Advice about gynecologist
Hi guys, so today I went to the gynecologist after avoiding it like a plague for years. I’m ace (obviously) and haven’t had sex or plan to …ever.
I knew he would have questions as to why I’m a virgin at this age (in my 30s) but it was still really uncomfortable. I went there thinking about telling him the true, I was asexual and was not interested in sex irl even if I have a high libido it’s not something I ever want to do but just talking to him made me realize that would only trigger more questions lol so I just told him I haven’t meet somebody I wanted to do it with but yeah it was awkward and uncomfortable. He even advices me to go out more and leave my comfort zone which I was ok, I will do so 😅 He told me that having sex was a normal thing, not having sex or urges was not normal.
If you are in my same position how do you deal with it? What do you say? If it wasn’t because of my health I would not go 😭
P.D: found out I was ace around 8 years ago after feeling abnormal for years and finally felt free. I’m not sure how I’m feeling after that visit today. He seems like a nice doctor and better than the last one I saw tbh
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Hi guys, so today I went to the gynecologist after avoiding it like a plague for years. I’m ace (obviously) and haven’t had sex or plan to …ever.
I knew he would have questions as to why I’m a virgin at this age (in my 30s) but it was still really uncomfortable. I went there thinking about telling him the true, I was asexual and was not interested in sex irl even if I have a high libido it’s not something I ever want to do but just talking to him made me realize that would only trigger more questions lol so I just told him I haven’t meet somebody I wanted to do it with but yeah it was awkward and uncomfortable. He even advices me to go out more and leave my comfort zone which I was ok, I will do so 😅 He told me that having sex was a normal thing, not having sex or urges was not normal.
If you are in my same position how do you deal with it? What do you say? If it wasn’t because of my health I would not go 😭
P.D: found out I was ace around 8 years ago after feeling abnormal for years and finally felt free. I’m not sure how I’m feeling after that visit today. He seems like a nice doctor and better than the last one I saw tbh
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Anyone who is a sex-repulsed asexual who is ALSO a Hopeless romantic. I have something to say. ( it might be cringe i am sorry )
Bro i thought of a word that i made up for a long time and DANG THAT HURT. Like…i Even wonder why the Flip i made this too. I might delete it bc i sometimes cringe at my own post but first i wanna know how y’all feel abt.
Like, imagine an ( sex-repulsed ) asexual falling inlove and just says ‘’ i could give anything to the person i love. But i sadly can’t. There are things that i am not able to give to a person, which is my own body. I feel guilty for not desiring them the way that they desire me. I would feel guilty for not giving what they want. I am ashamed of being this way. I wish it could’ve been easy for me to just let them, but i can’t. I am not able, nor willing to compromise and i feel selfish for it. I feel horrible for it. I wish my own love was enough for a person but its never is, it never was. Will my own love ever be enough for someone, if sex wasnt there at all? ‘’
…..WHY THE F@CK DID I MALADAPTIVELY DAYDREAMED THAT?????
WHY THE F@CK DID I MADE MYSELF CRY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT?????
Its so cringe i wanted to bury my face on dirt btw.
I am Even cringing writing abt this bc….im not good with love stories when its written. My brain is good at imagining it than writing it.
Like…YIKES MAN, IS THAT HOW YALL FEEL SOMETIMES????
That hurts, that hurts so much. I feel you man.
Im sorry if the this weird supposedly sad story cringe i tried…Im not good with writing these kinds of story but what do yall think?
Do you guys feel that way sometimes?
I would like to know!
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Bro i thought of a word that i made up for a long time and DANG THAT HURT. Like…i Even wonder why the Flip i made this too. I might delete it bc i sometimes cringe at my own post but first i wanna know how y’all feel abt.
Like, imagine an ( sex-repulsed ) asexual falling inlove and just says ‘’ i could give anything to the person i love. But i sadly can’t. There are things that i am not able to give to a person, which is my own body. I feel guilty for not desiring them the way that they desire me. I would feel guilty for not giving what they want. I am ashamed of being this way. I wish it could’ve been easy for me to just let them, but i can’t. I am not able, nor willing to compromise and i feel selfish for it. I feel horrible for it. I wish my own love was enough for a person but its never is, it never was. Will my own love ever be enough for someone, if sex wasnt there at all? ‘’
…..WHY THE F@CK DID I MALADAPTIVELY DAYDREAMED THAT?????
WHY THE F@CK DID I MADE MYSELF CRY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT?????
Its so cringe i wanted to bury my face on dirt btw.
I am Even cringing writing abt this bc….im not good with love stories when its written. My brain is good at imagining it than writing it.
Like…YIKES MAN, IS THAT HOW YALL FEEL SOMETIMES????
That hurts, that hurts so much. I feel you man.
Im sorry if the this weird supposedly sad story cringe i tried…Im not good with writing these kinds of story but what do yall think?
Do you guys feel that way sometimes?
I would like to know!
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just thought of a huge plus of being ace - ssri sexual side effects don't apply to me
I'm switching ssri (again) and I've seen a bunch of comments on the med that it works but it had x sexual side effect so they had to go off it. Glad I don't have to worry about that!
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I'm switching ssri (again) and I've seen a bunch of comments on the med that it works but it had x sexual side effect so they had to go off it. Glad I don't have to worry about that!
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Anyone who is a sex-repulsed asexual who is ALSO a Hopeless romantic. I have something to say. ( it might be cringe i am sorry )
Bro i thought of a word that i made up for a long time and DANG THAT HURT. Like…i Even wonder why the Flip i made this too. I might delete it bc i sometimes cringe at my own post but first i wanna know how y’all feel abt.
Like, imagine an ( sex-repulsed ) asexual falling inlove and just says ‘’ i could give anything to the person i love. But i sadly can’t. There are things that i am not able to give to a person, which is my own body. I feel guilty for not desiring them the way that they desire me. I would feel guilty for not giving what they want. I am ashamed of being this way. I wish it could’ve been easy for me to just let them, but i can’t. I am not able, nor willing to compromise and i feel selfish for it. I feel horrible for it. I wish my own love was enough for a person but its never is, it never was. Will my own love ever be enough for someone, if sex wasnt there at all? ‘’
…..WHY THE F@CK DID I MALADAPTIVELY DAYDREAMED THAT?????
WHY THE F@CK DID I MADE MYSELF CRY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT?????
Its so cringe i wanted to bury my face on dirt btw.
I am Even cringing writing abt this bc….im not good with love stories when its written. My brain is good at imagining it than writing it.
Like…YIKES MAN, IS THAT HOW YALL FEEL SOMETIMES????
That hurts, that hurts so much. I feel you man.
Im sorry if the this weird supposedly sad story cringe i tried…Im not good with writing these kinds of story but what do yall think?
Do you guys feel that way sometimes?
I would like to know!
https://redd.it/1m0190p
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Bro i thought of a word that i made up for a long time and DANG THAT HURT. Like…i Even wonder why the Flip i made this too. I might delete it bc i sometimes cringe at my own post but first i wanna know how y’all feel abt.
Like, imagine an ( sex-repulsed ) asexual falling inlove and just says ‘’ i could give anything to the person i love. But i sadly can’t. There are things that i am not able to give to a person, which is my own body. I feel guilty for not desiring them the way that they desire me. I would feel guilty for not giving what they want. I am ashamed of being this way. I wish it could’ve been easy for me to just let them, but i can’t. I am not able, nor willing to compromise and i feel selfish for it. I feel horrible for it. I wish my own love was enough for a person but its never is, it never was. Will my own love ever be enough for someone, if sex wasnt there at all? ‘’
…..WHY THE F@CK DID I MALADAPTIVELY DAYDREAMED THAT?????
WHY THE F@CK DID I MADE MYSELF CRY IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT?????
Its so cringe i wanted to bury my face on dirt btw.
I am Even cringing writing abt this bc….im not good with love stories when its written. My brain is good at imagining it than writing it.
Like…YIKES MAN, IS THAT HOW YALL FEEL SOMETIMES????
That hurts, that hurts so much. I feel you man.
Im sorry if the this weird supposedly sad story cringe i tried…Im not good with writing these kinds of story but what do yall think?
Do you guys feel that way sometimes?
I would like to know!
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Just did sexual harassment training and was happy to see ace representation
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Dating apps
So I’ve been on different dating apps lately and idk it’s not going to good for me I was on this one app but it’s full of bots ,so downloaded a few more apps one called hinge and it let’s you pick what sexual you are it has even asexual option on there so I like this one so far. Hopefully it goes well
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So I’ve been on different dating apps lately and idk it’s not going to good for me I was on this one app but it’s full of bots ,so downloaded a few more apps one called hinge and it let’s you pick what sexual you are it has even asexual option on there so I like this one so far. Hopefully it goes well
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Asexual in Bangalore looking for a host for a week
Hi everyone,
I'm a 31-year-old asexual person living in Bangalore. I'm currently looking for someone (preferably another asexual or ace-friendly person) in the city who might be open to hosting me for a week.
I'm clean, respectful, and quiet. Happy to contribute to groceries or help out around the house. Mainly just looking for a peaceful and understanding environment to stay in for a short while.
If this sounds okay to you or you have any questions, feel free to DM me.
Thanks! 😊
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Hi everyone,
I'm a 31-year-old asexual person living in Bangalore. I'm currently looking for someone (preferably another asexual or ace-friendly person) in the city who might be open to hosting me for a week.
I'm clean, respectful, and quiet. Happy to contribute to groceries or help out around the house. Mainly just looking for a peaceful and understanding environment to stay in for a short while.
If this sounds okay to you or you have any questions, feel free to DM me.
Thanks! 😊
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I really like this. "You wanna ship aroace characters with allos because it 'does technically happen'? Ok but you have to treat it with the nuance that entails"
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What are some early signs that you are ace but you ignored ?
For me when I was 16 in high school and my friends I were talking about boys. One of them said "What's the reason why we should even have a boyfriend?" And I said "To just look at them they are nice to look at what other reasonsare there" and she said "No we are supposed to have sex with them and talk to them" They all laughed and I was dead serious 😐
Also I loved watch SpongeBob and My Little Pony because romance aren't forced down my throat and shows that did that bothered me like let kids be kids.
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For me when I was 16 in high school and my friends I were talking about boys. One of them said "What's the reason why we should even have a boyfriend?" And I said "To just look at them they are nice to look at what other reasonsare there" and she said "No we are supposed to have sex with them and talk to them" They all laughed and I was dead serious 😐
Also I loved watch SpongeBob and My Little Pony because romance aren't forced down my throat and shows that did that bothered me like let kids be kids.
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It’s possible to find an understanding allo partner
Based on what I’ve seen on this subreddit, people often wonder if ace & allo relationships are possible & say that you HAVE to be sex positive for it to work as all allo people view sex as something vital that they wouldn’t be able to give up even if they love you. So, I want to introduce my boyfriend whom I’ve talked about before, to a broader audience. We are both in our 20s, I consider myself to be somewhere in between sex neutral-sex repulsive, I am not down for penetrative sex, however I am okay with other kinds of intimacy. My boyfriend is an allosexual who had an active sex life before we met. When we met, I put all my cards out on the table, told him I was ace, explained what it meant for our relationship if he still wanted to date. It was confusing for him at first as he has never met anyone ace before me, however he never pressured me into anything. Never got mad, never got offended or tried to compromise my boundaries. We tried various compromises until 2-3 months ago we’ve found the ideal one. Throughout our almost one year long relationship we never had sex. We did as much as I was comfortable with & when I got insecure over my sexuality & asked why was he compromising so much he always replied with “because I love you so much”. He told me that it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice for him & our relationship feels so fulfilling that this aspect goes unnoticeable. Now, I’m not saying this is a case for every allo person but there are allo people out there that can & will love you without trying to push you into anything, leaving you, getting mad, offended, etc. As at the end of the day, when you’re genuinely loved, you’re loved as a whole, for everything that you are.
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Based on what I’ve seen on this subreddit, people often wonder if ace & allo relationships are possible & say that you HAVE to be sex positive for it to work as all allo people view sex as something vital that they wouldn’t be able to give up even if they love you. So, I want to introduce my boyfriend whom I’ve talked about before, to a broader audience. We are both in our 20s, I consider myself to be somewhere in between sex neutral-sex repulsive, I am not down for penetrative sex, however I am okay with other kinds of intimacy. My boyfriend is an allosexual who had an active sex life before we met. When we met, I put all my cards out on the table, told him I was ace, explained what it meant for our relationship if he still wanted to date. It was confusing for him at first as he has never met anyone ace before me, however he never pressured me into anything. Never got mad, never got offended or tried to compromise my boundaries. We tried various compromises until 2-3 months ago we’ve found the ideal one. Throughout our almost one year long relationship we never had sex. We did as much as I was comfortable with & when I got insecure over my sexuality & asked why was he compromising so much he always replied with “because I love you so much”. He told me that it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice for him & our relationship feels so fulfilling that this aspect goes unnoticeable. Now, I’m not saying this is a case for every allo person but there are allo people out there that can & will love you without trying to push you into anything, leaving you, getting mad, offended, etc. As at the end of the day, when you’re genuinely loved, you’re loved as a whole, for everything that you are.
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Anyone here in a sexless relationship?
So I’ve read a lot of posts here that are a bit disheartening, many asexuals being lonely and unable to find relationships. Especially for the sex repulsed and sex averse aces who can’t compromise on sex, it seems I’ve rarely seen success stories, be it in an ace-ace or ace-allo relationship unless there's a open relationship situation or other ENM practice, which aren't an option for me personally.
My own experiences have also been pretty grim. I’m heteroromantic, and I’ve never met a man who’d be fine going completely sexless unless we’re talking short term dating… and I don’t want that, I want a life partner. I know finding an ace partner would be ideal, but I’ve been trying on that front as well and finding someone who is both ace and otherwise a suitable partner is very hard. Not to mention all the aces are half the world away :/
Being sex averse, heteroromantic and monogamous seems like a pretty unlucky combination…
Anyway, success stories? Anyone in a HAPPY, sexless monogamous relationship?
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So I’ve read a lot of posts here that are a bit disheartening, many asexuals being lonely and unable to find relationships. Especially for the sex repulsed and sex averse aces who can’t compromise on sex, it seems I’ve rarely seen success stories, be it in an ace-ace or ace-allo relationship unless there's a open relationship situation or other ENM practice, which aren't an option for me personally.
My own experiences have also been pretty grim. I’m heteroromantic, and I’ve never met a man who’d be fine going completely sexless unless we’re talking short term dating… and I don’t want that, I want a life partner. I know finding an ace partner would be ideal, but I’ve been trying on that front as well and finding someone who is both ace and otherwise a suitable partner is very hard. Not to mention all the aces are half the world away :/
Being sex averse, heteroromantic and monogamous seems like a pretty unlucky combination…
Anyway, success stories? Anyone in a HAPPY, sexless monogamous relationship?
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I think i might realized that im aroace
So i went to Juliet's balcony in Verona and i saw all the love hearts and romance type shit with people kissing on the balcony and all of it disgusted me or just made me cringe. I have hated romance for a while and just thought the whole lovely baby honey cutey stuff was corny and just a bit more interested. Also i was not big into sex just prefer it in porno. I had no celebrity crushes growing up and i only had maybe 3 crushes irl which i got over them i had lots of fictional crushes but i got over them fast and kinda cringed at them. Now i don't hate relationships i can see the appeal but romance is not for me and sex is not really a big deal. So i think im aroace and maybe pansexual if i ever wanted a QPR depending on their status like i would not mind being friends or even being in a QPR with someone who is interested in furry because while im not a furry i do like comics and cosplay.
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So i went to Juliet's balcony in Verona and i saw all the love hearts and romance type shit with people kissing on the balcony and all of it disgusted me or just made me cringe. I have hated romance for a while and just thought the whole lovely baby honey cutey stuff was corny and just a bit more interested. Also i was not big into sex just prefer it in porno. I had no celebrity crushes growing up and i only had maybe 3 crushes irl which i got over them i had lots of fictional crushes but i got over them fast and kinda cringed at them. Now i don't hate relationships i can see the appeal but romance is not for me and sex is not really a big deal. So i think im aroace and maybe pansexual if i ever wanted a QPR depending on their status like i would not mind being friends or even being in a QPR with someone who is interested in furry because while im not a furry i do like comics and cosplay.
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