This you guys?
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I was straight all along but I was too dumb to realise it.

Im making this post because i don't want other people making the same mistakes as me and going through the frustration that i went through.
Basically my thing was that I never liked sex, never wanted to have it, sure fantasizing was cool but actually just imagining myself doing it for real was just disgusting.
I never had a lack of sexual attraction.
Eventually I found out about asexuality and labeled myself as one even if now when looking back i clearly wasn't one.
I thought that not liking sex meant that I'm not actually sexually attracted to people and that i idk just like how they look or something.
But that wasn't the case.
This led me to go through every single identity in existence ti try to find one that fits, but there wasn't one under the asexual spectrum, because i wasn't asexual.
I was a straight guy in denial.
So yeah if you don't like sex but do find people sexually attractive then you are most likely straight. This isn't a scientific discovery of fhe century but it helped me so it may help someone else, and i hope it does.
Good bless you and yeah, bye.

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What is " dating "?

Guys , can someone explain to me what does " date "mean , please? Im not sure i understood it right , is it people meet in restaurants and then they do s3x, or chatting with touching or it's different?!

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I’m honestly glad to be asexual for the sex part of me.

Like driving; one of the many things I can't do despite knowing how due to the version of mild autism that I have...

While I know sex inside and out; I just don't care for it.

I am a Cis Butch Lesbian by definition and technically speaking. But I'm also asexual. I just don't want to have it.

My acne is trying to reserface because last night I got a hair trim and the razor for over by my ear; I now have zits where the ear piece of my glasses sits where eye liner wings would be if you wore it. So touching is a no. But I never cared for sex to begin with. But I'm not worried. It will go away and I'll be fine. It always happens once in July then gone till next July. I have the Grunge woman pixie cut of the 1990's using The Cranberries and Garbage Band as your example so it won't come back till next July then poof.


But with that; while I will kiss; I'm not in favor of my face being touched while it happens.

I also will cuddle. But only the cuddle where I'm on my back and the other leans on me however that be as other cuddles I will burn up. For the life of me I can only sleep on my back.


I love being Asexual as well as all else me.

Do you love being Asexual as well as all else you?

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A mission from a game called "Electrician Simulator"
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confused if i’m ace

CW for sexual talk

I used to be sex repulsed, I won't get into the whole story because it's not necessary but basically I'm not as much any more. Like 6 months ago I started mastrubating to the thought of sex but as characters. Not me. Like I was a seperate person and the person I was having sex with doesn't exist. I had never done this in my whole life in fact it previously would have repulsed me. Is this an ace thing? I used to cry about being ace because I wanted to be normal so bad, I started trying to mastrubate to normal stuff to un-ace myself. I'm okay with being ace now obviously but now I still do the previously mentioned thing. Is it ace to only imagine sex within like characters?

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Acephid or something it came to me in a dream
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"Ace" friend makes me uncomfortable

I have a friend (23F) who I have been friends with for almost a year now. She told me at the beginning of out friendship that she is Ace. I had never met anyone Ace before so I was confused why she would have like tindr hook ups and things of that nature if she was Ace. (i knew she was having sex bc i purchased her a pregnancy test at one point). she informed me that Ace people can have sex and still be ace.
She said it was the way she thinks about sex that makes her asexual. That she doesn't like sex and she thinks its gross.
I immediately related to her- sex is a complete sensory overload for me. I hate my skin feeling wet and i think all genitals are really hard to look at- even harder to touch. I actually don't like kissing either- especially with tongue. To the point I don't make out with / kiss people anymore and I have been celibate for 6 months. So i felt safe to fully be myself around her without the fear of being sexualized.

More to the point- when we would get drunk together she would start making advances at me. To the point where I became uncomfortable. coming super close to my face and saying things like "don't you just wanna kiss me?" "just a little peck" and she would twerk on me and also like bounce her b00bs in the middle of our conversations and wait for me to react. But when I would back up or tell her like hey youre making me feel weird like you're trying to do something with me- she would always say "well im asexual and you're the one sexualizing me."

Am I over sexualizing her and her actions/ words?

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Are Ya'll really having fictional crushes?

Maybe this subreddit isn't the best place to ask this but do people genuinely have crushes on celebrities or fictional characters. I'm Ace and Bi but have also considered if I fall on the aro spectrum a little bit. Like I do like people romantically often and do want romantic relationships. But like the idea of just seeing someone and having romantic feelings for them doesn't make any sense to me. Like I understand finding someone you first see pretty and maybe developing feelings after maybe like 2 weeks of knowing them but like right away?? I can't tell if these people are joking 😮‍💨.

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How can people have sex??

How can people have sex without getting embarrassed? Honestly I don't get it. I feel like it'd be really awkward

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Is anyone else "gender-apathetic"?

So, I'm cisgender, and identify as male, but I don't really care. As far as I'm concerned, the only way I really care about my gender is in what bathroom I use, and going to a couple of men-only AA meetings. In how I would describe myself, male is way down the list. I don't know if this is an asexual thing, or an autism thing, or just a me thing, or something else.

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am i asexual?..

hello everyone! i need an advice. i’ve never been romantically or sexually attracted to anyone. moreover, i’m repulsed by physical touch by real people. but, i’m in love with a fictional character and i want him both sexually and romantically. yet i can’t imagine being like this with real people…is there a name for this? am i asexual? thank you! 🩵

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Possibly Asexual maybe

I have no interest in sex, find it gross, find sleeping with someone or taking a shower with someone gross, find cum and the act of it gross, anything to do related to sex gross except kissing and maybe cuddling only. Kissing I guess okay but don't really like making out either it does not interest me at all!

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In Need Of Your Support and Stories


Please flood this with real stories/experiences where having an allo partner and sticking with them works/ed out. No matter what it looks like. I just really need it right now. #asexualwomen #audhd #aceswithallos #whendoestheguiltpass

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How can you know if you don’t feel sexual attraction or if you are just good at controling them?


Hello, my apologies if this post sounds offensive. But there was something on my mind lately abt this.

Bc its kind of hard to know if…a person is ace ( don’t feel sexual attraction ) or if they are not.


Especially if you are questioning. I again am sorry for the excesive post. I Will just try my best to not do that so many Times when i question something bc there are some ppl who pointed it out and found it creepy. Which was really not my intention and i really apologise.

Its just that i am having a very…VERY hard Time to try and find myself. Heck i have literally no one to talk to abt this since most ppl dont know asexuality. So i am here bc of this.


Sooo yeah. I would like to start of with that. Bc i might have found out that i have misunderstood sexual attraction my whole entire Life bc…..Yeah

Its a very long story, i dont wanna go into details ( newsflash…you did went into details ) but all i remember was that i thought it was admiring someone a lot and just wanting to see, feel or hear them non-sexually.

Until i found out it was not. And found out abt asexuality ( at first i didnt understood it bc it wasnt very specific until they described what sexual attraction is and other kinds of split attraction models and this is how i found out that i didnt relate to sexual attraction at all. And realized that this whole Time i wasnt feeling sexual attraction. Soo yeah )


l dont get it bc i dont Even know if i still feel it bc after i found out abt asexuality, i started having the words most evil FRICKIN BRAIN EVER DEVELOPPED. In a very awkward details, it have me sexual intrusive thoughts. Very. VERY BADLY.

It Even appeared if i found someone aesthetically/sensually attractive and then these thoughts would pop up Even though i didnt Even enjoyed it.

Like, i could just look at someone i find pretty and go ‘’ wow, they are so pretty ‘’

But then my brain would go ‘’ it means ya wanna bang them. You find them pretty then you wanna bang them ‘’ and Even sometimes give me intrusive images which makes me feel uncomfortable.

These thoughts gotten so bad to the point that i went ‘’ is this sexual attraction? I didnt like it but what if it is??? ‘’
Or ‘’ wait, but i found them pretty and want to Touch them non-sexually. Does this mean that it Will lead to sexual attraction and that i am preventing myself to feel it? ‘’


So i searched abt sexual attraction since then and ppl wouldn’t say how it feels. They just say ‘’ you know it when you feel it ‘’ WHEN I DONT KNOW WHAT I FEEL

I dont know if i feel sexual attraction or if its another form of attraction bc…it feels strong to the extend that i wouldn’t know if its sexual attraction or not.

But then someone who was allo, decided to say that ‘’ when you first feel it, you might feel uncomfortable or Even feel bad for having sexual thoughts abt them like that. But its ok since its sexual attraction and its normal to feel it ‘’

….ok, thank you for the identity crisis you just gave me. First off, i know its normal to feel sexual attraction bc i was taught that it WAS normal ( and i still think it is ) but this comment made me think that i was repressing sexual thoughts/ attraction for ppl ngl. It has gotten so bad to the point that if i get intrusive thoughts that makes me uncomfortable, that are unenjoyable and very distressing. It would make me think of this comment and i would go ‘’ what if you are repressing your sexual attraction for others and actually have sexual shame? ‘’ or more so of a line ‘’ what if you are forcing yourself not to like sex bc you are repressed and want to just forced yourself on labels for attention ‘’
( i also dont feel bad abt these intrusive thoughts. Bc it had nothing to do with the person, but the thought itself is very unenjoyable for me. Especially since i done see them that way nor feel that way for them i think. And also bc i dont think abt them intentionally )

Now this has made me STOPPED using labels cuz WTH man?


This has gotten so

worse to the point that EVEN SENSUAL ACTS STARTED TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE FOR ME. Why?

Bc after finding out abt asexuality, this has made me realise my surroundings more often and how ppl feel. And i have also noticed ppl calling sensual attraction as something sexual bc they said that sensual attraction leads to sexual attraction that makes you LEAD TO SEX AFTERWARDS.

This got stuck in my head to the point sexual intrusive thoughts came in anytime when i enjoy sensual thoughts and or daydreams. And then it made me question if i wanted to lead to sexual things or if i genuinely didnt enjoy it.

But anytime i just say ‘’ no, i dont want to lead it to that. I dont feel the urge to do that with someone. I didnt enjoy these thoughts at all ‘’

I would have this weird feeling in my chest as if i am lying abt it to the point that i go to FRICKIN GOOGLE ABT IT…..WHY

I found out abt OCD. Talked abt it with my therapist which they agreed on that.

But it still didnt make me feel better since i still dont know if i feel sexual attraction or not bc idk if its my sensual attraction that is just very strong ( i also have arousal. But it never was addressed )
Or if its sexual attraction and i am somehow denying that it is. yayyyyy


But then i Heard abt sex-repulsed allo, but i STILL DIDNT KNEW IF ITS THIS BC I DIDNT KNEW IF I ACTUALLY FELT SEXUAL ATTRACTION OR NOT
.


Until i thought ‘’ do you actually nlt feel sexual attraction or are you just good at controling yourself ‘’

This is where it made me have a crisis bc i get intrusive thoughts that includes something of what i call GROINAL RESPONCE ( they suck btw )
And it gives me uncomfortable sensations that i dont like bc it makes me feel like a fraud and that i am somehow forcing myself to be asexual EVEN THOUGH I DON’T LABEL MYSELF THAT WAY. I just go there bc i relate to all of this. I never knew sexual attraction would be so hard to indicate or understand. Heck Even every single kind of attractions bc all of them were just confusing bc i wouldnt Even know what i feel.
Especially if i have an overwhelming love for ppl. Fluster around three and just wanna be close to them without leading to sex but i now feel like that have to think abt ppl that way bc of how ppl percieved relationships. But i dont want to to that. I dont feel like that for them ( i think ) and dont want to do it either



Idk if its bc i genuinely dont feel sexual attraction with sex-repulsion. Or if i actually do feel it but im just somehow goood at controling it to the point that its unoticeable ( with Sex-repulsion ).

Idk what i feel. I dont remember a Time feeling that way for others. Idk if its just puberty ( Thats why i am unlabeled ) Idk if i am somehow repressed. Idk if i am just good at controling myself or if i genuinely dont feel that way.



Its hard to know what i feel. Idk who to talk to abt this bc my parents are literal ANTI- LGBTS and no where in my enviorment knows abt asexuality. Heck its a bit….oversexualized.


What the heck am i?


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I opened up about a stress and my allo friend suggested getting laid

I was talking about a situation that took me back to feeling like being back to helpless childhood and this was the advice she gave. I get stress relief works like that for allos but goodness that's not the solution for everything?!

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I made a subreddit

I don't know what else to say, please join and help fellow ace/aro people or seek advice. It's still very new and i'll take any suggestions (like adding more flairs and stuff which I definetly want to do).

r/aromanticasexualhelp

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Real
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Describe what kind of ace you are in the worst way possible and I’ll try to guess

just something for fun! for example, mine would be “yes in theory, no in practice” (aegosexual)

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