulsed aces being treated as non-existent, especially those who are romantic. And sometimes even by asexuals themselves. Someone literally told me that 'being sex-repulsed means you're not really ace, because we as aces do not have a view towards sex, we just don't feel sexual attraction'. Seriously?? Where tf is the nuance?? There are many type of aces and just because sex disgusts you it doesn't mean you're not valid.
And another thing that keeps irritating me is how some people keep affiliating every aspect of asexuality with sex. Like, asexuals can like sex, they can write the best smut, can be very sexual etc, YES, YOU CAN BE, I'M NOT SAYING YOU CAN'T, but it's almost becoming an archetype that highlights only one ace spectrum. And honestly, most of times, that sounds performative, like trying to make asexuality sound 'cool' to allo people. As if proving that being asexual and liking sex means that you're still cool because you aren't against sex yet. And what if you don't like sex, don't like to read/write smut? You're suddenly weird, sexually repressed, traumatized, prudish and you get dumped into the filthiest stereotypes. Well, asexuality isn't a checkbox or an aesthetic. It's an identity. It doesn't need sex to be cool. And it sure as hell doesn't need anyone's approval.
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I'll probably get downvoted but I honestly don't care. I'm so fucking tired of sex-repulsed aces being treated as non-existent, especially those who are romantic. And sometimes even by asexuals themselves. Someone literally told me that 'being sex-repulsed means you're not really ace, because we as aces do not have a view towards sex, we just don't feel sexual attraction'. Seriously?? Where tf is the nuance?? There are many type of aces and just because sex disgusts you it doesn't mean you're not valid.
And another thing that keeps irritating me is how some people keep affiliating every aspect of asexuality with sex. Like, asexuals can like sex, they can write the best smut, can be very sexual etc, YES, YOU CAN BE, I'M NOT SAYING YOU CAN'T, but it's almost becoming an archetype that highlights only one ace spectrum. And honestly, most of times, that sounds performative, like trying to make asexuality sound 'cool' to allo people. As if proving that being asexual and liking sex means that you're still cool because you aren't against sex yet. And what if you don't like sex, don't like to read/write smut? You're suddenly weird, sexually repressed, traumatized, prudish and you get dumped into the filthiest stereotypes. Well, asexuality isn't a checkbox or an aesthetic. It's an identity. It doesn't need sex to be cool. And it sure as hell doesn't need anyone's approval.
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Relationship advice with a hyper-sexual partner
I am 25 years old and have just started my first relationship. I love my partner (24) and told them that I am asexual before we started dating but that I am willing to experiment sexually to determine where at on the spectrum I am. I only tried masturbating after 20 because everyone around me made me feel weird for not doing so. I tried a total of 5 times and never felt anything from it. My partner is hyper-sexual and we recently tried doing some sexual stuff that involved me seeing their genitals. All I could think was yep that’s a vagina. It’s safe to say that ended the activity. I guess the question is whether a relationship between a hyper-sexual person and asexual person is good for either of us? I don’t want to hurt them or make them feel rejected but I love them and enjoy the other aspects of our relationship. I did enjoy most all of the stuff we did with clothes on but kinda just froze up once clothes were taken off completely.
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I am 25 years old and have just started my first relationship. I love my partner (24) and told them that I am asexual before we started dating but that I am willing to experiment sexually to determine where at on the spectrum I am. I only tried masturbating after 20 because everyone around me made me feel weird for not doing so. I tried a total of 5 times and never felt anything from it. My partner is hyper-sexual and we recently tried doing some sexual stuff that involved me seeing their genitals. All I could think was yep that’s a vagina. It’s safe to say that ended the activity. I guess the question is whether a relationship between a hyper-sexual person and asexual person is good for either of us? I don’t want to hurt them or make them feel rejected but I love them and enjoy the other aspects of our relationship. I did enjoy most all of the stuff we did with clothes on but kinda just froze up once clothes were taken off completely.
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