Update on my previous post About doing it with my asexual friend




Hey everyone,
Just wanted to post an update on my previous post-

https://www.reddit.com/r/Asexual/s/aFtdS7Kwk8

About my asexual colleague/friend (F27) who had asked me (M23) to be her first, as she was confused about physical intimacy before her arranged marriage.

First of all, thank you to everyone who shared their thoughts, support, and perspectives, it really helped me think clearly.

So after we had that conversation, I took some time to reflect. And the next day, I sat down and spoke to her again. We had an open, honest, and respectful conversation about everything, her feelings, her fears, the pressure from her family, and why she felt the need to try sex in the first place.

I gently helped her see that doing something so intimate just for the sake of expectation or curiosity especially when it doesn’t align with how she truly feels might leave her more confused or emotionally conflicted. I reassured her that she didn’t need to prove anything, to herself or anyone else. And that no matter what, her identity is valid, and her choices are hers alone.

In the end, we mutually decided not to go ahead with it. There was no awkwardness or tension, just a lot of relief, clarity, and stronger trust between us. She actually thanked me for helping her see things more clearly, and I’m glad we could be there for each other without crossing a line that didn’t feel right.

We’re still very close. And I respect her even more now for being so vulnerable and honest. Just wanted to share this update to say that sometimes doing the right thing feels better than doing the easy thing.

Thanks again, Reddit. ❤️



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Do you guys know other animated TV series that has good asexuality representation?
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🐸 frog
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I made an ace bracelet!!!
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We’re heard of bi panic or gay panic…

What would gay panic be and if y’all feel you’ve experienced it what was it? 😂

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Pride St. Charles 2025 (Yes, they forgot the ace flag on this thingy but they did have a big ace flag off camera)

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Ace Flag Phoenix Pins

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Are You Aro (Advice)?

**Hi everyone!**



Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.



**Do any of these resonate with you?**

\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.

\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.

\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.

\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.



These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.



\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!

* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)

* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)

* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)

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I'm tired.
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How did you explain asexuality to your parents?

For those who have come out to their family, how did you guys explain asexuality to them? I'm about to come out to my parents and I don't want to get too complicated with all the possibilities of asexuality, I just want to tell them the basics (if they ask). How did y'all do it?

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Yet another example of what an ace could look like
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Confusion on whether I'm asexual or not

Hi everyone,

I'm a questioning asexual (17F) and for a long time, I wasn't aware of asexuality at all (or much of the queer spectrum, beyond being gay/lesbian/bi). I'm pretty sure I'm queer, but about 2 years ago I started noticing how it was odd that I experienced very little romantic/sexual attraction. Although I am still a teenager, I felt like it was difficult to relate to many of the attractions that my friends were expressing. I also remember telling my friends I had crushes without fully knowing that crushes meant romantic attraction (I more so experienced it as thinking they're a very interesting person or wanting to be friends with them). Therefore, I don't think I've had "crushes" in a very traditional sense, although I've had these "crushes" on both men and women.

However, recently, I've also felt kind of a pressure to get into a relationship. It could be because of influence from my peers (my peers often talk about relationships and wanting romantic ones), and also just being surrounded by the concept of romance in general. Every time I imagine myself in a relationship, I kind of get an "ick" feeling (which gets worse when I imagine anything related to intercourse). It might also be because I view myself as kind of awkward in general, so imagining myself in those scenarios creates more awkwardness.

Also, it doesn't help that I'm from an East Asian household that doesn't even know about asexuality at all and is homophobic in general. I genuinely just wish asexuality was more widely known or acknowledged because I feel like I wouldn't have as much of trouble grappling with my potentially asexual identity.

Thanks for any insight and sorry for the long post!

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For you, what is the worst pain (or fear) of being asexual?

For me, the worst pain of being asexual is that no one (except a few) understands me, but mostly no one does and it hurts me more because my parents and my sister don't want to understand what I am. There is also the fear of being alone and not finding someone who loves me just because I am asexual. Being judged and being forced to do something I don't want to do.

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