Do you prefer to say you’re “asexual”, “on the ace spectrum”, or something else entirely (like a micro label)?

For me, it depends entirely on who I’m talking to.

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Is this asexuality?

Am I asexual, even if I don't want to be? Am I asexual if I feel like its because someone else took my sexuality away from me? Is it asexuality if I physically CAN'T have sex, even if I want to with some people?

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18Fwhere do yall meet new people?

Where do yall go to meet new people? Cause I don't like going drinking or go to parties

But not only irl, but also on here, cuz I'm 18 now and I can't be in the teen reddits anymore

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Can trauma cause asexuality?

Disclaimer: This isn't meant to offend anyone or to diminish someone's identity as if they're simply traumatized.

I sometimes wonder if I wasn't sexually abused by my mother then I would have less fears regarding sex. As an aegosexual I fantasize a lot and have quite the libido. But my only safe space to appreciate these desires are in my head. The idea of doing something with another person makes me extremely uncomfortable and ofcourse as someone who really looks into themselves often, I'm inclined to believe this is rooted in trauma.

But perhaps there is a difference between pure asexuality and just sex aversion.

Would love to hear your own stories/thoughts!

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How do you feel about sexual media?

I love playing games, and I mosrly play on my switch. Ive gotten into a game called Astral Chain and wanted more alternatives and find other games like it. People said to try bayonetta. Obviously, if you know Bayonetta, you'll know its very sexual. I dont care much about it cause the gameplay looks fun! So my question is. Do you care about media thats to sexual? Or do you dismiss it? Or actively avoid it?

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YOOO, CUPCAKKE IS ASEXUAL ( confirmed by HER )

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YOOO, CUPCAKKE IS ASEXUAL ( confirmed by HER )

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I'm so deeply confused (Was I groomed???)

TW for potential emotional manipulation/abuse.

I'll try to keep it short. Back when I didn't know I was aro I would try to date and make overwhelmingly negative experiences, either people would fall for me, pressure me into relationships, and react with abuse when I'd reject them, or they would keep me around for casual affection/sex only to cut me out of their lives after a few months. I also had a toxic relationship at some point.

This has caused my perception of intimacy to become distorted, I guess. Romance to me is now nothing but an excuse to emotionally manipulate and abuse people while it's possible to want to be affectionate (wanting to kiss, cuddle, etc.) while being "just friends". Basically, kissing and cuddling is now something platonic to me unless stated otherwise (in which case I don't want it). It has gone so far that now I could see two people kiss and I don't immediately assume they're a couple - because I've never been kissed in a romantic context; every single time I've been kissed the other person would make it clear we were "just friends". Why would I think of it as romantic when it's clearly not in my experience?

But now I'm starting to realize more and more how not just sex, but even physical affection is something most people perceive as strictly romantic. I'm so, so confused by this. It doesn't make sense to me. All my life I've essentially been taught kissing, cuddling, etc. were platonic things. Things you can do with people you're "just friends" with.

I've told a few people about this and they say I had been groomed. Have I? Is it really just romantic?

I don't know what to believe anymore.

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YOOO, CUPCAKKE IS ASEXUAL ( confirmed by HER )

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I love that I’m largely immune to the wiles of cult leaders 😂
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My mind is an enigma
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this maybe silly

it maybe silly but, weird al's music helpped me realized that i am ace.

so u could say weird al helpped me realized i am ace lol

again sounds silly but heh

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My rant on Mario, asexuality and heteronormative stereotypes about friendships between opposite genders.
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Just Me?

Is is weird that I want to be sexy, but I don't want anybody to ever be sexually attracted to me whatsoever? Like, who people get attracted to is a gamble with probability favoring attractive people, right? So, like, could I be a very attractive person but NOT attract people ever? How does that even work? Am I asking to many questions in a row? It's like the kind of flare Scar (from The Lion King) or Alastor (ironically an ace character from Hazbin Hotel). Do I just want to be a cool person?

Edit: Hey guys, I just realized this might have come off too much like a personal plea for help. Maybe I should have formulated it a bit more before posting, but I really did mean for this to be more a discussion and less supporting me. I'm ok. This isn't a huge thing, but it seemed like a strange feeling so I walked to hear what some of the emotionally smartest people I've ever seen think, especially because not wanting people to find you sexy seemed like something more likely to be relatable to ace people.
That said, I also just wanted to say thank you to anybody who read that and had the first instinct to reach and and give the poster encouragement and affirmation.

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