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People who like sex really can’t comprehend us…
It’s like we’re telling them we don’t breathe air or something. Sex is so essential to them they think we’re just traumatised and in denial.
“Never say never” you know, like some magical unicorn of a person will come along and change my mind about sex. As an AFAB person I’ve gotten this a lot in relation to having children and getting married too. Both things I’m also very not interested in.
Generally people don’t think gays or lesbians will suddenly change their minds and go straight if they suddenly “meet the right person” so why the heck are asexual people treated like this?!
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It’s like we’re telling them we don’t breathe air or something. Sex is so essential to them they think we’re just traumatised and in denial.
“Never say never” you know, like some magical unicorn of a person will come along and change my mind about sex. As an AFAB person I’ve gotten this a lot in relation to having children and getting married too. Both things I’m also very not interested in.
Generally people don’t think gays or lesbians will suddenly change their minds and go straight if they suddenly “meet the right person” so why the heck are asexual people treated like this?!
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Are there some asexuals into biting?can biting be non-sexual?
Ok yeah, weird question ik.
I just Heard of biting. I thought it was fake, until i realized its actually a thing. i don’t get it and i wanna know how y’all feel abt it?
Do some of yall like biting or being bitten?
Or do you guys not like it?
Which both of these are okay. Just wanna know if there are some who like it or not
I have Heard its mostly on the sexual side, but im not sure ig. It could be sensual too?? Idk, i don’t do that to others. Idk why ppl do
Soooo yeah, i wanna know if there are any asexuals that are into biting ( or maybe hickeys ) without feeling sexual attraction?
I’d like to know!
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Ok yeah, weird question ik.
I just Heard of biting. I thought it was fake, until i realized its actually a thing. i don’t get it and i wanna know how y’all feel abt it?
Do some of yall like biting or being bitten?
Or do you guys not like it?
Which both of these are okay. Just wanna know if there are some who like it or not
I have Heard its mostly on the sexual side, but im not sure ig. It could be sensual too?? Idk, i don’t do that to others. Idk why ppl do
Soooo yeah, i wanna know if there are any asexuals that are into biting ( or maybe hickeys ) without feeling sexual attraction?
I’d like to know!
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I need Help...
Recently I've been thinking about the possibility of being asexual. I don't know many asexual people, so I don't really know what it's like to be asexual. I'm writing this in the hope of finding different opinions and understanding myself better.
Recently I've been thinking about the possibility of being asexual. I don't know many asexual people, so I don't really know what it's like to be asexual. I'm writing this in the hope of finding different opinions and understanding myself better.
I'm extremely awkward when it comes to having sex, it almost seems like I'm inexperienced. I've been dating my boyfriend recently, I really liked him, but I liked it more when we were together quietly, than when he touched me in a more provocative way.
I've considered being demisexual, but after dating I realized that it's not that. When I'm alone with myself, I feel more pleasure than when I have a partner helping me. I feel like maybe I just don't like having sex, I'm still in doubt about what I mentioned about Christian guilt or if it could be asexuality, I know that many asexual people feel pleasure in masturbation and obviously fell in love.
So I want to know your experiences and opinions
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Recently I've been thinking about the possibility of being asexual. I don't know many asexual people, so I don't really know what it's like to be asexual. I'm writing this in the hope of finding different opinions and understanding myself better.
Recently I've been thinking about the possibility of being asexual. I don't know many asexual people, so I don't really know what it's like to be asexual. I'm writing this in the hope of finding different opinions and understanding myself better.
I'm extremely awkward when it comes to having sex, it almost seems like I'm inexperienced. I've been dating my boyfriend recently, I really liked him, but I liked it more when we were together quietly, than when he touched me in a more provocative way.
I've considered being demisexual, but after dating I realized that it's not that. When I'm alone with myself, I feel more pleasure than when I have a partner helping me. I feel like maybe I just don't like having sex, I'm still in doubt about what I mentioned about Christian guilt or if it could be asexuality, I know that many asexual people feel pleasure in masturbation and obviously fell in love.
So I want to know your experiences and opinions
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Thinking of buying the aroace flag in addition to my ace flag
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How did you find out you are asexual? Am I asexual?
Hi all.
I'll try to be short, but it's a long story.
I've been sexually abused several times in my life and I never really enjoyed sex. However I always believed it is not an optional thing: it's something you have to do if you are a woman and want to be with a man.
I met my current boyfriend and sex was okay with him. I could have very nice orgasms actually.
Then after 3 months together we had to stop for 6 weeks for medical reasons and that was the first time I experienced what a relationship without sex feels like. I felt really free and it was like a stone fell off my heart.
Since then, we have issues with our sexual life. We've been together for 2,5 years now, tried a lot of methods and strategies, but it just made things worse. Sex started to feel awkward, then it started to feel painful, and our last time being together all I could think of is that my soul us being raped. It's been 2 months since we had any sexual connection. I'm at a point where even kissing is hard.
I attend therapy weekly, and we are working on this issue with my psychologist. I was also diagnosed with depression 2 weeks ago and got some pills to make my feelings a bit more stable.
My boyfriend is very patient, supportive, and does everything he can to help me. He is not pushing me into anything, but sexual connection and intimacy is really really important to him, and he feels a kind of emptiness inside of himself, and I feel terrible about this, this is not what 'he signed up for'.
However I posted the whole story to another sub, and some people in the comments believe that I might be asexual.
It's really hard to decide at this point.
Fact 1: I never liked sex, and I would be the happiest if I never had to do anything sexual again
Fact 2: My virginity was taken at 14, by a man who manipulated me to have sex with him.
Fact 3: I find my boyfriend really attractive, and still, I can't make any intimate steps.
Fact 4: I was raped at 22.
So I am not sure if I am asexual, and that's why all the struggles, or I am just so severly traumatized about my sexual life that I just want to deny the whole thing as it is.
Also, I really hope my questions are not inappropiate, and I do not mean to talk about being asexual in a negative context at all! I don't think asexual people are not normal or anything like that, I really want to highlight this. I am just tired, disappointed, afraid, and I could really use some guidance with some experiences and toughts.
Thank you for reading my story and I'm grateful for any insights.
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Hi all.
I'll try to be short, but it's a long story.
I've been sexually abused several times in my life and I never really enjoyed sex. However I always believed it is not an optional thing: it's something you have to do if you are a woman and want to be with a man.
I met my current boyfriend and sex was okay with him. I could have very nice orgasms actually.
Then after 3 months together we had to stop for 6 weeks for medical reasons and that was the first time I experienced what a relationship without sex feels like. I felt really free and it was like a stone fell off my heart.
Since then, we have issues with our sexual life. We've been together for 2,5 years now, tried a lot of methods and strategies, but it just made things worse. Sex started to feel awkward, then it started to feel painful, and our last time being together all I could think of is that my soul us being raped. It's been 2 months since we had any sexual connection. I'm at a point where even kissing is hard.
I attend therapy weekly, and we are working on this issue with my psychologist. I was also diagnosed with depression 2 weeks ago and got some pills to make my feelings a bit more stable.
My boyfriend is very patient, supportive, and does everything he can to help me. He is not pushing me into anything, but sexual connection and intimacy is really really important to him, and he feels a kind of emptiness inside of himself, and I feel terrible about this, this is not what 'he signed up for'.
However I posted the whole story to another sub, and some people in the comments believe that I might be asexual.
It's really hard to decide at this point.
Fact 1: I never liked sex, and I would be the happiest if I never had to do anything sexual again
Fact 2: My virginity was taken at 14, by a man who manipulated me to have sex with him.
Fact 3: I find my boyfriend really attractive, and still, I can't make any intimate steps.
Fact 4: I was raped at 22.
So I am not sure if I am asexual, and that's why all the struggles, or I am just so severly traumatized about my sexual life that I just want to deny the whole thing as it is.
Also, I really hope my questions are not inappropiate, and I do not mean to talk about being asexual in a negative context at all! I don't think asexual people are not normal or anything like that, I really want to highlight this. I am just tired, disappointed, afraid, and I could really use some guidance with some experiences and toughts.
Thank you for reading my story and I'm grateful for any insights.
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My values are a real problem for me!
Hello everyone!
I love reading! And my values are an integral part of my personality.
But I never thought that these two aspects of me would have so much difficulty coexisting...
When I read a book, I feel a deep connection with the author. After all, it was he who wrote with these words and invented with his wit the thrilling story that we are reading!
So when the story and/or the author is problematic, it completely blocks me and I can no longer continue the book.
I have tried books claiming to be inclusive, but these are so imbued with beautiful values that they almost forget that there is a story, a scenario and a characterization of characters behind...
I have never been immersed in an inclusive book like I was able to immerse myself in: Misery by Stephen King, The Hobbit by J. R. R. Tolkien or Sherlock Holmes by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, and so on...
Obviously I'm exaggerating, I've read several books that are in no way problematic and very appreciable in their content. But these were rather rare and for some, of average quality.
Unfortunately when I think of: inclusive book, I also think of romance genre book (every time romance... I love relationships between characters, but I'm aroace. If I could read something other than romantic and/or sexual relationships, that would be really cool...)
It would be so cool to have inclusive books that aren't of the romantic genre and that, for pity's sake, don't remind us 24/7 that they are inclusive books...
It's so cool that the main characters are queer and/or women and/or black, and so on...
Seriously, I love it so much!!
But this is more than enough, there is no need to include issues of our society, especially when the book is of the genre: Fantasy or Science-Fiction. For example.
I want a book where there is a strong, independent woman and where this is completely normal in the book! What I mean by that is that I don't want an issue in the book with a macho guy or with difficulty being among the top of the food chain.
In short, I want a book with characters from different minorities in real life, but who, in the story of the book, do not suffer any abuse because, in the book, are not seen as minorities!
I don't know if I managed to be clear, but if you understood, could you help me? Do you have any suggestions for books that I might like?
And if not, simply, do you have an opinion on the matter?
In any case, thank you for taking the time to read my post, I know it is very long. And have a good weekend! XOXO
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Hello everyone!
I love reading! And my values are an integral part of my personality.
But I never thought that these two aspects of me would have so much difficulty coexisting...
When I read a book, I feel a deep connection with the author. After all, it was he who wrote with these words and invented with his wit the thrilling story that we are reading!
So when the story and/or the author is problematic, it completely blocks me and I can no longer continue the book.
I have tried books claiming to be inclusive, but these are so imbued with beautiful values that they almost forget that there is a story, a scenario and a characterization of characters behind...
I have never been immersed in an inclusive book like I was able to immerse myself in: Misery by Stephen King, The Hobbit by J. R. R. Tolkien or Sherlock Holmes by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, and so on...
Obviously I'm exaggerating, I've read several books that are in no way problematic and very appreciable in their content. But these were rather rare and for some, of average quality.
Unfortunately when I think of: inclusive book, I also think of romance genre book (every time romance... I love relationships between characters, but I'm aroace. If I could read something other than romantic and/or sexual relationships, that would be really cool...)
It would be so cool to have inclusive books that aren't of the romantic genre and that, for pity's sake, don't remind us 24/7 that they are inclusive books...
It's so cool that the main characters are queer and/or women and/or black, and so on...
Seriously, I love it so much!!
But this is more than enough, there is no need to include issues of our society, especially when the book is of the genre: Fantasy or Science-Fiction. For example.
I want a book where there is a strong, independent woman and where this is completely normal in the book! What I mean by that is that I don't want an issue in the book with a macho guy or with difficulty being among the top of the food chain.
In short, I want a book with characters from different minorities in real life, but who, in the story of the book, do not suffer any abuse because, in the book, are not seen as minorities!
I don't know if I managed to be clear, but if you understood, could you help me? Do you have any suggestions for books that I might like?
And if not, simply, do you have an opinion on the matter?
In any case, thank you for taking the time to read my post, I know it is very long. And have a good weekend! XOXO
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(OC) Nile, my water genasi warlock, weilding the most ineffectual but stylish umbrella ever. Happy Pride everyone!
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