"How will you ever have kids?!" is such a stupid question when people find out I'm ace. Better than the other braindead questions in the ace convo tho lmao.
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Asexuality and being neurodivergent
Hi there,
I’m curiously wondering how many of y’all are neurodivergent. As someone who’s Ace and has level 1 autism I’ve felt the two go hand in hand.
Obviously you don’t need to be neurodivergent to be asexual, but at least for me I feel it’s closely linked with my sensory preferences.
Anyone else?
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Hi there,
I’m curiously wondering how many of y’all are neurodivergent. As someone who’s Ace and has level 1 autism I’ve felt the two go hand in hand.
Obviously you don’t need to be neurodivergent to be asexual, but at least for me I feel it’s closely linked with my sensory preferences.
Anyone else?
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Intimacy is not a Synonym for Sex
It just ticks me right off that many allos are only able to understand intimacy thru the lens of sex. Many do not seem to see other forms of intimacy as valid. It sucks that I will be accused of not loving ppl bc I couldn’t offer them sexual desire. It sucks that my desire is erased bc it doesn’t look like theirs. It sucks that no matter how much love I can offer, they will just knock the cup out of my hand bc I can’t offer anything carnal. I filled that cup with emotional vulnerability, acts of service, compliments, cuddles, support, etc…. But they don’t wanna drink it. All they wanna drink is sexual intimacy (maybe this metaphor isn’t working).
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It just ticks me right off that many allos are only able to understand intimacy thru the lens of sex. Many do not seem to see other forms of intimacy as valid. It sucks that I will be accused of not loving ppl bc I couldn’t offer them sexual desire. It sucks that my desire is erased bc it doesn’t look like theirs. It sucks that no matter how much love I can offer, they will just knock the cup out of my hand bc I can’t offer anything carnal. I filled that cup with emotional vulnerability, acts of service, compliments, cuddles, support, etc…. But they don’t wanna drink it. All they wanna drink is sexual intimacy (maybe this metaphor isn’t working).
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I’d love if there was an ace guide to visiting a gynaecologist
I’m 25 now and have still never been to a gyneochologist in my life, because unless you have period problems, just about every issue you can have usually has "sexually active" as the main risk factor. But every time you point that out you’re answered back with "there are OTHER factors too". Yet, even when being called in to check for ovarian cancer, the headline is "this is for you who are sexually active" and almost every other risk factor is in small text and worded like I don’t need to visit.
I wish there could be an ace guide to gyneachologists, because every time, it’s worded like "you should visit somewhat regularly, but it’s kinda useless, if you’re not sexually active". So which is it?!
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I’m 25 now and have still never been to a gyneochologist in my life, because unless you have period problems, just about every issue you can have usually has "sexually active" as the main risk factor. But every time you point that out you’re answered back with "there are OTHER factors too". Yet, even when being called in to check for ovarian cancer, the headline is "this is for you who are sexually active" and almost every other risk factor is in small text and worded like I don’t need to visit.
I wish there could be an ace guide to gyneachologists, because every time, it’s worded like "you should visit somewhat regularly, but it’s kinda useless, if you’re not sexually active". So which is it?!
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For those who don't want a partner, why not? And what type of connection are you okay with having instead?
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What's with the arophobia?!?!
Comments calling people who have trouble distinguishing friendships and romantic relationships "dumb" get upvotes while those calling out the arophobia get downvoted???
This is something many aro folks struggle with, me included. No matter how hard I try, I can't help but view romantic relationships as just friendships with a lot more expectations. That's the only difference to me. People can cuddle with friends, kiss them, even have sex with them without it being romantic.
This is part of my identity, but apparently it makes me dumb?
Ffs, have some solidarity with aromantics...
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Comments calling people who have trouble distinguishing friendships and romantic relationships "dumb" get upvotes while those calling out the arophobia get downvoted???
This is something many aro folks struggle with, me included. No matter how hard I try, I can't help but view romantic relationships as just friendships with a lot more expectations. That's the only difference to me. People can cuddle with friends, kiss them, even have sex with them without it being romantic.
This is part of my identity, but apparently it makes me dumb?
Ffs, have some solidarity with aromantics...
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Question for sex-favorable aces - libido and being sex-favorable
Sex-favorable ace here. I have written about my own experiences in previous posts so I'll save some time here.
We often here the phrase from people that they "need to get some", "need to get laid", "it's been a while since I got some", etc.
As a sex-favorable ace, I have sometimes felt something like this (maybe)....BUT It is due the libido aspect (some people say it is like an itch), not being drawn to sex itself if that makes sense.
Regarding asexuality - for me there are no hot skin flushes. No ravenous huger feeling. No need to take a cold shower. No need to "fan" myself, etc. Sex is mechanical. Pleasurable mechanical, sure, but still mechanical. I mean, I can think of my grocery list while I am having sex.
So there are basically three options if it has been a long time since the itch has been, well, itched - it may result in a wet dream, or can be addressed via masturbation or sexual intercourse.
Would the fact that I prefer sex to the other two options (masturbation and wet dreams) negate asexuality? I am not saying I am "using" my partner as a method of relieving one's libido, but to be blunt, for me it feels much better, plus there is general intimacy and bonding between myself and my wife that occurs.
Can anyone relate?
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Sex-favorable ace here. I have written about my own experiences in previous posts so I'll save some time here.
We often here the phrase from people that they "need to get some", "need to get laid", "it's been a while since I got some", etc.
As a sex-favorable ace, I have sometimes felt something like this (maybe)....BUT It is due the libido aspect (some people say it is like an itch), not being drawn to sex itself if that makes sense.
Regarding asexuality - for me there are no hot skin flushes. No ravenous huger feeling. No need to take a cold shower. No need to "fan" myself, etc. Sex is mechanical. Pleasurable mechanical, sure, but still mechanical. I mean, I can think of my grocery list while I am having sex.
So there are basically three options if it has been a long time since the itch has been, well, itched - it may result in a wet dream, or can be addressed via masturbation or sexual intercourse.
Would the fact that I prefer sex to the other two options (masturbation and wet dreams) negate asexuality? I am not saying I am "using" my partner as a method of relieving one's libido, but to be blunt, for me it feels much better, plus there is general intimacy and bonding between myself and my wife that occurs.
Can anyone relate?
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