My values are a real problem for me!
Hello everyone!
I love reading! And my values are an integral part of my personality.
But I never thought that these two aspects of me would have so much difficulty coexisting...
When I read a book, I feel a deep connection with the author. After all, it was he who wrote with these words and invented with his wit the thrilling story that we are reading!
So when the story and/or the author is problematic, it completely blocks me and I can no longer continue the book.
I have tried books claiming to be inclusive, but these are so imbued with beautiful values that they almost forget that there is a story, a scenario and a characterization of characters behind...
I have never been immersed in an inclusive book like I was able to immerse myself in: Misery by Stephen King, The Hobbit by J. R. R. Tolkien or Sherlock Holmes by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, and so on...
Obviously I'm exaggerating, I've read several books that are in no way problematic and very appreciable in their content. But these were rather rare and for some, of average quality.
Unfortunately when I think of: inclusive book, I also think of romance genre book (every time romance... I love relationships between characters, but I'm aroace. If I could read something other than romantic and/or sexual relationships, that would be really cool...)
It would be so cool to have inclusive books that aren't of the romantic genre and that, for pity's sake, don't remind us 24/7 that they are inclusive books...
It's so cool that the main characters are queer and/or women and/or black, and so on...
Seriously, I love it so much!!
But this is more than enough, there is no need to include issues of our society, especially when the book is of the genre: Fantasy or Science-Fiction. For example.
I want a book where there is a strong, independent woman and where this is completely normal in the book! What I mean by that is that I don't want an issue in the book with a macho guy or with difficulty being among the top of the food chain.
In short, I want a book with characters from different minorities in real life, but who, in the story of the book, do not suffer any abuse because, in the book, are not seen as minorities!
I don't know if I managed to be clear, but if you understood, could you help me? Do you have any suggestions for books that I might like?
And if not, simply, do you have an opinion on the matter?
In any case, thank you for taking the time to read my post, I know it is very long. And have a good weekend! XOXO
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Hello everyone!
I love reading! And my values are an integral part of my personality.
But I never thought that these two aspects of me would have so much difficulty coexisting...
When I read a book, I feel a deep connection with the author. After all, it was he who wrote with these words and invented with his wit the thrilling story that we are reading!
So when the story and/or the author is problematic, it completely blocks me and I can no longer continue the book.
I have tried books claiming to be inclusive, but these are so imbued with beautiful values that they almost forget that there is a story, a scenario and a characterization of characters behind...
I have never been immersed in an inclusive book like I was able to immerse myself in: Misery by Stephen King, The Hobbit by J. R. R. Tolkien or Sherlock Holmes by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, and so on...
Obviously I'm exaggerating, I've read several books that are in no way problematic and very appreciable in their content. But these were rather rare and for some, of average quality.
Unfortunately when I think of: inclusive book, I also think of romance genre book (every time romance... I love relationships between characters, but I'm aroace. If I could read something other than romantic and/or sexual relationships, that would be really cool...)
It would be so cool to have inclusive books that aren't of the romantic genre and that, for pity's sake, don't remind us 24/7 that they are inclusive books...
It's so cool that the main characters are queer and/or women and/or black, and so on...
Seriously, I love it so much!!
But this is more than enough, there is no need to include issues of our society, especially when the book is of the genre: Fantasy or Science-Fiction. For example.
I want a book where there is a strong, independent woman and where this is completely normal in the book! What I mean by that is that I don't want an issue in the book with a macho guy or with difficulty being among the top of the food chain.
In short, I want a book with characters from different minorities in real life, but who, in the story of the book, do not suffer any abuse because, in the book, are not seen as minorities!
I don't know if I managed to be clear, but if you understood, could you help me? Do you have any suggestions for books that I might like?
And if not, simply, do you have an opinion on the matter?
In any case, thank you for taking the time to read my post, I know it is very long. And have a good weekend! XOXO
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I fking hate how unrecognized we are.
Healthcare paperwork. Sex-ed with schools and colleges. Even in personally-motivated stuff like dating.
The healthcare stuff has caught on to homosexuality and bisexuality being more accepted, and in some cases accepting transgender people, but to be honest I've never seen any healthcare-related form have an "asexual" box to check.
My state has these laws where doctors are required to ask some questions for sexual abuse screening. Last time I had a doctor's appointment, they asked me word-for-word "Do you feel safe in your relationship?". I'm not sure if that's what the computer actually said to say, but that sentence being used to ask every person comes off as "you're an alien to us if you aren't in a relationship". I know this is about asexuality, but there's a lot of aro-aces around and even though I'm not aromantic myself, I found that to be insulting to aro-aces. I also know that it's state-mandated screening, however phrasing it as "Are you in a relationship?" and then "Do you feel safe in your relationship (if applicable)?" would have been a better way to ask that.
When I entered community college, oh god. I'll just jump to it. I don't want to explain all of it, but here's a word-for-word between me and a college professor in a classroom with a bunch of other students after he said that a lot of 18 year olds are interested in sex:
Me: "Well, not everyone. Some people don't have having sex as their number-one priority."
Prof: "You know what we call those people? Losers."
That was an extremely unwelcoming moment for me. I just started to accept that I was asexual not long before my professor said that, and that's the worse you can do as a fking college professor.
In general, I feel like asexuals are forgotten or just never educated about in the first place, and as I felt so unwelcome to society and alone, I joined this subreddit and it definitely cheers me up more. The more representation we have, the less alienated and "broken" we feel. I know that LGBTQ people have been more represented and accepted in comparison to a time like the 1990s, however saying "equality for everyone" and then having asexuals be in the back (or forgetting about us in the first place) just makes us feel like we aren't valid and goes against the meaning of "equality".
I'm sorry to be on the sad side of things, but I just had to get this out of my head.
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Healthcare paperwork. Sex-ed with schools and colleges. Even in personally-motivated stuff like dating.
The healthcare stuff has caught on to homosexuality and bisexuality being more accepted, and in some cases accepting transgender people, but to be honest I've never seen any healthcare-related form have an "asexual" box to check.
My state has these laws where doctors are required to ask some questions for sexual abuse screening. Last time I had a doctor's appointment, they asked me word-for-word "Do you feel safe in your relationship?". I'm not sure if that's what the computer actually said to say, but that sentence being used to ask every person comes off as "you're an alien to us if you aren't in a relationship". I know this is about asexuality, but there's a lot of aro-aces around and even though I'm not aromantic myself, I found that to be insulting to aro-aces. I also know that it's state-mandated screening, however phrasing it as "Are you in a relationship?" and then "Do you feel safe in your relationship (if applicable)?" would have been a better way to ask that.
When I entered community college, oh god. I'll just jump to it. I don't want to explain all of it, but here's a word-for-word between me and a college professor in a classroom with a bunch of other students after he said that a lot of 18 year olds are interested in sex:
Me: "Well, not everyone. Some people don't have having sex as their number-one priority."
Prof: "You know what we call those people? Losers."
That was an extremely unwelcoming moment for me. I just started to accept that I was asexual not long before my professor said that, and that's the worse you can do as a fking college professor.
In general, I feel like asexuals are forgotten or just never educated about in the first place, and as I felt so unwelcome to society and alone, I joined this subreddit and it definitely cheers me up more. The more representation we have, the less alienated and "broken" we feel. I know that LGBTQ people have been more represented and accepted in comparison to a time like the 1990s, however saying "equality for everyone" and then having asexuals be in the back (or forgetting about us in the first place) just makes us feel like we aren't valid and goes against the meaning of "equality".
I'm sorry to be on the sad side of things, but I just had to get this out of my head.
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Being asexual and sex positive is people constantly saying “asexuals don’t want sex though”
It’s super annoying. People don’t understand what asexuality is. You can still have sex and even want sex without experiencing sexual attraction. We have libidos like everyone else does.
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It’s super annoying. People don’t understand what asexuality is. You can still have sex and even want sex without experiencing sexual attraction. We have libidos like everyone else does.
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