I made a subreddit

I don't know what else to say, please join and help fellow ace/aro people or seek advice. It's still very new and i'll take any suggestions (like adding more flairs and stuff which I definetly want to do).

r/aromanticasexualhelp

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Real
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Describe what kind of ace you are in the worst way possible and I’ll try to guess

just something for fun! for example, mine would be “yes in theory, no in practice” (aegosexual)

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Got chided for using the word “allosexual”

I’ve flaired this post “Aphobia” but I’m unsure if it’s the right flair.

So the other day I made this post on Reddit (https://www.reddit.com/r/answers/s/Z3YhrmzjVn) where I used the term “allosexual” and I got chided for it in the comments.

I’m an asexual man who regularly lurks around this sub and seeing the word “allosexual” being used regularly, I had no idea that the word wouldn’t be accepted outside of ace spaces.

Thoughts? Anyone else with a similar experience online or in real life?

Edit: typo

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Am I Asexual?

So I'm a 13 year old girl(she/her pronouns) who is straight. I like reading romance and im fine if i read smut scenes. Though i have never felt sexual attraction to a guy. Like, im fine with cuddles, kisses, hugs, etc but i wouldn't want to do sex with someone and i dont have that feeling. ive never had a crush but i do have a type. i asked my friend who is non-binary and demi and they said its a fluid type and i should use labels that are vaild and comfortable to me. i know i'm not demisexual because i have very close relationships with some guy friends and i have never felt any sexual attraction to them.(even if they were my type).

also, is it to early to call myself asexual? i know i could change over time.

i dont know and im really confused 😭

someone please send help

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Let Girls Have Fun

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Aesthetic as an asexual?

I would love some support.

You see it if you read my profile.

Earlier today I was doing some cleaning and I got upset. I have mild autism and I barely melt down. But I had a melt down because there was a spider and it took me a whole two minutes to get the hose on the vacume to suck it up.

That said...

As well as all else with my being a Butch and Asexual...


I think I just more like how some women look and sound more than anything.


I don't want friends and a partner.

Just being is hard enough as is and I rather continue the rest of my life as I am without those two.

I'm just glad to get through each day at this point. (32 I am.)

Is there anyone else the same or kinda the same?

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Waiting for sex

So I just read a post about an allo heterosexual guy who has been single for 3+ years and now has a girlfriend, but she doesn't want to have sex immediately and is asking him to wait a couple of months, which he is finding incredible annoying and might break up over it.

This is so weird to me - this isn't to say all allos are weird, but plenty of people agreed with him in the comments so I am just so confused. Like if he breaks up, he won't have sex until he finds another girl, which might not happen for a few years again. So why would he break up with a girl he could have sex with in a couple of months, just to be alone? Like why give up sex in three months because you can't wait, when you won't have any sex if you break up????

Does your partner witholding sex build up resentment for them, so much you want to leave them over it just to hurt them back or something? Or does it just remove all your feelings for that person? Or is this guy just weird? Like why is being single better than being with a person who might not want sex immediately?

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I’m very confused

I’m a 27 year old autistic male identifying with my biological sex (male). I’ve recently begun to wonder about asexuality relating to me.

I grew up pretty religious so my sexuality was pretty tamped down, but I have had my fair share of sex with men. The issue I’ve run into is that… I don’t really like sex. I don’t like the sensory stuff, I don’t love kissing, I don’t love bodily fluids on me. The sensory stuff is a nightmare.

I’m dating a guy right now and he has a pretty high libido. But I love him so deeply. But he’ll ask me about my fantasies or kinks and I have legitimately no idea, cause I don’t think about those. I do see attractive men and will have a sort of bodily response (erection, or nerves). But I don’t really… think about having sex with them. If I find them attractive I’m more like ooh talking to them is so hot.

Guys seem to be way more sexually attracted to me than I am to them. I actually feel like sex is a waste of my time, or a waste of our time. And I just feel irritated having to do it. And I often lose my erection during sexy time for like no reason.

I just don’t understand if, like… that means I’m asexual… cause I do find men attractive, and like… I have had sex and like… I’m not against it? But like… if I get aroused at a man, not even thinking about sex, just like them as aesthetically pleasing?

I’ve never had a celebrity crush, really. Like, people say ohhhh that man is so hot I would have sex with him. But I just like see them as hot and have rarely ever had a sexual thought.

I usually use porn when getting off, but I mostly just get aroused by the mechanics of it all and the sounds. But I don’t know that I have ever really WANTED sex???


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I saw this on Tumblr. Never thought of it like that. What do you think
https://i.imgur.com/369fU9R.png

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Why are some allos like this?
https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1lqxiy7

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Borger!
https://redd.it/1ls5bm3
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I made a hat :)
https://redd.it/1ls3g89
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Welp, this i y sign to never talk to strangers :D

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Found at Paris pride, what do we think of this ?
https://redd.it/1lsb0xb
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Accidentally mixed the perfect soap
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sex is disgusting

Any time I read about sex or get shown sexual content or have sex in real life I feel disgusting and ashamed

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