My friend just told me this and it’s too good not to share.
My friends boyfriend: “You know, I just can’t imagine me ever having sex. She’d just stare into someone’s eyes and that’s intimate enough for her.”
My friend: “You know she’s ace right?”
Boyfriend: “That actually makes so much sense.”
There’s no way he actually knows what asexuality is. He barely knows me. But he still managed to completely figure me out. I give off ~the vibes~ apparently.
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My friends boyfriend: “You know, I just can’t imagine me ever having sex. She’d just stare into someone’s eyes and that’s intimate enough for her.”
My friend: “You know she’s ace right?”
Boyfriend: “That actually makes so much sense.”
There’s no way he actually knows what asexuality is. He barely knows me. But he still managed to completely figure me out. I give off ~the vibes~ apparently.
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I installed "asexual cupid" and these are some of the profile questions!?
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Kissing
Had my first kiss at 18 a month ago. Felt nothing? Lol
No butterflies no elevated heart rate or nervousness, just a bit of disgust and maybe some guilt.
Well I can tick that off my list and safely say I won’t be doing it again
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Had my first kiss at 18 a month ago. Felt nothing? Lol
No butterflies no elevated heart rate or nervousness, just a bit of disgust and maybe some guilt.
Well I can tick that off my list and safely say I won’t be doing it again
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Dear Allos, stop asking me about my personal life.
Whenever I come out to lgbtq accepting people as lesbian, it's always just "Oh, congrats! Proud of you."
However, coming out as ace always results in a 2 hour interview as to how the hell I could possibly be asexual.
Look, I understand that asexuality isn't as talked about. And I understand curiosity. But they're strange investigations border more on close mindedness.
They probe me for answers about trauma, sexual history, etc, even when it's someone I don't even know well enough to even open up to about that. What a strange way to say you can't just accept my sexuality as it is. Do your research before psychoanalyzing me.
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Whenever I come out to lgbtq accepting people as lesbian, it's always just "Oh, congrats! Proud of you."
However, coming out as ace always results in a 2 hour interview as to how the hell I could possibly be asexual.
Look, I understand that asexuality isn't as talked about. And I understand curiosity. But they're strange investigations border more on close mindedness.
They probe me for answers about trauma, sexual history, etc, even when it's someone I don't even know well enough to even open up to about that. What a strange way to say you can't just accept my sexuality as it is. Do your research before psychoanalyzing me.
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Bread and sex are the same to me.
This might sound a little weird, but hear me out:
Since I was young, I've never really liked bread. There were times when I was actually repulsed by the idea of eating bread and would go to great lengths to avoid it in my meals. But as I grew and started experiencing more types of bread, I realized that there were some I genuinely liked. Sometimes I even crave certain breads (breadsticks YUM). However, these cravings are never super strong or last very long. Once I have a breadstick or two I find myself feeling satisfied and can go months without wanting one again.
Fast forward to now. I am currently dating someone who doesn't eat bread (he has Celiacs and several other dietary restrictions). This does not bother me at all. We have never eaten bread together, but I am satisfied by the other food we do eat and trying out unique recipes has become an important part of our relationship. I am completely fine with the idea of us never eating bread together. At the same time, I know my partner likes bread and use to eat it before being diagnosed. He craves it sometimes and if he could have it again he would. While I don't particularly like bread, if he was suddenly able to eat it again, I would eat it with him as I know it would make him happy.
It's a little silly, but this analogy finally made it click for me- not eating bread and not having sex aren't that different from each other. I've been feeling very insecure about my sexuality lately and internally struggling with it a lot. I've been worried that my partner wants sex and I am unable to fulfill this desire (he has never expressed this and has even said explicitly that he doesn't mind, but I am an anxious person lol). Throughout our lives, people have separately told us that our restrictions would make us undateable (someone said something like this to me recently which kind of triggered my spiral). That no one would want to be in a long term relationship with someone who has so many dietary restrictions/doesn't have sex. But this isn't true for us. We accommodate each other's needs and adapt our lifestyles to make it work. While our relationship is not conventional, I am very happy with our breadless, sexless life and am the most comfortable I've ever been with another person.
Hope this post resonates with someone. Not wanting to have sex in a relationship isn't something we should feel guilty about. I was able to find peace once I realized that it is simply one of the many accommodations people may make in a relationship for someone they love ❤️
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This might sound a little weird, but hear me out:
Since I was young, I've never really liked bread. There were times when I was actually repulsed by the idea of eating bread and would go to great lengths to avoid it in my meals. But as I grew and started experiencing more types of bread, I realized that there were some I genuinely liked. Sometimes I even crave certain breads (breadsticks YUM). However, these cravings are never super strong or last very long. Once I have a breadstick or two I find myself feeling satisfied and can go months without wanting one again.
Fast forward to now. I am currently dating someone who doesn't eat bread (he has Celiacs and several other dietary restrictions). This does not bother me at all. We have never eaten bread together, but I am satisfied by the other food we do eat and trying out unique recipes has become an important part of our relationship. I am completely fine with the idea of us never eating bread together. At the same time, I know my partner likes bread and use to eat it before being diagnosed. He craves it sometimes and if he could have it again he would. While I don't particularly like bread, if he was suddenly able to eat it again, I would eat it with him as I know it would make him happy.
It's a little silly, but this analogy finally made it click for me- not eating bread and not having sex aren't that different from each other. I've been feeling very insecure about my sexuality lately and internally struggling with it a lot. I've been worried that my partner wants sex and I am unable to fulfill this desire (he has never expressed this and has even said explicitly that he doesn't mind, but I am an anxious person lol). Throughout our lives, people have separately told us that our restrictions would make us undateable (someone said something like this to me recently which kind of triggered my spiral). That no one would want to be in a long term relationship with someone who has so many dietary restrictions/doesn't have sex. But this isn't true for us. We accommodate each other's needs and adapt our lifestyles to make it work. While our relationship is not conventional, I am very happy with our breadless, sexless life and am the most comfortable I've ever been with another person.
Hope this post resonates with someone. Not wanting to have sex in a relationship isn't something we should feel guilty about. I was able to find peace once I realized that it is simply one of the many accommodations people may make in a relationship for someone they love ❤️
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Ugh
Some guy I was talking to the other day tried to convince me that there are no asexual guys. He claimed asexual guys were pretending to be asexual so they could gain my trust and trick me into having sex. I blocked him and that was that.
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Some guy I was talking to the other day tried to convince me that there are no asexual guys. He claimed asexual guys were pretending to be asexual so they could gain my trust and trick me into having sex. I blocked him and that was that.
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Am I fighting a storm?
24F - I feel like I’m fighting a storm.
For the last 5 years, I thought I was simply a lesbian. Then I found out I don’t feel sexually attracted to people, not even to the girl who my girlfriend and I loved romantically.
So. Asexual. Yay! She asked me if I could have intimacy with her and I told her that it was okay only because I loved her. Not because I really wanted to. So no more relationship. That’s okay, I felt relieved.
Then I started speaking to my closest circle about this new thing for me that didn’t have a name before. Asexuality. About wanting to be loved without that person expecting me to do things I couldn’t bring myself to do, that I didn’t desire. And I started feeling like I’m fighting against a storm, and I can’t do anything, actually.
“Just leave yourself open to posibilities, maybe when the time comes if you’re open enough to it, it will happen and you’ll find you actually like it.”
I keep hearing it, with different words, each time. And it makes me really sad to think not even my friends or my therapist cand wrap their heads around the concept that I DO NOT WANT IT. It’s simple as that. It’s not in me. My therapist even argues with me about it and it drives me crazy so I stopped talking about it in my sessions. I feel like no matter what I say I’m not heard, and I feel invalidated. Not only by her, but by my friedns too, even though I tried so many times to explain it. What should I do? Should I just keep this to myself? I just want someone to understand me, to really really understand what I’m feeling and not preassure me by telling me I just have to wait for it to happen.
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24F - I feel like I’m fighting a storm.
For the last 5 years, I thought I was simply a lesbian. Then I found out I don’t feel sexually attracted to people, not even to the girl who my girlfriend and I loved romantically.
So. Asexual. Yay! She asked me if I could have intimacy with her and I told her that it was okay only because I loved her. Not because I really wanted to. So no more relationship. That’s okay, I felt relieved.
Then I started speaking to my closest circle about this new thing for me that didn’t have a name before. Asexuality. About wanting to be loved without that person expecting me to do things I couldn’t bring myself to do, that I didn’t desire. And I started feeling like I’m fighting against a storm, and I can’t do anything, actually.
“Just leave yourself open to posibilities, maybe when the time comes if you’re open enough to it, it will happen and you’ll find you actually like it.”
I keep hearing it, with different words, each time. And it makes me really sad to think not even my friends or my therapist cand wrap their heads around the concept that I DO NOT WANT IT. It’s simple as that. It’s not in me. My therapist even argues with me about it and it drives me crazy so I stopped talking about it in my sessions. I feel like no matter what I say I’m not heard, and I feel invalidated. Not only by her, but by my friedns too, even though I tried so many times to explain it. What should I do? Should I just keep this to myself? I just want someone to understand me, to really really understand what I’m feeling and not preassure me by telling me I just have to wait for it to happen.
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I AM QUEER
sometimes I forget that I am queer. It’s usually when I am talking to a guy (used to be on hinge but not anymore) where I forget who I am. I feel embarrassed to admit it to people because my identity is so hard to explain (Demi aroace and so far have only been attracted to men). But I have to remind myself and you guys that we are valid!!!!!! That just because something is hard to explain doesn’t mean it isn’t worthy. I deserve love and commitment and adoration and the right person will love me exactly as I am. no more making myself small for other people’s comfort. I AM QUEER AND IM NOT GOING ANYWHERE !
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sometimes I forget that I am queer. It’s usually when I am talking to a guy (used to be on hinge but not anymore) where I forget who I am. I feel embarrassed to admit it to people because my identity is so hard to explain (Demi aroace and so far have only been attracted to men). But I have to remind myself and you guys that we are valid!!!!!! That just because something is hard to explain doesn’t mean it isn’t worthy. I deserve love and commitment and adoration and the right person will love me exactly as I am. no more making myself small for other people’s comfort. I AM QUEER AND IM NOT GOING ANYWHERE !
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Controversial take. I don't like the newer aroace flag very much
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From the asexuality community on Reddit: Controversial take. I don't like the newer aroace flag very much
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