I Think I Am Asexual
I was wondering if I mostly don’t enjoy sex. Once in a great while I wanna have sex with someone. I want a relationship, but it’s very hard to find someone who is also asexual. Does anyone have any idea how to find people like me?
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I was wondering if I mostly don’t enjoy sex. Once in a great while I wanna have sex with someone. I want a relationship, but it’s very hard to find someone who is also asexual. Does anyone have any idea how to find people like me?
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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About love in movies/series
I like watching movies. What I've noticed, especially in romance or action movies with classic roles (hot girl from the bar hits on the hero, pretends to hate him, and then they make out at the end), is that sex is often portrayed as the ultimate proof of love. Why is a kiss often not enough? Or a verbal-only love confession without physical demonstration? Yes, sex sells. Yet it happens so often that it seems almost sterile. If I had to fuck someone first to prove that I love them, nah man, I'm out. What do you think about it?
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I like watching movies. What I've noticed, especially in romance or action movies with classic roles (hot girl from the bar hits on the hero, pretends to hate him, and then they make out at the end), is that sex is often portrayed as the ultimate proof of love. Why is a kiss often not enough? Or a verbal-only love confession without physical demonstration? Yes, sex sells. Yet it happens so often that it seems almost sterile. If I had to fuck someone first to prove that I love them, nah man, I'm out. What do you think about it?
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Struggles with my asexual boyfriend.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year. We started out long distance but he ended up moving in with me about 7 months ago. When we were apart and would visit each other sex was pretty good, couldn’t keep his hands off me. But after he moved in what was at my level of sexual intensity, almost every day or more, started to dwindle down. I am now lucky to have sex with him once a week. Sometimes it goes almost two weeks. I have brought it up before that it makes me feel like I’m the problem, losing attraction to me or something. He states it’s not me, he just cares more about the emotional side of things, and at another time even mentioned he’s nearly asexual. I am obviously not this way. I am a very sexual person with my own set of kinks and all that. I find myself more often needing to masturbate almost daily to help “scratch an itch” when we hardly are having sex. When we do have sex half the time it feels like he’s solely doing it to please me at a baseline level.
In the beginning he seemed super open to trying new things or giving me all my desires, as I would him. Tons of spicy conversations about what we want and would do etc. But when it came down to having each other full time none of those things came about. He’s gone down on me three times ever, hardly tries to get me to finish and just does the bare minimum to make me feel somewhat satisfied. It takes me leaving for a period of time to almost bring out the sexual desire for me and he’ll nearly give me everything I want, but once we’ve settled back into normal routine it’s like I don’t exist. I had a hard rejection of sex from him the other day and I just can’t get over it. It’s eating me alive. I feel undesired, self-esteem crushed, all the feelings of rejection.
I’m trying to figure out if he’s just asexual and how do we over come that together for something that can work for the two of us or if he’s possibly sexually repressed as I don’t think he’s always been this way so something is stopping him possibly. What are yalls thoughts? I’d love advice from others that have experienced something similar. I’ve never had this issue where I’m the sex fiend in the relationship and that level is not reciprocated.
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I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year. We started out long distance but he ended up moving in with me about 7 months ago. When we were apart and would visit each other sex was pretty good, couldn’t keep his hands off me. But after he moved in what was at my level of sexual intensity, almost every day or more, started to dwindle down. I am now lucky to have sex with him once a week. Sometimes it goes almost two weeks. I have brought it up before that it makes me feel like I’m the problem, losing attraction to me or something. He states it’s not me, he just cares more about the emotional side of things, and at another time even mentioned he’s nearly asexual. I am obviously not this way. I am a very sexual person with my own set of kinks and all that. I find myself more often needing to masturbate almost daily to help “scratch an itch” when we hardly are having sex. When we do have sex half the time it feels like he’s solely doing it to please me at a baseline level.
In the beginning he seemed super open to trying new things or giving me all my desires, as I would him. Tons of spicy conversations about what we want and would do etc. But when it came down to having each other full time none of those things came about. He’s gone down on me three times ever, hardly tries to get me to finish and just does the bare minimum to make me feel somewhat satisfied. It takes me leaving for a period of time to almost bring out the sexual desire for me and he’ll nearly give me everything I want, but once we’ve settled back into normal routine it’s like I don’t exist. I had a hard rejection of sex from him the other day and I just can’t get over it. It’s eating me alive. I feel undesired, self-esteem crushed, all the feelings of rejection.
I’m trying to figure out if he’s just asexual and how do we over come that together for something that can work for the two of us or if he’s possibly sexually repressed as I don’t think he’s always been this way so something is stopping him possibly. What are yalls thoughts? I’d love advice from others that have experienced something similar. I’ve never had this issue where I’m the sex fiend in the relationship and that level is not reciprocated.
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Trolls + Other Goobers
Hey so if you aren't asexual and you don't support/understand what asexuality is, please do not come into this subreddit and harass people. Also, don't tell us that we aren't asexual or that our definition is wrong, especially when YOURS is wrong. Okay I said what I needed to thank youu
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Hey so if you aren't asexual and you don't support/understand what asexuality is, please do not come into this subreddit and harass people. Also, don't tell us that we aren't asexual or that our definition is wrong, especially when YOURS is wrong. Okay I said what I needed to thank youu
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Can you have a chemistry with a person that is not sexual?
Ok sooo, i always thought the word ‘’ chemistry ‘’ meant getting along with someone well. It could be either as friendship, romantic, all of the above.
But i have noticed that ppl only talk abt sexual chemistry, which idk if i have been thinking ‘’ chemistry ‘’ wrong or if i am right and there is just different types of ‘’ chemistry ‘’ That is just over looked in a way ( i only no the chemistry science class from royale high campus 2. Soooooo yeh )
Soooo yeah, as i said, can asexuals experience a chemistry towards a person without the chemistry being sexual?
I would like to know if its possible
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Ok sooo, i always thought the word ‘’ chemistry ‘’ meant getting along with someone well. It could be either as friendship, romantic, all of the above.
But i have noticed that ppl only talk abt sexual chemistry, which idk if i have been thinking ‘’ chemistry ‘’ wrong or if i am right and there is just different types of ‘’ chemistry ‘’ That is just over looked in a way ( i only no the chemistry science class from royale high campus 2. Soooooo yeh )
Soooo yeah, as i said, can asexuals experience a chemistry towards a person without the chemistry being sexual?
I would like to know if its possible
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Sex repulsed and no kinks
Is anyone here sex repulsed without any kinks of any sort? Even amongst sex repulsed people I've met elsewhere seem to be very kinky and I'm the odd one out. I've never experienced a kink in my life and I highly doubt I ever will.
I'm isolated already due to being autistic and adamantly childfree.
In conclusion I'm a nightmare concoction of undesirable traits 😢
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Is anyone here sex repulsed without any kinks of any sort? Even amongst sex repulsed people I've met elsewhere seem to be very kinky and I'm the odd one out. I've never experienced a kink in my life and I highly doubt I ever will.
I'm isolated already due to being autistic and adamantly childfree.
In conclusion I'm a nightmare concoction of undesirable traits 😢
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Placiosexuality
Would someone please help me understand why placiosexuality is on the asexual spectrum? Because it sounds like it involves sexual attraction, or at least is consistent with someone who is allosexual.
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Would someone please help me understand why placiosexuality is on the asexual spectrum? Because it sounds like it involves sexual attraction, or at least is consistent with someone who is allosexual.
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Is it weird to feel like not coming out because it isn't important or will do anything?
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I NEED ASEXUAL FRIENDS
What the title says. I need more like minded people in my life. Message meeeeeeeeeee. I’m a 29 y.o. Male for context, and have absolutely no desire for sex. I don’t care what your gender is, message me!!
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What the title says. I need more like minded people in my life. Message meeeeeeeeeee. I’m a 29 y.o. Male for context, and have absolutely no desire for sex. I don’t care what your gender is, message me!!
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Maybe it's just commitment issues after all... or not?
I desire (almost) everything about a romantic relationship; the affection, the intimacy, etc. - everything except for the actual romance. In my ideal relationship, the other person doesn't have romantic feelings for me and I won't have romantic feelings for them. We'd never say we were dating, and if someone asks we'd say we're friends, and then kiss right after just to confuse the hell out of people.
I guess to most people it would sound like I just have fear of commitment, but idk why that would be the case because you need commitment for every kind of relationship, whether romantic, platonic, or even familial. I just don't like romantic commitment, I will admit that. On top of that, my brain simply doesn't register affection as romantic, which could be a sign that I am aro after all since as such I basically lack a "romance folder", so affection and stuff gets sorted into the "friendship folder" instead.
I don't have fear of commitment. I just don't like the romantic kind of commitment and am just an affectionate aromantic.
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I desire (almost) everything about a romantic relationship; the affection, the intimacy, etc. - everything except for the actual romance. In my ideal relationship, the other person doesn't have romantic feelings for me and I won't have romantic feelings for them. We'd never say we were dating, and if someone asks we'd say we're friends, and then kiss right after just to confuse the hell out of people.
I guess to most people it would sound like I just have fear of commitment, but idk why that would be the case because you need commitment for every kind of relationship, whether romantic, platonic, or even familial. I just don't like romantic commitment, I will admit that. On top of that, my brain simply doesn't register affection as romantic, which could be a sign that I am aro after all since as such I basically lack a "romance folder", so affection and stuff gets sorted into the "friendship folder" instead.
I don't have fear of commitment. I just don't like the romantic kind of commitment and am just an affectionate aromantic.
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