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What is my sexuality called?

Hello,

I am 37 years old and don"t know what my sexuality is called. Since I accepted what I talk about below. I have shown little interest in my own sexuality. I think that says something about my interest in being intimate with anyone.

I've been in love once in 37 years. Even then I dreamed about us 2 loving each other very much and simply put living together. Just not having sex. Is it possible to find such a woman you guys think? I also have high functioning autism which makes it hard for me in advanced social interactions, like when trying to find a woman what wants to live wirh me. (duh) Invincible handicap. (please dont hate on autists like so many on reddit does, we are struggling and need love not hate)

If this is wrong sub for my question, please recommend other subreddits where it s better placed in that case.

My sexuality very short:

Since puberty I regulary get attracted sexually to women. Often times I can masturbate while thinking about these women. That includes being intimate.

I want to have sex with no one, not even females I masturbate about or are in love wirh.

So basically I get turned on by women but I strongly don't want to be intimidate with them.

Short background history:

I tried in my 20s to lose my virginity and were in a relationship with a woman i found attractive for months without having sex. I told her I wanted to take it slow. She accepted.

Eventually after months we were gonna have sex. I hated it very much and the only way we were gonna have sex.. I needed an erection.. Thankfully I were not close to getting erection. I left quickly and she broke up with me the next day. I know i were big asshole just leaving. I panicked. I apologised when she broke up with me.

I were not in love with that woman i was seeing for months. I just wanted then to lose my virginity, to not be a "freak. I was sexually attracted to her. Could masturbate to us having sex.

Yes I feel bad now that woman wasted months on me in her 20s.

Basically I want to know what my type of sexuality is called.

Guide me right pleaae if this is wrong sub.

Thanks.

Edit: Fixed bad language

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Dating as a asexual

So I just downloaded this app I’ve downloaded a few dating apps so I just download this lesbian app I identify as biromantic asexual so hopefully this goes well I’ve tried the dating apps with guys now I’m trying with girls I don’t know how this is going to go but I’m giving it a try

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My psychiatrist told me this...🤣

I recently went to see a psychiatrist about my mental health. He started asking me various questions, including whether I was married, whether I was sexually active and others. I am married to a wonderful man who loves me for who I am. And I love him too. We only make love when I have a little desire or when I can relate to it normally.The doctor listened to me, paused for a moment, and then asked me, "So why did you get married?" Lol, I almost laughed out loud. I didn't think people got married just to f*ck🤣. Yeah, I think I need to change my doctor.

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....ok.
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Can pseudosexuals be sex-favorable?



Hello and yes ik its a dumb question i apologise for it.
I woke up to realize my intelligence is gonna and now Idk if pseudosexuals can like sex or not ( future me: im pretty sure they can )

Sooo yeah i came here to ask if pseudosexuals like sex since they feel strong sensual attraction and maybe could enjoy sex for the sensual feeling of it?

And if there are pseudosexuals that like sex, may i Ask why? Im just curious to know why you like sex, no judgements here. But its ok if you don’t want to answer it if you are not confortable sharing that!




Sooo yeah, i would like to know if thats okay!

Ty for listening!

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Am I asexual or just dysphoric

Sup guys, gals and nonbinary palls! I've got something to figure out and maybe other's opinions are gonna help me.

Idk if I'm asexual, intensely dysphoric, or a secret third option. I'm a trans*guy and suffering from acute Where's my dick? Where'd I lose it? - Syndrome. Srsly where is it? Anyone seen it?

I've never had the sex either because ehh no. But idk why it's an ehh no, and that's why I'm here.

Getting down and dirty with someone has been sounding like an adventure I'd like to go on but when it acctually comes down to it I'm not that interested anymore. It's as if only the vague idea of it appeals to me. It sounds so fun in my head but I in reality it's ehh no. Maybe it's because I realize I'm not interested in actuality? Like I've never found anyone sexually attractive either. I've never thought "oh yes I want to get intimate with this person". My sexuality seems to only exist in theory. I have a Penis when I see myself in my own head and I think re-realizing that I'm lacking one is a mayor turnoff for me. I'm not interested in engaging with my natal genitals. Like that's just weird to me.

In my mind it feels like there's just a crater where my sexuality should be, like it's gone missing or something, just like how my dicks missing lol.

Anyone's got a clue to what's going on?

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Am i ace/aro????? Please help!!!!

Idk

I never have had a crush

I hate the thought of having s*x with someone

And having it with my self is physically nice but activly repulses me for ages afterwards

I feel like i shoukd have it but i dont want too

I want to kiss people and cuddle but not have s*x

And sometimes i really want a relationship and then other times i just want it and then sometimes i Really dont want one which makes me think maybe im aroflux?



Am i ace? Am i aro? Amd i both? Am i neither?

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Helping a friend in a relationship with someone who is not ace

Hi there! I am not part of the ace community, but I do have some friends on the ace spectrum so I do understand the basis of your experience. However, I am seeking some advice for a friend who is potentially in the asexual spectrum.

I say "potentially" because they experience a fluctuation of libido as well as vary between sex positive and sex repulsed, even to the point of anxiety or panic attacks in intimate situations. But this friend does not currently identify wholly with an asexual label.

My thought is that whether she is or not, there are people in this community who would have extremely valuable insight into healthy ways to cope with those fluctuations and how to proceed in her relationship so that she can hold less guilt over what she is currently viewing as "shortcomings" and so that her partner can feel less neglected in his sexual needs or desires.

What I'm looking to hear is how any of you who have had partners that don't fall under the ace umbrella have evened the playing field when it comes to intimacy, giving and showing love and trust, and overcoming or cooperating with a partner who experiences sex differently than you do.

What kind of interactions or coping/communication skills have you utilized with partners who need or desire sex? What sexual options are there for an uneven balance of libido or desire that are not damaging to either party mentally, physically, or emotionally?

I'm aware that there are definitely couples based on one sexual partner and one who is not. And that there are success stories and practices that led them to that success. I would love to hear from you so that I can have something to offer my friends in terms of support.

Thanks in advance!

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Am I asexual (I already read the FAQ and “questioning I’m ace”)?

I have sexual thoughts and feelings, but no desire to act on them. I can find someone hot and might have thoughts but then some part of my brain shuts it down and focuses on something else. I have OCD so some of the thoughts might be that, but it's difficult to tell. Even when I do have genuine feelings, I find it disturbing and I sometimes actually physically gag.

I hope this makes sense and thanks for any responses.

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“Purity culture” “Why are you such a baby?” maybe I just don’t fucking like sex and would rather you not talk to me about it.

I fucking hate sex jokes and anything relating to sex in a conversation. I just can’t see why people enjoy joking or talking about such an intimate moment between two (or maybe more) people so fucking loudly. Like, it’s nobody else’s business but theirs. Why do I have to hear about it? I’m just a kid. I don’t like when people talk to me about that stuff. “You’re such a baby everyone does it” okay I’m aware that a lot of people do but it doesn’t mean I have to like it. “Just because you like to pretend you’re so innocent” I don’t like sex. I am on the ace-spec. What the fuck. Leave me alone with that kinda talk.

Does anyone else have ignorant friends like this? If so, how do you deal with them? I get so alienated from them because only one of them respects my identity and the rest just love to laugh about it, like I’m “joking”. Like I’m the fucking joke. Like it’s not fucking serious.

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Why they simply don’t admit it?

If you’ve had experiences with an allo you’ll know what I’m talking about. Why they don’t simply admit that they only want to have sex?
They all have the same scheme: approach, make think the other person they care about them, fake to be interested and then after few minutes or hours (or days) they will start talking with second intentions, more or less explicitly they will start talking “dirty” or making jokes (that are not funny) about sex related stuff.
They will start complimenting the other person about specific parts of their body and bla bla…and they will have the audacity to say “I want a serious relationship”. Like, no? They only want sex but I still don’t get why instead of just saying it, they do all this scene first. Maybe they know how disgusting they are so they just want to be sure to get the other person attached? With some love bombing and fake attentions…I don’t know people, share with me your experiences I am curious. When I was younger (before acknowledging I am ace), I thought this was the prassi. I thought this “procedure” was normal and essential, but I’ve always felt that something was wrong. Today I see that is not normal, not for me. And honestly, is pretty sick.

Let me know if I am just unlucky or if this happened/happens to you too.

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