Fictoromantic?

Hello everyone :)

So I always thought that I was asexual (or gray maybe), but not aromantic, because I always wanted a romantic relationship. But I guess that's wrong, because aromantic doesn't mean "not wanting a romantic relationship" but rather "not having romantic feelings towards other people", right?

Now I found the term "fictosexual/fictoromantic" and that's exactly how I feel. I've only ever fallen in love or been attracted to fictional characters. I've had a few relationships with real people and some were even good, but it never felt quite right. I don't think I've ever been in love with any of my ex boyfriends.

So I'm kinda confused now. I guess, fictosexual and fictoromantic are the terms that best describe my feelings. But does that mean I'm not aro/ace? Because technically I do feel romantic and sexual attraction, just not towards real people. But I've also seen fictosexual as a microlabel under the umbrella of asexuality, so I'm confused now.

Also, as I said in the beginning, I really want a real life romantic relationship. But apparently I can't fall in love with real people. Seems like an impossible problem. Anyone else feel that way?

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Sex is overrated, but so is garlic bread. Cheese fries supremacy ✊️✊️✊️✊️
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Can we cuddle forever? (Poem)

And if it’s just us— two loners stuck in the monotony of “I love you”s— I won’t mind. I’d align every star just to catch a glance of you.

A midnight, as we pass through the crowd, others steal their giggles, while we lean into silence. And in that silence, our heartbeats catch a rhythm— and I listen, endlessly, or until we end.

Don’t let your lips claim mine tonight. This innocent breeze kisses us better. That kiss you left on my forehead— it’s the only delight I know. So hold onto me, still. Let shame belong to those who stare, and love to us.

Oh, nothing says “I want you” like your iris nearly escaping your eyes at my sight. And nothing says “I’m here” like your hums to my nonsense.

And if you leave—no grudges held. But if you stay— Oh, I’m in dandelions, braiding dandelions or peonies or forget-me-nots, or none at all. Peony loops on our wrists — soft proof we chose each other. Who needs rings when love already fits?

I won’t be your shadow. I’ll be half of you.

Something whispers in this rain: Would you and I be there when the butterflies settle in? Would you and I be there when the bubble bursts? Would you and I ever be us?

Look into my eyes and tell me— Would you let me collapse on your shoulder in the metro? Would you wrap your arms around me when I come back home, tired of myself? When I return, hating the world, would you shut me up with your warmth? Would you be my comfort? Would you compensate for the me I lost trying to become yours?

I don’t believe in “love you”s anymore. Would you say it still—if you trusted me?

When tomorrow comes, and ego fills the room, when lips—those liars— lose the courage to say “I love you,” would you see the love etched in my eyes instead?

I can’t promise you all giggles. But if we cry— we’ll cry together at His threshold, not in shrines that disown us.

I want you. Lay your head on my chest. Shut your mind. So… can we cuddle forever?

Peony by Lovish.

Special thanks to: Zephyr and Buddy

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I'm married to my job
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Being a sex-repulsed lesbian sometimes feels isolating—anyone else feel this?

I’m a lesbian who’s sex repulsed, and while I’m confident in my identity, there are days it just feels… impossible to find someone who truly understands.

Dating apps can be overwhelming and discouraging, especially when people equate desire with physical intimacy.

Sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever find a partner who sees and values intimacy in the ways I do.

If this resonates with you at all, I’d love to hear how you navigate it.


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Are my relationships going to fall apart because I’m asexual?

I’m not currently in a relationship, but I really want to have one. The dates, the special connection, it’s all so amazing. Except for the sex part. After looking through people’s experiences, most people in relationships expect to have sex, but I find that part disgusting and I’m very turned off by it. After talking to my mom about this, she said “sexless relationships always fall apart…all men want sex (she thinks I’m straight), etc”. So now I’m scared that I’ll never be able to have a romantic relationship because I’m asexual.

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"Actually it's a euphemism for-" that's great, I'll still choose to interpret it as being about death/food/etc
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Im currently trying not to cry because i got myself into a sexual situation and i felt nothing.

I should’ve said no to him, but i didn’t because i thought i was attracted to him. and deep down inside i wanted to see if i actually felt sexual attraction. but the whole time we were on call i was trying not to have a breakdown because i felt so disgusted. i thought maybe once i could finally feel how others feel when they described sexual attraction..my hands are shaking and my private area hurts. im really trying not to cry

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I wanted to share this post I found
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I felt seen!!!!

I have an Ace pin on the dash of my car. I gave my coworker a ride and she asked me if I was Ace when she saw it. HOLY HECK BATMAN 😁🤗🖤💜🤍🩶

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Tried out an LGBTQ quiz
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How do you avoid being accused of being in a relationship with someone?

I've never been very good with communication, so I have very few friends, and I still have trouble communication with all but one of them. I talk to/hang out with her a lot simply because she is easier to talk to, as a result we understand each other better, and appear to be close. The problem that poses is we look like we are in a relationship. For context we are in high school. We have both told people that have asked if we are in a relationship "NO!", way to many times to count, yet they never belive us. Even my other friends who know we aren't in a relationship think we have feelings for each other. I won't lie, I am alterous, so I am perfectly fine being friends, and if she asked to be in a relationship with me I wouldn't say no, but I wouldn't ever ask to be in a relationship with her(nobody knows, and I don't want them to, they only know I'm ace). Most of the stuff we do together I would assume is just friendly, talking together and making each other laugh, going to concerts together, sitting together whenever we get the chance to(because of different class schedules), doing things with our other friends during (holloween, or birthdays, etc.). Apparently everyone else thinks we are dating though, because and I quote a friend on this "People don't normally invite just one person to go hang out with them late at night, multiple times, unless it is a date, she could have invited any of her other friends to come as well, but she only invited you.". I'll also add that I don't know whether she does actually like me as more than a friend or not, I have noticed she has never actually responded "no" when a mutual friend asks if we like each other. But back to the question, how do I avoid being accused of being in a relationship with her? Or is it just not going to stop because it's high school?

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Relationship Experiences?

I consider myself Demisexual, but due to past circumstances I am very much sex repulsed in relation to my own body.

Recently I got rejected by someone, partially because of this.

I know a romantic relationship does not define me and is not the epitome of relationships. I have friends and family who I love dearly, but at the end of the day, I'd still like to have someone.
Finding other asexual people in my area is pretty difficult, especially as I also consider myself to be Demiromantic.

Is it always gonna be like this? Is there anyone in the same position as me who had positive experiences about it?


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reposting bcs i made a mistake on my original post. newbie mistake. verry sorry hehe
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A proper way to react to sexual harrassment
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Checkmate.
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Happy Pride-month
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