Being a sex-repulsed lesbian sometimes feels isolating—anyone else feel this?
I’m a lesbian who’s sex repulsed, and while I’m confident in my identity, there are days it just feels… impossible to find someone who truly understands.
Dating apps can be overwhelming and discouraging, especially when people equate desire with physical intimacy.
Sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever find a partner who sees and values intimacy in the ways I do.
If this resonates with you at all, I’d love to hear how you navigate it.
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I’m a lesbian who’s sex repulsed, and while I’m confident in my identity, there are days it just feels… impossible to find someone who truly understands.
Dating apps can be overwhelming and discouraging, especially when people equate desire with physical intimacy.
Sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever find a partner who sees and values intimacy in the ways I do.
If this resonates with you at all, I’d love to hear how you navigate it.
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Are my relationships going to fall apart because I’m asexual?
I’m not currently in a relationship, but I really want to have one. The dates, the special connection, it’s all so amazing. Except for the sex part. After looking through people’s experiences, most people in relationships expect to have sex, but I find that part disgusting and I’m very turned off by it. After talking to my mom about this, she said “sexless relationships always fall apart…all men want sex (she thinks I’m straight), etc”. So now I’m scared that I’ll never be able to have a romantic relationship because I’m asexual.
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I’m not currently in a relationship, but I really want to have one. The dates, the special connection, it’s all so amazing. Except for the sex part. After looking through people’s experiences, most people in relationships expect to have sex, but I find that part disgusting and I’m very turned off by it. After talking to my mom about this, she said “sexless relationships always fall apart…all men want sex (she thinks I’m straight), etc”. So now I’m scared that I’ll never be able to have a romantic relationship because I’m asexual.
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"Actually it's a euphemism for-" that's great, I'll still choose to interpret it as being about death/food/etc
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Im currently trying not to cry because i got myself into a sexual situation and i felt nothing.
I should’ve said no to him, but i didn’t because i thought i was attracted to him. and deep down inside i wanted to see if i actually felt sexual attraction. but the whole time we were on call i was trying not to have a breakdown because i felt so disgusted. i thought maybe once i could finally feel how others feel when they described sexual attraction..my hands are shaking and my private area hurts. im really trying not to cry
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I should’ve said no to him, but i didn’t because i thought i was attracted to him. and deep down inside i wanted to see if i actually felt sexual attraction. but the whole time we were on call i was trying not to have a breakdown because i felt so disgusted. i thought maybe once i could finally feel how others feel when they described sexual attraction..my hands are shaking and my private area hurts. im really trying not to cry
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I felt seen!!!!
I have an Ace pin on the dash of my car. I gave my coworker a ride and she asked me if I was Ace when she saw it. HOLY HECK BATMAN 😁🤗🖤💜🤍🩶
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I have an Ace pin on the dash of my car. I gave my coworker a ride and she asked me if I was Ace when she saw it. HOLY HECK BATMAN 😁🤗🖤💜🤍🩶
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How do you avoid being accused of being in a relationship with someone?
I've never been very good with communication, so I have very few friends, and I still have trouble communication with all but one of them. I talk to/hang out with her a lot simply because she is easier to talk to, as a result we understand each other better, and appear to be close. The problem that poses is we look like we are in a relationship. For context we are in high school. We have both told people that have asked if we are in a relationship "NO!", way to many times to count, yet they never belive us. Even my other friends who know we aren't in a relationship think we have feelings for each other. I won't lie, I am alterous, so I am perfectly fine being friends, and if she asked to be in a relationship with me I wouldn't say no, but I wouldn't ever ask to be in a relationship with her(nobody knows, and I don't want them to, they only know I'm ace). Most of the stuff we do together I would assume is just friendly, talking together and making each other laugh, going to concerts together, sitting together whenever we get the chance to(because of different class schedules), doing things with our other friends during (holloween, or birthdays, etc.). Apparently everyone else thinks we are dating though, because and I quote a friend on this "People don't normally invite just one person to go hang out with them late at night, multiple times, unless it is a date, she could have invited any of her other friends to come as well, but she only invited you.". I'll also add that I don't know whether she does actually like me as more than a friend or not, I have noticed she has never actually responded "no" when a mutual friend asks if we like each other. But back to the question, how do I avoid being accused of being in a relationship with her? Or is it just not going to stop because it's high school?
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I've never been very good with communication, so I have very few friends, and I still have trouble communication with all but one of them. I talk to/hang out with her a lot simply because she is easier to talk to, as a result we understand each other better, and appear to be close. The problem that poses is we look like we are in a relationship. For context we are in high school. We have both told people that have asked if we are in a relationship "NO!", way to many times to count, yet they never belive us. Even my other friends who know we aren't in a relationship think we have feelings for each other. I won't lie, I am alterous, so I am perfectly fine being friends, and if she asked to be in a relationship with me I wouldn't say no, but I wouldn't ever ask to be in a relationship with her(nobody knows, and I don't want them to, they only know I'm ace). Most of the stuff we do together I would assume is just friendly, talking together and making each other laugh, going to concerts together, sitting together whenever we get the chance to(because of different class schedules), doing things with our other friends during (holloween, or birthdays, etc.). Apparently everyone else thinks we are dating though, because and I quote a friend on this "People don't normally invite just one person to go hang out with them late at night, multiple times, unless it is a date, she could have invited any of her other friends to come as well, but she only invited you.". I'll also add that I don't know whether she does actually like me as more than a friend or not, I have noticed she has never actually responded "no" when a mutual friend asks if we like each other. But back to the question, how do I avoid being accused of being in a relationship with her? Or is it just not going to stop because it's high school?
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Relationship Experiences?
I consider myself Demisexual, but due to past circumstances I am very much sex repulsed in relation to my own body.
Recently I got rejected by someone, partially because of this.
I know a romantic relationship does not define me and is not the epitome of relationships. I have friends and family who I love dearly, but at the end of the day, I'd still like to have someone.
Finding other asexual people in my area is pretty difficult, especially as I also consider myself to be Demiromantic.
Is it always gonna be like this? Is there anyone in the same position as me who had positive experiences about it?
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I consider myself Demisexual, but due to past circumstances I am very much sex repulsed in relation to my own body.
Recently I got rejected by someone, partially because of this.
I know a romantic relationship does not define me and is not the epitome of relationships. I have friends and family who I love dearly, but at the end of the day, I'd still like to have someone.
Finding other asexual people in my area is pretty difficult, especially as I also consider myself to be Demiromantic.
Is it always gonna be like this? Is there anyone in the same position as me who had positive experiences about it?
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reposting bcs i made a mistake on my original post. newbie mistake. verry sorry hehe
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I Think I Am Asexual
I was wondering if I mostly don’t enjoy sex. Once in a great while I wanna have sex with someone. I want a relationship, but it’s very hard to find someone who is also asexual. Does anyone have any idea how to find people like me?
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I was wondering if I mostly don’t enjoy sex. Once in a great while I wanna have sex with someone. I want a relationship, but it’s very hard to find someone who is also asexual. Does anyone have any idea how to find people like me?
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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About love in movies/series
I like watching movies. What I've noticed, especially in romance or action movies with classic roles (hot girl from the bar hits on the hero, pretends to hate him, and then they make out at the end), is that sex is often portrayed as the ultimate proof of love. Why is a kiss often not enough? Or a verbal-only love confession without physical demonstration? Yes, sex sells. Yet it happens so often that it seems almost sterile. If I had to fuck someone first to prove that I love them, nah man, I'm out. What do you think about it?
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I like watching movies. What I've noticed, especially in romance or action movies with classic roles (hot girl from the bar hits on the hero, pretends to hate him, and then they make out at the end), is that sex is often portrayed as the ultimate proof of love. Why is a kiss often not enough? Or a verbal-only love confession without physical demonstration? Yes, sex sells. Yet it happens so often that it seems almost sterile. If I had to fuck someone first to prove that I love them, nah man, I'm out. What do you think about it?
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Struggles with my asexual boyfriend.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year. We started out long distance but he ended up moving in with me about 7 months ago. When we were apart and would visit each other sex was pretty good, couldn’t keep his hands off me. But after he moved in what was at my level of sexual intensity, almost every day or more, started to dwindle down. I am now lucky to have sex with him once a week. Sometimes it goes almost two weeks. I have brought it up before that it makes me feel like I’m the problem, losing attraction to me or something. He states it’s not me, he just cares more about the emotional side of things, and at another time even mentioned he’s nearly asexual. I am obviously not this way. I am a very sexual person with my own set of kinks and all that. I find myself more often needing to masturbate almost daily to help “scratch an itch” when we hardly are having sex. When we do have sex half the time it feels like he’s solely doing it to please me at a baseline level.
In the beginning he seemed super open to trying new things or giving me all my desires, as I would him. Tons of spicy conversations about what we want and would do etc. But when it came down to having each other full time none of those things came about. He’s gone down on me three times ever, hardly tries to get me to finish and just does the bare minimum to make me feel somewhat satisfied. It takes me leaving for a period of time to almost bring out the sexual desire for me and he’ll nearly give me everything I want, but once we’ve settled back into normal routine it’s like I don’t exist. I had a hard rejection of sex from him the other day and I just can’t get over it. It’s eating me alive. I feel undesired, self-esteem crushed, all the feelings of rejection.
I’m trying to figure out if he’s just asexual and how do we over come that together for something that can work for the two of us or if he’s possibly sexually repressed as I don’t think he’s always been this way so something is stopping him possibly. What are yalls thoughts? I’d love advice from others that have experienced something similar. I’ve never had this issue where I’m the sex fiend in the relationship and that level is not reciprocated.
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I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year. We started out long distance but he ended up moving in with me about 7 months ago. When we were apart and would visit each other sex was pretty good, couldn’t keep his hands off me. But after he moved in what was at my level of sexual intensity, almost every day or more, started to dwindle down. I am now lucky to have sex with him once a week. Sometimes it goes almost two weeks. I have brought it up before that it makes me feel like I’m the problem, losing attraction to me or something. He states it’s not me, he just cares more about the emotional side of things, and at another time even mentioned he’s nearly asexual. I am obviously not this way. I am a very sexual person with my own set of kinks and all that. I find myself more often needing to masturbate almost daily to help “scratch an itch” when we hardly are having sex. When we do have sex half the time it feels like he’s solely doing it to please me at a baseline level.
In the beginning he seemed super open to trying new things or giving me all my desires, as I would him. Tons of spicy conversations about what we want and would do etc. But when it came down to having each other full time none of those things came about. He’s gone down on me three times ever, hardly tries to get me to finish and just does the bare minimum to make me feel somewhat satisfied. It takes me leaving for a period of time to almost bring out the sexual desire for me and he’ll nearly give me everything I want, but once we’ve settled back into normal routine it’s like I don’t exist. I had a hard rejection of sex from him the other day and I just can’t get over it. It’s eating me alive. I feel undesired, self-esteem crushed, all the feelings of rejection.
I’m trying to figure out if he’s just asexual and how do we over come that together for something that can work for the two of us or if he’s possibly sexually repressed as I don’t think he’s always been this way so something is stopping him possibly. What are yalls thoughts? I’d love advice from others that have experienced something similar. I’ve never had this issue where I’m the sex fiend in the relationship and that level is not reciprocated.
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