Before Pride Month ends, I bring ACE CHARACTERS (Click for full drawing)

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ACE ANTHEM!!!
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Need advise on how to navigate my sexual identity

I recently discovered that I could be asexual. In my current relationship, both my boyfriend and I noticed that I wasn’t initiating sex most of the time. At the time, I thought I just had a very low sex drive. However, it started to negatively affect my relationship with my boyfriend (who is a hetero male) when it came to sexual intimacy so I did a lot of reflecting. I realized that I don’t enjoy having sexual intercourse as much as I enjoy pleasuring myself. I also just have very little interest in it but don’t mind doing it if it pleases my boyfriend. The one thing I don’t understand is that when I think about the things that turn me on while I’m masturbating,I have to picture other people having sex. I can’t picture myself and my boyfriend having sex. The thought of me being involved turns me off.
Even though my boyfriend has a pretty low sex drive, its confusing for him because he wants to have sex with me and only me but feels uncomfortable having sex with me knowing that it’s not something I enjoy. I’d like some advice/tips/more information on how we can navigate this.

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I dumped my ex who kept trying to convert me into a trophy wife.

I just got out of a four-month relationship with my ex, after several months of her pressuring me into sex.

What's worse is that it was subtle, and built up over time. This is someone who I told, right off the bat, that I was asexual and explained what it was.

The other part that makes me genuinely angry, was saying to her that feminine things hurt me, only for her to continually push more and more feminine things onto me. When we met, I thought i was genderfluid and told her I lean masculine, since feminine things are painful and I go by they/them.

She continually misgendered me, bought me lesbian-themed items and got me a lesbian bracelet. Every time I would talk to her, there'd be something she'd say/do to force me back into the closet and I was absolutely miserable. Especially with the guilt-tripping into sex. Each time I would say no and she would continue to nag me like a horny dog. This went on for months.


I realised how miserable I was, because she gradually became so toxic and dismissive of me, but the last straw was her doing something extremely dangerous/stupid and me warning her about it, only for her to talk to me in such a condescending manner, like I was a stupid infant.


I straight up dumped her and finally came out as a trans man, saying how miserable I was in the relationship. She never acknowledged me coming out, just asking if we could be friends, since she was still desperate to try and bang me in the future. I'm so glad I never let her pressure me into sex, and if I ever get into a relationship again, it will be in a poly group, so no one harasses me for sex ever again.


The reason I'm saying this, is because if you ever have a gut feeling or find yourself feeling miserable since dating someone, or find yourself isolated, then that relationship isn't right for you and it's time to get the hell out.


As a proud, trans man who is transitioning and being the happiest he's ever been in his life, and a very proud ace, don't let horny, abusive assholes push you into a closet. You deserve better, just like I did. And yes, women can use abuse tactics, as she worked to isolate me.


My ex is an abusive, horny narcissist who only cared about turning me into a trophy wife. She objectified me, and constantly turned the conversation to her or to sex. Even when I was talking about an abusive situation, in the same sentence, she would immediately spin it around to be about sex. She would constantly shut down any masculine traits she would see me do, continually trying to shove me back into the 'hetero-gendered' closet.


With other people, she's supportive if they're trans but for me she would constantly undermine and tear me down, until I was almost always just in her room. She was disgustingly cruel and two faced, incredibly toxic and self-centered, hypocritical- the lot.


Once I realised I no longer wanted to be around her, I became excited to finally be free from the toxicity, drama and the sexual obsession she had with me. No one deserves to go through that. Not now, not ever.

Should your partner ever harass or pressure you into sex, you are more than in your right to end the relationship and dump their ass. Some people will act like they're okay with aces and will subtly try to pressure you over time, so you don't realise it. The moment someone even hints at it, that's your sign to bail on that relationship. That's what I wish I had done earlier.


So here I am now, finally transitioning and being the happiest man in the world, but also knowing that if I end up in any relationships in the future, the moment someone even hints at sex, to dump them in a heartbeat. Asexuality is valid, I am valid.


\-Sincerely, a very happy, asexual man!

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Found this drawing I made a year ago. Thought yall would like it
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Can I vent about how Asexuality is getting hella muddied?

I need to state first that I fully understand that you can be Asexual and have low libido, be sex adverse, or a virgin (I'm certainly the last one). This isn't a rant about those people at all. If you don't feel sexual attraction, you're Ace! (or if you feel it only under certain conditions you're Demi :) )
With that out of the way though, I am frustrated that now just simply having low libido, or being sex adverse or a willful virgin is now being lumped under asexuality whether or not they feel sexual attraction.

At it's root, Asexuality has always been no sexual attraction. With Demi being sexual attraction but with terms and conditions. With romantic attraction being it's own happy little thing. And I know it's gatekeep-y and I'm sorry but I don't want anyone to go through my journey. I want them to know they don't feel sexual attraction and be validated that they're ace. Seeing people ace bullied online that they just need to 'take a boner pill' riles me up in all the wrong ways.

The reason I am against it is somewhat personal but also that I'm seeing another rise in 'your asexuality can be cured' because of those inclusions.
I went through hell on my Ace journey because I was bounced around to medical professionals by supposedly LGBT+ friendly therapists and psychiatrists, and doctors.
"There must be something wrong with you."
"There are medicines to fix it."
"It's because of X and that can be cured with therapy." and so on.

And what's worse is hearing some of the folks figuring themselves out at last being told to question who they are because of it and retreating back into the closet.
The most heartbreaking thing to read on one of my discords was someone admitting everyone (including doctors) were saying something was wrong with them when they came out, so they're only "Ace" until they can get fixed. They were asking how long it took the rest of us Aces until we were 'fixed' because the therapy they were going through didn't seem to work. A lot of folks helped them through it, but the thing is... they shouldn't have to. They felt no sexual attraction, it had zip all to do with their hormones or libido or the like.
And on top of that, I've seen non-ace low libido and willfully celibate people attack Ace folks who like sex (the action not the attraction) and drive them out of communities and that doesn't help anyone. It's confusing on all sides.
I am already tired of being told my asexuality is just a 'flaw' that can be 'fixed' and it's gotten so much worse with this, and I'm worried for the coming generations of Ace people. It feels like a slow form of sex positive Ace erasure.
I know my friend was upset with Parade (I think?) saying that Ace people felt no desire for sex, when he's very sex positive just doesn't feel the attraction. He felt invalidated and it broke my heart a bit.
Again, I don't have an issue with these people who fall under the umbrella of low libido/willful celibate but still feel sexual attraction, just that lumping us all in together harms both of us in different ways. I just don't consider it a sexuality, rather just a way a person is. Like being red-headed. And it would be weird if all red-headed people were lumped in with being, say, lesbians as being red headed doesn't necessarily mean they're attracted only to women, even if some lesbians have red hair.
I've struggled with expressing this, so I apologize if it comes off hateful or confusing, it's not meant to be. It's just frustration and fear. I'm not the best at expressing difficult ideals either. Thank you for wading through it. And I might completely be alone in this, and that's okay. Just want to vent the frustration.

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Got a warning for hating JK Pissling💔🥀
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recently broke up with gf and my underlining issue is asexuality is it possible to amend it work?

Hello, posting on side account because she knows my other account. I dont know where to start or how to say what I am asking.

We have our other issues that we have been working through together for sure, and the main one that seemed to have ended things for good, a fundamental difference is our sexuality.

We are both bi romantic but I am allo and she is ace. We are also both trans. When we started this relationship the conversation came up as her letting me know most of her ace tendencies are sex repulsion due to dysphoria. Having my own issues I tried to understand and we started a relationship. Down the road we tried many tactics, work around, methods of being sexually intimate that could work for both of us. But more often than not it left us both unsatisfied, grossed out, unhappy, and worst of all for her like something she felt was she needed to do in order to keep me.

I tried to be as reassuring as possible that this wasn't the case. Intimacy was always an issue, until it subsided, and communication around it did as well. I got more nervous to engage in other forms of intimacy other than sex, worrying she would feel it necessary, I pulled away, I left her feeling alone, and I did too in the process.

It wasn't until the conversation that started the end where she finally set a hard boundary. In some ways I am so happy and proud that she finally told me how she truly felt, and yet so upset because this is what I wanted. To know that she had 0 interest and to stop pursuing it.

She told me that she couldn't, wouldn't, will not be having sex, and that if that was a deal breaker then it needed to end. In the heat of the moment I told her that it might be. I am an allo person, someone who craves intimacy, one who feels like its one of the ways for a romantic connection to thrive.

I can't help but feel this need to push her away because I feel disgusting for the many acts we have done in our relationship leading to this point. She has told me many times not to feel shame towards any of it, that I am valid for craving something she cannot provide for me, I commend her for this, love her for this.

In the end this was one of the healthiest most fulfilling relationships I have ever been through even through all its trials and tribulations. We are fundamentally different in many ways and yet through those I could see it working out, coming to a compromise, figuring how to make us happy. But here I am lost.

I have asked friends for advice and many of them are allo, but my sister and her gf are an asexual and allo couple who have made it work longer than we had. our situations are very different and I cna see those differences clearly but in this regard I can't help but wonder why its working for them but not for me.

I dont picture a life where I never have sex again, but I also dont picture a life with out her in it. Im worried the friendship we had is tainted but sexual and romantic tension. I'm worried that through all our all other issues this will hurt her in ways I can never imagine, will not understand. Part of me wants to reach out and ask her if we can make it work, but i dont want to leave her where its ended here or worse but trying and making the same mistakes.

Weve asked many times is it possible during, and now that its ended I cant help ask again if its possible for us to work.



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Ace pride dragon sword pins!

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thoughts ?
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Acephobia and Lesphobia

Acephobia and Lesphobia
Vent
What the hell do some people get off thinking that I can't be both?

Do you do everything? DO YOU?!

No?

Well, I don't have to either.

I still kiss long as my face don't get touched because I'm not letting my acne come back.

I still cuddle long as only the one where one is on their back and the other leans on them a bit as other cuddles I'll burn up.

Good lord.

I may be specific in my wants and needs; desires. But I don't choose that and I also have mild autism. Pppft. I'm more than happy to give an in depth description; explanation of it too for "relating same as me don't feel alone" purposes.

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Y’all i am so cooked. My cousin caught me-



Ok soooo hi!
This might not make sense but i am literally freaking out and scared bc my cousin caught me from being on the asexual sub and i am literally freaking out rn. Im scared if he is gonna tell my mom man


Ok sooo, i was scrolling on the ace sub somewhere from my comments but then decided to put my phone away to do something else. I was in my cousins house, we were having a great Time and all watching shows on the tv and making stupid jokes.

All of this was fun until my STUPID COUSIN DECIDED TO GRAB MY PHONE AND OPENED TO SEE THE ASEXUAL SUBS.


He was literally jaw dropped and i scream so loud at the top of my lunes to the point that his mom came in to Ask who yelled.

I grabbed my phone, got scolded by my aunt. And everything went silent. I felted so awkward bc after this he started to feel very uncomfortable around me and all of that and this has made me go insane. Bc il my cousin at the back of my hand. He has the BIGGEST MOUTH OF ALL, ik very well he was abt to snitch to my mom rn.

Cuz lemme tell you this. This dude snitches as loud as possible. Literally louder then the gospels man….


After leaving my aunties house i mentioned it on why did he grabbed my phone without permission and then he said how he saw a sub talking abt sex and sexuality….BRO I AM SO COOKED RN

I felted so embarrassed i literally thought of brainwashing him man. Do you know for HOW LONG I KEPT HIDING ASEXUALITY FROM MY FAMILLY. FOR FIVE WHOLE YEARS.


Bro i am literally cooked. And he had the BALLS to tell me this ‘’ bro at least my pages are normal, yours talk abt this- ‘’



….SHUT UP DAWG YOU TALK ABT YOUR STUPID TESTOSTERONES ( he overshares everything ) AND TALKING ABT BALLS AND PENISES MAN.

And you think I AM WEIRD FOR TRYKNG TO UNDERSTAND MY OWN SEXUALITY AND OTHERS?????

This HYPOCRITICAL BABOON


Y’all i am so scared rn…My parents are the ultimate anti-lgbts. This is gonna be SO HORRIBLE if he snitches on me.


Pls, quickly, help me try to brainwash him.


What am i gonna do??????



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Transphobia in this sub

The transphobia here is ridiculous and no one cares. Trans people say hey can you not use this language and cis people go NO YOURE STUPID AND HURTING MY FEEWINGS. Like come the fuck on. A transgender person will know 100% more than any cis ally claims to know about trans issues. I’m sick of this sub. Have fun with your rampant transphobia and the people it harbors. Bye. ✌️

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