I mean, I can't figure it out either. Then there is the whole doing it thing....
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Sex ist so... Underwhelming
Honestly idk what I expected in detail, but it definitely wasn't this....
Idk so many ppl make such a fuzz about it.
And it's not like I haven't tried a lot of stuff, but it's all so unexiting.
Idk for me it feels like attraction cannot make THAT much of a difference...
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Honestly idk what I expected in detail, but it definitely wasn't this....
Idk so many ppl make such a fuzz about it.
And it's not like I haven't tried a lot of stuff, but it's all so unexiting.
Idk for me it feels like attraction cannot make THAT much of a difference...
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I hate being asexual sometimes
I keep seeing/hearing about people my age on tiktok or irl doing some romantic and sexual things with each other or those tiktok rants with block blast in the background about crushes and all that and I'm jealous. But my jealousy isn't caused by me not having anyone to do these things with, it's because even if I did, I wouldn't want to do these things. But I want to want. That's my problem. I want to feel those things, but I don't and it hurts me. Because I feel like I'm missing out a lot.
Me and my best friend recently kissed (again, 2nd time) (it's a long story okay) and I didn't really feel anything. I just want to like it, but I don't think I do.
Not having sex is okay, because I'm still a teenager, so I feel like it would be too soon anyway, but just to feel the need to make out with someone yk..... I really hope that someday when I'm older, I'll just, idk, stop being asexual. But I don't think that's possible. If in 5 or 10 years time I'm still like this, I don't know how I'm gonna live. Whenever I watch a movie or a tv show and there is a kiss or sex scene I'm just hoping that someday as an adult, I could experience this. But asexuality is not something you can grow out of, is it?
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I keep seeing/hearing about people my age on tiktok or irl doing some romantic and sexual things with each other or those tiktok rants with block blast in the background about crushes and all that and I'm jealous. But my jealousy isn't caused by me not having anyone to do these things with, it's because even if I did, I wouldn't want to do these things. But I want to want. That's my problem. I want to feel those things, but I don't and it hurts me. Because I feel like I'm missing out a lot.
Me and my best friend recently kissed (again, 2nd time) (it's a long story okay) and I didn't really feel anything. I just want to like it, but I don't think I do.
Not having sex is okay, because I'm still a teenager, so I feel like it would be too soon anyway, but just to feel the need to make out with someone yk..... I really hope that someday when I'm older, I'll just, idk, stop being asexual. But I don't think that's possible. If in 5 or 10 years time I'm still like this, I don't know how I'm gonna live. Whenever I watch a movie or a tv show and there is a kiss or sex scene I'm just hoping that someday as an adult, I could experience this. But asexuality is not something you can grow out of, is it?
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How did you knew you were asexual? How are you supposed to deal with it?
Extremely introverted virgin. I've never had a romantic interest in real life, it has been either platonic or online. I've been thinking about being asexual since I was around 16yo, but it's confusing. I do want to have intercourse but my libido is really low, I get frustrated often, and thinking about actually having sex is kinda scary. I have never been able to get a partner, which is kinda sad imo. Any advice?
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Extremely introverted virgin. I've never had a romantic interest in real life, it has been either platonic or online. I've been thinking about being asexual since I was around 16yo, but it's confusing. I do want to have intercourse but my libido is really low, I get frustrated often, and thinking about actually having sex is kinda scary. I have never been able to get a partner, which is kinda sad imo. Any advice?
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What are the 10 most common things acephobes have said to you when you tell them you're asexual?
I got around to thinking today. I had this thought running around in my head. I was thinking of all the times I came out to people as asexual, and these negative experiences ran into my head.
In my case, I decided to make a list. I came up with 17 different responses I've heard in my lifetime by acephobes when I tell them I'm asexual. This is the list that I came up with just instantly. I wonder if anyone has heard any of the same responses I have or if anyone can relate. Let me know.
17 Acephobic things people have said to me.
1. "You just need to get laid!"
2. "How do you know you don't like sex? You've never tried it!"
3. "You're really missing out!"
4. "You just need a good screwing!"
5. "One night with me would change that."
6. "You're only saying you're asexual because you're ugly. No one in their right mind would ever want to screw you!"
7. "You're just repressed and need to live a little."
8. "You're just scared to have sex."
9. "You're only using asexuality as an excuse to avoid sex, because you believe sex is dirty."
10. "You're frigid!"
11. "You must have traumatized as a kid."
12. "You're just a loser who can't get laid. You couldn't get any if you even tried."
13. "You're just picky. You don't give anyone a chance."
14. "You're just an uptight prude."
15. "Nobody waits until marriage anymore, goody, two shoes!."
16. "You're just a weird geek and nerd that no one would ever want anyway."
17. "You're not a real man. You're just a little child who won't grow up."
So, that is my list. What are some things acephobes say to you? Anyone relate to my post?
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I got around to thinking today. I had this thought running around in my head. I was thinking of all the times I came out to people as asexual, and these negative experiences ran into my head.
In my case, I decided to make a list. I came up with 17 different responses I've heard in my lifetime by acephobes when I tell them I'm asexual. This is the list that I came up with just instantly. I wonder if anyone has heard any of the same responses I have or if anyone can relate. Let me know.
17 Acephobic things people have said to me.
1. "You just need to get laid!"
2. "How do you know you don't like sex? You've never tried it!"
3. "You're really missing out!"
4. "You just need a good screwing!"
5. "One night with me would change that."
6. "You're only saying you're asexual because you're ugly. No one in their right mind would ever want to screw you!"
7. "You're just repressed and need to live a little."
8. "You're just scared to have sex."
9. "You're only using asexuality as an excuse to avoid sex, because you believe sex is dirty."
10. "You're frigid!"
11. "You must have traumatized as a kid."
12. "You're just a loser who can't get laid. You couldn't get any if you even tried."
13. "You're just picky. You don't give anyone a chance."
14. "You're just an uptight prude."
15. "Nobody waits until marriage anymore, goody, two shoes!."
16. "You're just a weird geek and nerd that no one would ever want anyway."
17. "You're not a real man. You're just a little child who won't grow up."
So, that is my list. What are some things acephobes say to you? Anyone relate to my post?
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19 Acephobic Things People Have Said To Me When I Tell Them I'm Asexual.
I've been having this thought running around in my head lately. I was thinking of all the times I came out to people as asexual, and these negative experiences ran into my head.
In my case, I decided to make a list. I came up with 19 different responses I've heard in my lifetime by acephobes when I tell them I'm asexual. This is the list that I came up with just instantly. I wonder if anyone has heard any of the same responses I have, or if anyone can relate. Let me know.
19 Acephobic things people have said to me.
1. "You just need to get laid!"
2. "How do you know you don't like sex? You've never tried it!"
3. "You're really missing out!"
4. "You just need a good screwing!"
5. "One night with me would change that."
6. "You're only saying you're asexual because you're ugly. No one in their right mind would ever want to screw you!"
7. "You're just repressed and need to live a little."
8. "You're just scared to have sex."
9. "You're only using asexuality as an excuse to avoid sex, because you believe sex is dirty."
10. "You're frigid!"
11. "You must have traumatized as a kid."
12. "It's probably because of your religious upbringing, I'm sure."
13. "You're just a loser who can't get laid. You couldn't get any if you even tried."
14. "You're just picky. You don't give anyone a chance."
15. "You're just an uptight prude."
16. "Nobody waits until marriage anymore, goody, two shoes!."
17. "You're just a weird geek and nerd that no one would ever want anyway."
18. "You're not a real man. You're just a little child who won't grow up."
19. "No man would ever turn down sex. All men think about is sex."
So, that is my list. What are some things acephobes say to you? Anyone relate to my post?
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I've been having this thought running around in my head lately. I was thinking of all the times I came out to people as asexual, and these negative experiences ran into my head.
In my case, I decided to make a list. I came up with 19 different responses I've heard in my lifetime by acephobes when I tell them I'm asexual. This is the list that I came up with just instantly. I wonder if anyone has heard any of the same responses I have, or if anyone can relate. Let me know.
19 Acephobic things people have said to me.
1. "You just need to get laid!"
2. "How do you know you don't like sex? You've never tried it!"
3. "You're really missing out!"
4. "You just need a good screwing!"
5. "One night with me would change that."
6. "You're only saying you're asexual because you're ugly. No one in their right mind would ever want to screw you!"
7. "You're just repressed and need to live a little."
8. "You're just scared to have sex."
9. "You're only using asexuality as an excuse to avoid sex, because you believe sex is dirty."
10. "You're frigid!"
11. "You must have traumatized as a kid."
12. "It's probably because of your religious upbringing, I'm sure."
13. "You're just a loser who can't get laid. You couldn't get any if you even tried."
14. "You're just picky. You don't give anyone a chance."
15. "You're just an uptight prude."
16. "Nobody waits until marriage anymore, goody, two shoes!."
17. "You're just a weird geek and nerd that no one would ever want anyway."
18. "You're not a real man. You're just a little child who won't grow up."
19. "No man would ever turn down sex. All men think about is sex."
So, that is my list. What are some things acephobes say to you? Anyone relate to my post?
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A comment I made on a post from u/TrippleATransGirl inspired me to make this meme
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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Anyone knows why there are more female aces?
Idk if any real tests confirmed this is truth, but i rearly see asexual man (even tho i am one myself).
Is this true? And do you know why is that if it is true?
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Idk if any real tests confirmed this is truth, but i rearly see asexual man (even tho i am one myself).
Is this true? And do you know why is that if it is true?
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Trying to understand myself
Trying to understand myself I am a 38 year old woman. I have had sex with a few non-serious men, but I did not like it at all. In fact, the smell of bodily fluids and the feel of someone entering my body was … well… icky. Just hearing people talk about sex or make sexual jokes or references makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed. Sure, I have had dreams about having physical non-intercourse intimacy that have woken me up feeling breathless and tingly down there which I enjoyed. And reading a book with a good but non-specific scene between two people in love can sometimes make me feel tingly down there. However, as I said, any blatently obvious or even subtle references to actual sex or sexual acts makes me very uncomfortable. I don’t have any particular attraction toward any specific gender, but occasionally I feel a plutonic attraction toward someone I meet (man or woman). I have never had a serious relationship with anyone that lasted more than a week or so and I have not had any kind of relationship other than just friends since around 2014. And definitely no sex since then either. But, I do not want to be alone forever. I want to find a life partner. But I don’t even know what I am. Am I asexual or something else? And how can I find others like myself who I can get to know and even platonically date?
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Trying to understand myself I am a 38 year old woman. I have had sex with a few non-serious men, but I did not like it at all. In fact, the smell of bodily fluids and the feel of someone entering my body was … well… icky. Just hearing people talk about sex or make sexual jokes or references makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed. Sure, I have had dreams about having physical non-intercourse intimacy that have woken me up feeling breathless and tingly down there which I enjoyed. And reading a book with a good but non-specific scene between two people in love can sometimes make me feel tingly down there. However, as I said, any blatently obvious or even subtle references to actual sex or sexual acts makes me very uncomfortable. I don’t have any particular attraction toward any specific gender, but occasionally I feel a plutonic attraction toward someone I meet (man or woman). I have never had a serious relationship with anyone that lasted more than a week or so and I have not had any kind of relationship other than just friends since around 2014. And definitely no sex since then either. But, I do not want to be alone forever. I want to find a life partner. But I don’t even know what I am. Am I asexual or something else? And how can I find others like myself who I can get to know and even platonically date?
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Worst part about being ace
You know the worst part about being ace, there are so many people, aces included who are sex neutral/favorable, included me. So everyone tells you that when you find the right guy, it's okay to have sex with him once in a while just to make him happy. But if that's the case, why can't we just sleep with everyone and anyone to make everyone happy? Let's just do charity. I guess that's why so many aces act hypersexual. Then, people will say no, choose someone based off of romantic attraction and sleep only with them. But why? If you don't really really crave that action/activity then why should you do it? Doesn't make sense. This is just a vent. Dear mods, please take this down if you want. You guys anyways delete a lot of my posts. I will delete this myself later, once my anger subsides.
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You know the worst part about being ace, there are so many people, aces included who are sex neutral/favorable, included me. So everyone tells you that when you find the right guy, it's okay to have sex with him once in a while just to make him happy. But if that's the case, why can't we just sleep with everyone and anyone to make everyone happy? Let's just do charity. I guess that's why so many aces act hypersexual. Then, people will say no, choose someone based off of romantic attraction and sleep only with them. But why? If you don't really really crave that action/activity then why should you do it? Doesn't make sense. This is just a vent. Dear mods, please take this down if you want. You guys anyways delete a lot of my posts. I will delete this myself later, once my anger subsides.
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I'm feeling ashamed of my sexuality right now.
As an aegosexual, I am sex repulsed, but I can feel sexual attraction. I am conflicted by this. I am also ashamed of the fact that I actually like to fantasize about sex. I hate sex, but just the real one. I quite like the imaginary one and that feels shameful to a sex repulsed person like me.
I don't know, I'm just really confused and ashamed right now.
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As an aegosexual, I am sex repulsed, but I can feel sexual attraction. I am conflicted by this. I am also ashamed of the fact that I actually like to fantasize about sex. I hate sex, but just the real one. I quite like the imaginary one and that feels shameful to a sex repulsed person like me.
I don't know, I'm just really confused and ashamed right now.
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I was straight all along but I was too dumb to realise it.
Im making this post because i don't want other people making the same mistakes as me and going through the frustration that i went through.
Basically my thing was that I never liked sex, never wanted to have it, sure fantasizing was cool but actually just imagining myself doing it for real was just disgusting.
I never had a lack of sexual attraction.
Eventually I found out about asexuality and labeled myself as one even if now when looking back i clearly wasn't one.
I thought that not liking sex meant that I'm not actually sexually attracted to people and that i idk just like how they look or something.
But that wasn't the case.
This led me to go through every single identity in existence ti try to find one that fits, but there wasn't one under the asexual spectrum, because i wasn't asexual.
I was a straight guy in denial.
So yeah if you don't like sex but do find people sexually attractive then you are most likely straight. This isn't a scientific discovery of fhe century but it helped me so it may help someone else, and i hope it does.
Good bless you and yeah, bye.
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Im making this post because i don't want other people making the same mistakes as me and going through the frustration that i went through.
Basically my thing was that I never liked sex, never wanted to have it, sure fantasizing was cool but actually just imagining myself doing it for real was just disgusting.
I never had a lack of sexual attraction.
Eventually I found out about asexuality and labeled myself as one even if now when looking back i clearly wasn't one.
I thought that not liking sex meant that I'm not actually sexually attracted to people and that i idk just like how they look or something.
But that wasn't the case.
This led me to go through every single identity in existence ti try to find one that fits, but there wasn't one under the asexual spectrum, because i wasn't asexual.
I was a straight guy in denial.
So yeah if you don't like sex but do find people sexually attractive then you are most likely straight. This isn't a scientific discovery of fhe century but it helped me so it may help someone else, and i hope it does.
Good bless you and yeah, bye.
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What is " dating "?
Guys , can someone explain to me what does " date "mean , please? Im not sure i understood it right , is it people meet in restaurants and then they do s3x, or chatting with touching or it's different?!
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Guys , can someone explain to me what does " date "mean , please? Im not sure i understood it right , is it people meet in restaurants and then they do s3x, or chatting with touching or it's different?!
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