A friend wants to date me – feeling disturbed
I feel so unsettled. A couple of weeks ago, my friend admitted that he has a crush on me. He is very much aware that I'm on the aromantic-asexual spectrum, and we’ve had lots of open conversations about what that means. Personally, I am open to being in a relationship that resembles a "traditional romantic relationship" one day, given that my partner accepts who I am. After admitting his crush, I believed we were able to talk things through and continue as normal.
However, after hanging out with our mutual friends today, he told me that although there are some things in my identity that he doesn't fully understand, he'd be willing to try being in a relationship with me. He's an amazing person, and I would walk through fire for him, but I would not try being in a relationship with him.
For context, I broke up a year ago with a person who had a huge issue with me being aroace. That relationship left me deeply scarred, and I'm still healing from it. I'm currently also fighting severe treatment-resistant mental health issues that consume all my energy.
What my friend said just completely threw me off balance. I'm so confused and exhausted that I honestly don't know what I should do or how I should act. He knows about my health problems, and I referred to them when I told him that I'm not up for anything. I know attraction is natural, but knowing about his feelings makes me feel extremely disturbed, and I fear what he thinks or how he perceives me nowadays.
How should I handle this situation? How can we move on and keep being friends?
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I feel so unsettled. A couple of weeks ago, my friend admitted that he has a crush on me. He is very much aware that I'm on the aromantic-asexual spectrum, and we’ve had lots of open conversations about what that means. Personally, I am open to being in a relationship that resembles a "traditional romantic relationship" one day, given that my partner accepts who I am. After admitting his crush, I believed we were able to talk things through and continue as normal.
However, after hanging out with our mutual friends today, he told me that although there are some things in my identity that he doesn't fully understand, he'd be willing to try being in a relationship with me. He's an amazing person, and I would walk through fire for him, but I would not try being in a relationship with him.
For context, I broke up a year ago with a person who had a huge issue with me being aroace. That relationship left me deeply scarred, and I'm still healing from it. I'm currently also fighting severe treatment-resistant mental health issues that consume all my energy.
What my friend said just completely threw me off balance. I'm so confused and exhausted that I honestly don't know what I should do or how I should act. He knows about my health problems, and I referred to them when I told him that I'm not up for anything. I know attraction is natural, but knowing about his feelings makes me feel extremely disturbed, and I fear what he thinks or how he perceives me nowadays.
How should I handle this situation? How can we move on and keep being friends?
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Can asexual’s experience sexual attraction?
The definition of asexual is “People who experience LITTLE to no sexual attraction”. So that means asexual’s can experience sexual attraction? Like it’s just not as strong or maybe it’s less often?
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The definition of asexual is “People who experience LITTLE to no sexual attraction”. So that means asexual’s can experience sexual attraction? Like it’s just not as strong or maybe it’s less often?
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My collection of my pridesaur profile head shots I drew to kick off Pride Month :D Thinking about maybe doing more of of these with other identities in the future, feel free to leave suggestions! Preferably dinos that have a cool headshape and a fun pun to go along with ;D
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From the Asexual community on Reddit: My collection of my pridesaur profile head shots I drew to kick off Pride Month :D Thinking…
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"Men must make babies or they'll join gangs and destroy nations" - thought you all might have some opinions on this crazy take
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Does this annoy any other Aces?
When Allos say they "need" sex. Like the wording drives me mad! You don't NEED it, you want it... you need things like air and water and food, not sex.
Just one of those things that really annoys me, interested to see if anyone else feels the same way
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When Allos say they "need" sex. Like the wording drives me mad! You don't NEED it, you want it... you need things like air and water and food, not sex.
Just one of those things that really annoys me, interested to see if anyone else feels the same way
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