Im asexual :)

I literally just joined Reddit just for one episode of Big Mouth. Like, damn, it was so good. I think it really helped me understand asexuality better.

I mean, I kinda knew—or thought—I was ace, but I was never 100% sure, you know? Like sometimes I do like people, but I don’t want anything more. Just a good relationship, that’s it.

But man, that episode with the new guy who’s asexual? I felt so seen. It was amazing. I loved it. 😼🤙🏿

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my ace/demi outfit for a pride parade

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Any other aces feel like they're gonna be single forever?

I'm a 32 year old sex-repulsed asexual. I've been single for over 10 years and I feel like I'm never gonna be with anyone romantically at this point. I've met people who would be interested, but inevitably, sex is a huge part of their intimate lives and I just feel like I can't give them that. And I don't want to "compromise" by giving in to something I genuinely don't want. So, I'm more or less resigned to staying single for the foreseeable future.

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Non ACE to ACE dating

ACE to Non ACE dating

I 21M started recently dating a girl (19) and we hit it off pretty well. We were initially far away from each other so had all of our conversations either by call or text for a little. For about a week we would flirt, she asked to kiss or hold hands when we met, and I am all for it. After meeting, she followed through with her previous talk and we did those things. After a little while however, she seemed a bit more reserved, didnt come close while cuddling, no kissing. I initially thought she was just a bit scared to do those things or they made her nervous. After leaving her house one night, I talked with her through it. She had never heard of Asexuality or anything, but said it described her perfectly. She likes to think of those things, wants to try them, but is anxious the entire time she's physically close. She then told me her plan was to just sick up the shitty feelings she got and do them just to make me (or whoever she really ends up with) happy.
Now sex isn't super important to me, but I would like a wife with a desire for me. I care about this woman too much to let her be made uncomfortable by someone she's supposed to love for the rest of her life, and im fairly certain that if I do break it off with her she will just let herself be a doormat for a man that doesn't care.
Right now we are at a point where we both know that the other isn't the right match. I told her about some Ace dating apps, but she is hesitant.
Is there any advice anyone can give to either help her take the leap to being openly Ace(to herself mainly) or to me to ensure she doesn't go back to suppressing her feelings, next time for someone who maybe won't care

Edit:TLDR: woman im dating hides her asexuality to keep men, how do I help her not bury her sexuality

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Neck kisses

( hey, i don’t know what flair to use bc i am not exactly venting. I am ranting abt something. So i Hope that this flair is slightly similar to that )

Hi, i have rant abt this before and ima rant abt it again bc i am already tired of this world rn.


Number one, i love neck kisses, it feels good, sensual and i like it.

I never percieved it sexually bc to me they are just kisses on the necks and all. But ppl in my whole enviorment says its sexual. Like yeah, its ok to have an opinion abt it and its okay if you find it yourself sexual. But these ppl are just too much, cuz they say sh1t like this ‘’ no, they are sexual and sexual only. If someone liked neck kisses then they wanna find their g-spot to arouse the person ‘’



……STOP IT


WHYYYYYY.


So you’re telling me that if i would want to peck someone on the neck they are gonna assume that i am trying to find A G-SPOT????

ARE YOU SERIOUS RN?????


Bro, i mean yeah, neck kisses would mostly feel ticklish for me, but arousing? No tbh.



Im not saying ppl shouldn’t be, its okay if they find them arousing. But BRO….HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO KISS SOMEONES NECK WITHOUT THEM THINKING I WANNA DO SEXUAL THINGS TO THEM?????
DUDE I AM NOT TRYING TO FIND YOUR G-SPOT. I JUST WANNA KISS YOUR NECK BC I LIKE IT AND THATS HOW I SHOW AFFECTION. It is meant non-sexually when i do it. Im not trying to lead to something here


I just want to kiss ppls necks without ppl thinking its sexually intented. Like, NO THATD NOT WHAT I AM TRYING TO DO PLS STOP.


My whole enviorment literally thinks if you do one sensual thing then it sexual and sexual only and that you shouldn’t think otherwise bc sensual things lead to sex-

LET ME ENJOY MY SENSUAL NECK KISSES IN PEACE THANK YOU VERY MUCH.


I want sensual things. I want non-sexual SENSUAL THINGS MAN….it feels good for em and i like it. I find ppl sensually attractive LEAVE ME ALONE MAN.

I dont wanna lead it to sex bc…..why?

And at this point idk if i feel sensual attraction or sexual attraction ( or maybe both, but i doubt that i am feeling both. I think i am feeling only one of them )
My whole enviorment says sexual attraction is hugs cuddles kisses and Even though its not sexual, it doesnt matter bc its still sexual.

Ur joe King……right?

Like….i have a strong sensual attraction, so its so hard to tell if i feel sexual attraction. I can’t Even remember a Time feeling it…its insane.



But yeah, back to neck kisses.


i just wish neck kisses weren’t just percieved as sexual and just finding someone’s g-spot. Like, it can be more than that man. What if i want to me a sensual/ non-sexual affection?

I would like that man😭




Sooo yeah, the moral of the story is. Neck kisses aren’t always sexual for some ppl ( sure Hope so. Idk ). And stop making it think like its sexual and sexual ONLY ( heck forcing ppl to think this way )

Anyways Thats my rant, Hope you enjoyed it!












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Asexual male and realising that I probably will never have a healthy relationship

I speak from my personal experience and I can say that it’s just a too huge part of a relationship and 95% of the girls would either leave or cheat on you if you don’t want to do it with them. The only possibility would be finding someone who is also asexual too or has a low libido which is very rare. I just feel boring, miserable, hopeless and empty.

It’s not my intention to offend anybody by that but maybe someone is here that can give me an advice how to cope with this situation.

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Ace Nails!
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Ace Nails!!
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Can I still call myself asexual?

(Pls be nice)
Ive considered myself ace ever since I’ve learned what it meant
And I know it’s a spectrum but sometimes I feel like a poser calling myself ace even though I am sometimes doing it with my partner.
It’s just that I don’t feel like doing it that often especially not alone. And I’ve never felt any libido or any wishes to do it before I got with my partner
It’s kind of hard for me to get in the mood but when it’s happening I really enjoy it.

So can I still call myself ace?

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Can an asexual like neck kisses ( or giving neck kisses ) ?


My apologies if this question sounds off, i am just curious bat how you guys feel abt it.
I am asking this bc of stupid reasons ok.

I have posted abt it on a rant and i wanted to Ask a question abt it on how do you feel if thats ok. I have Heard that neck kisses are sexual and all ( for me, i dont find them that way ) but i wanted to know if asexuals could like neck kisses and all. And if neck kisses could be part of sensual attraction instead of sexual? Like, if someone could desire to give neck kisses but font find them sexually attractive but sensual?
Sooo yeah


I just wanted to know if asexuals can like neck kisses/ initiations in one?

How do you feel abt them?

I would like to know!

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I hope Y'all enjoyed this Pride month as much as I did <3
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Before Pride Month ends, I bring ACE CHARACTERS (Click for full drawing)

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ACE ANTHEM!!!
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Need advise on how to navigate my sexual identity

I recently discovered that I could be asexual. In my current relationship, both my boyfriend and I noticed that I wasn’t initiating sex most of the time. At the time, I thought I just had a very low sex drive. However, it started to negatively affect my relationship with my boyfriend (who is a hetero male) when it came to sexual intimacy so I did a lot of reflecting. I realized that I don’t enjoy having sexual intercourse as much as I enjoy pleasuring myself. I also just have very little interest in it but don’t mind doing it if it pleases my boyfriend. The one thing I don’t understand is that when I think about the things that turn me on while I’m masturbating,I have to picture other people having sex. I can’t picture myself and my boyfriend having sex. The thought of me being involved turns me off.
Even though my boyfriend has a pretty low sex drive, its confusing for him because he wants to have sex with me and only me but feels uncomfortable having sex with me knowing that it’s not something I enjoy. I’d like some advice/tips/more information on how we can navigate this.

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I dumped my ex who kept trying to convert me into a trophy wife.

I just got out of a four-month relationship with my ex, after several months of her pressuring me into sex.

What's worse is that it was subtle, and built up over time. This is someone who I told, right off the bat, that I was asexual and explained what it was.

The other part that makes me genuinely angry, was saying to her that feminine things hurt me, only for her to continually push more and more feminine things onto me. When we met, I thought i was genderfluid and told her I lean masculine, since feminine things are painful and I go by they/them.

She continually misgendered me, bought me lesbian-themed items and got me a lesbian bracelet. Every time I would talk to her, there'd be something she'd say/do to force me back into the closet and I was absolutely miserable. Especially with the guilt-tripping into sex. Each time I would say no and she would continue to nag me like a horny dog. This went on for months.


I realised how miserable I was, because she gradually became so toxic and dismissive of me, but the last straw was her doing something extremely dangerous/stupid and me warning her about it, only for her to talk to me in such a condescending manner, like I was a stupid infant.


I straight up dumped her and finally came out as a trans man, saying how miserable I was in the relationship. She never acknowledged me coming out, just asking if we could be friends, since she was still desperate to try and bang me in the future. I'm so glad I never let her pressure me into sex, and if I ever get into a relationship again, it will be in a poly group, so no one harasses me for sex ever again.


The reason I'm saying this, is because if you ever have a gut feeling or find yourself feeling miserable since dating someone, or find yourself isolated, then that relationship isn't right for you and it's time to get the hell out.


As a proud, trans man who is transitioning and being the happiest he's ever been in his life, and a very proud ace, don't let horny, abusive assholes push you into a closet. You deserve better, just like I did. And yes, women can use abuse tactics, as she worked to isolate me.


My ex is an abusive, horny narcissist who only cared about turning me into a trophy wife. She objectified me, and constantly turned the conversation to her or to sex. Even when I was talking about an abusive situation, in the same sentence, she would immediately spin it around to be about sex. She would constantly shut down any masculine traits she would see me do, continually trying to shove me back into the 'hetero-gendered' closet.


With other people, she's supportive if they're trans but for me she would constantly undermine and tear me down, until I was almost always just in her room. She was disgustingly cruel and two faced, incredibly toxic and self-centered, hypocritical- the lot.


Once I realised I no longer wanted to be around her, I became excited to finally be free from the toxicity, drama and the sexual obsession she had with me. No one deserves to go through that. Not now, not ever.

Should your partner ever harass or pressure you into sex, you are more than in your right to end the relationship and dump their ass. Some people will act like they're okay with aces and will subtly try to pressure you over time, so you don't realise it. The moment someone even hints at it, that's your sign to bail on that relationship. That's what I wish I had done earlier.


So here I am now, finally transitioning and being the happiest man in the world, but also knowing that if I end up in any relationships in the future, the moment someone even hints at sex, to dump them in a heartbeat. Asexuality is valid, I am valid.


\-Sincerely, a very happy, asexual man!

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