I think you all will enjoy this garlic bread nachos stuff i made
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A while ago, I asked men on reddit how much sex matters in a relationship and said I was an asexual, and they all told me I would get left or cheated on.
It was so bad I had to delete my old account. I'm (19F) not exactly a sex favorable person (never had sex for this reason, I don't get it) and I asked on the dating subreddit how important sex is to a relationship in men, saying I'm ace but I think I could do it once a week or so.
The responses were awful. Telling me I'm starving my future partner, I'd never find anyone, I need therapy, etc. It freaked me out. Like is this my future? Is this what I have to look forward to? Might as well not even try to date.
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It was so bad I had to delete my old account. I'm (19F) not exactly a sex favorable person (never had sex for this reason, I don't get it) and I asked on the dating subreddit how important sex is to a relationship in men, saying I'm ace but I think I could do it once a week or so.
The responses were awful. Telling me I'm starving my future partner, I'd never find anyone, I need therapy, etc. It freaked me out. Like is this my future? Is this what I have to look forward to? Might as well not even try to date.
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Happy Pride Month to all of us. Many people may say "LGBT" or "LGBTQ+" because it's either too long, they're used to just four letters or that they think A stands for "ally" 😭 but we exist, too. We are real.
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From the asexuality community on Reddit: Happy Pride Month to all of us. Many people may say "LGBT" or "LGBTQ+" because it's either…
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Being used and abused has messed up my perception of relationships and intimacy
I've posted before about how I've been through some traumatic stuff, but I'm now realizing how it actually shaped my identity, but also messed up my perception on relationships.
By "used" I mean that back when I didn't know I was aro and still felt compelled to date multiple people would use me as a short-term distraction by doing "couple stuff" with me (kiss, cuddle, hold hands, call me cute names, etc.) because they had recently been through a breakup and wanted someone to be affectionate with without any strings attached. While I now see how that was wrong, I did also genuinely like them as friends and enjoyed the affection. Problem is, this has caused me to view affection as platonic.
By "abused" I broadly mean that multiple people who have had romantic feelings for me have done horrible things to themselves because I rejected them, without going into too much detail.
So now, as a result, my brain is kinda messed up. I think of friendship as something like a better form of romance because "you can be affectionate with a friend without all the toxic stuff that comes with romantic feelings which I've experienced".
I also categorize people who only "use" me as "safe" because while yes, they have used me for their pleasure they also never abused me, unlike the people who have had romantic feelings for me who I now categorize as "unsafe", hence I also now don't trust anyone who catches those feelings for me.
I'm aware this is not normal, but at the same time I struggle to see how it could be any different; why would romance not be inherently toxic if I've only see it fail and people with such feelings have been overwhelmingly abusive? And why would affection not be platonic if I've only ever experienced it like that?
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I've posted before about how I've been through some traumatic stuff, but I'm now realizing how it actually shaped my identity, but also messed up my perception on relationships.
By "used" I mean that back when I didn't know I was aro and still felt compelled to date multiple people would use me as a short-term distraction by doing "couple stuff" with me (kiss, cuddle, hold hands, call me cute names, etc.) because they had recently been through a breakup and wanted someone to be affectionate with without any strings attached. While I now see how that was wrong, I did also genuinely like them as friends and enjoyed the affection. Problem is, this has caused me to view affection as platonic.
By "abused" I broadly mean that multiple people who have had romantic feelings for me have done horrible things to themselves because I rejected them, without going into too much detail.
So now, as a result, my brain is kinda messed up. I think of friendship as something like a better form of romance because "you can be affectionate with a friend without all the toxic stuff that comes with romantic feelings which I've experienced".
I also categorize people who only "use" me as "safe" because while yes, they have used me for their pleasure they also never abused me, unlike the people who have had romantic feelings for me who I now categorize as "unsafe", hence I also now don't trust anyone who catches those feelings for me.
I'm aware this is not normal, but at the same time I struggle to see how it could be any different; why would romance not be inherently toxic if I've only see it fail and people with such feelings have been overwhelmingly abusive? And why would affection not be platonic if I've only ever experienced it like that?
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Have you ever mentioned to someone that you are asexual and they misinterpreted it?
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Question for the asexual hetero women
I’m curious… do men (or women) ever pursue you or ask for your number out in public? Or like at the gym? This goes for anyone who identifies as a woman too. I’m wondering because I see videos on Instagram all the time of men approaching women and spitting the most horrendous and cringiest pickup lines imaginable and I want to know what the response is once you tell them either to f*** off or tell them your sexuality.
How do you typically respond to pickup lines? Do you still give out your phone number if approached by a stranger? Please let me know 🙏
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I’m curious… do men (or women) ever pursue you or ask for your number out in public? Or like at the gym? This goes for anyone who identifies as a woman too. I’m wondering because I see videos on Instagram all the time of men approaching women and spitting the most horrendous and cringiest pickup lines imaginable and I want to know what the response is once you tell them either to f*** off or tell them your sexuality.
How do you typically respond to pickup lines? Do you still give out your phone number if approached by a stranger? Please let me know 🙏
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You can make it sound as magical as you want, I Still don’t want.
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Ace colours to paint animals are not the best, anyway here’s a velociraptor
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From the aaaaaaacccccccce community on Reddit: Ace colours to paint animals are not the best, anyway here’s a velociraptor
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