My dad is afraid I’ll die a virgin

Even though I have come out on multiple occasions as biromantic ace, my dad still can’t comprehend that I don’t want to do sex ever, and hopes I will one day try it, and it’s just so annoying. He denies my asexuality and calls me bi, which is still kinda progressive and at least better than my mom who calls me a lesbian, but still pretty annoying.

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Is anyone else into spanking?

Im 26M, and attracted to women. I’m definitely not into sex and never have been.

I know this might strange to some people, but one of the biggest things I want from a relationship is to spank my partner. Ideally, I’d want to find someone into being spanked, and absolutely craves it.

If anyone else shares this experience, I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to reply or DM me.

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Non-asexual dating asexual

(throwaway account just in case.) i (18 M) have the opportunity to date one of my friends who i like (19 F) she likes me, but she is asexual, and i am not. I thought it would be helpful to know from other asexuals what it is like to date someone who isn’t asexual, how do you navigate the relationship? Is it a good idea to date an asexual as someone who isn’t? I think we connect really well with each other and would make a great couple, but I’m just concerned about this part of it.

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Could I be Ace/gray ace’

Hello all,

I'm a bit older than most inquisitive types - I'm a 40+ year old male with a wife and child both who I love. I started drinking in my late teens and didn't really stop until 5 years ago.

When the fog from drinking all the time cleared up, I found myself not sexually attracted to my partner, but not just her, anyone at all. This made me think and I can say about 90% of all sexual experiences I've had in my life I was drunk.

I think certain people are pretty or beautiful but it stops there. I don't, and never have made the next mental thought of "id like to do this with her." It doesn't repulse me, but I'm just indifferent. And again when I reflect on my life, I have always been that way. I do love falling in love, being in love, and even having a crush but when my friends say stuff like "id like to do cuz to them" I've always thought it was dumb.

I've also almost never been the one that has initiated sexual intimacy- it's always had to be the other person. And since my partner stopped being that person, I haven't had sex in over two years. I've tried initiating it a few times but it was more because "I should" and not because I want to. I also got my testosterone levels checked last year and they are normal.
Are these telltale signs of someone on the spectrum? Thanks for hearing me out and any advice or comments are greatly appreciated

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Tips for getting parents to accept my asexuality?

So for context I am a 19 year old male and my parents hate that I am open about my asexuality. I’ve gotten in a few verbal fights but nothing serious. Anyone have any tips for how to make them accept it sooner? It’s starting to get annoying because they’ll intentionally say that I “need to have sex” even though I’ve made it very clear that I don’t need to, let alone want to.

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Tips for getting parents to accept my asexuality?

So for context I am a 19 year old male and my parents hate that I am open about my asexuality. I’ve gotten in a few verbal fights but nothing serious. Anyone have any tips for how to make them accept it sooner? It’s starting to get annoying because they’ll intentionally say that I “need to have sex” even though I’ve made it very clear that I don’t need to, let alone want to.

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For Aces Who Have Trauma What Helps?

Trigger Warning: Trauma and SA and Sex Mention. Please skip this post if it makes you uncomfortable.
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I am on the ace spectrum and sadly due to Trauma from SA and abusive relationships experience Hypersexuality despite being Ace. Sometimes it makes me feel less valid as an ace person even though I know that's not true at all and I barely experience physical, sexual, or romantic attraction unless I'm in love with the person and even then it takes a very long time to feel anything (if I do at all). Its just hard. It sucks tbh.

Sometimes I end up doing impulsive stuff cause of it. Or it ends up upsetting me a lot. For anyone who can relate, what have you found helps? What do you do to ease the discomfort or stress or what have you found distracts you?

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Therapist just casually assumed I have a problem

I saw a psychiatrist for panic attacks and started medication and then she also referred me to a therapist to start therapy. I've experienced aphobia in the past so I kind of saw it coming. I told the therapist I am asexual and I don't care about sex and she asked what is wrong to make me feel this way, if I have a hormonal imbalance or trauma and that "it's not normal for a young man to be like this" (also kind of transphobic because I'm AMAB and just started my transition). What is wrong with people?? Why are they so obsessed with sex and think that we all need to be obsessed with it too, otherwise we're mentally ill??

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The power >:)
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We did it🎉
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i think this would be appreciated here (ik some asexual people have sex just shh👺)
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I saw a friends to lovers post and wanted to contribute an enemies to lovers one as well :>
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Many such cases
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Am I too old for this site?

I'm 65 and I think I'm asexual. I really congratulate the young generation for bringing all the different types of sexuality into the open and making it all ok. I am imagining that I'm much older than most people here? Maybe cos older people don't use this media so much? How old are you all, if you don't mind me asking?

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When I say the bloodline ends with me 🤣
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Hear me out alright?
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playing with my cock
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You know when you just…question your whole sexuality?



Bro i am having this every single day and its driving me nuts…( OCD related )

Like, idk how to explain it. First i accept my sexuality, and the next my brain will come up with new ideas on how i might be sexually repressed bc i accidentally looked at someone.

Like, i can find someone pretty then BOOM, my brain is commanding me to Check if my body reacted in a sexual way….and if it does it means i am repressing my sexuality by somehow pretending that i don’t like sex ( i am sex-repulsed ) or that Idk what sexual attraction is yayyy ( i get groinal responce. Which makes it Even worse bc anytime when i do, my brain would make up an idea on how i am denying my sexual desires by pretending it was groinal responce…THANK YOU…THANK YOU FOR THIS BEAUTIFUL INFORMATION…. Now i will be ruminating on this for the past two days )

Bro wtf is wrong with me?

I didnt even get to tell that to my therapist bc was so scared that she would tell me things like ‘’ your thoughts are right bc you don’t like sex and you are repressing sexual desires ‘’

…she would never say that btw, its just something that my brain makes up if i ever tell her whats going on…


The worst part is that anytime i say that to ppl they convince that there is something wrong with me bc i don’t like sexual thought…I AM SEX- REPULSED….

And why? IDK, IM JUST LIKE THIS MAN. NOT EVERYONE WANTS TO BE NAKED AND WANT TO TOUCH PPLS HOO HAS OR THIS WEIRD DANGLING MEAT THING ATTACHED TO THEM…

Like…be quited..That is what INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS MEAN. ITS THOUGHTS THAT YOU DONT’ WANT.

And then they tell me that its not bc it isnt violent thought….WHY…WHY DO PPL SAY THAT.

Like, just bc it isnt doesnt mean it isnt an intrusive thoughts. THEY SRE STILL NOT ENJOYABLE

Bc of what they say, i will go insane abt it and them get scared if i am actually repressing something. I would also get these stupid thoughts of ‘’ what if those aren’t intrusive thoughts? What if i enjoyed it and that i was pretending to hate them’’
These ‘’ what if ‘’ thoughts are so stressful to the point that i cry.

And OH, there is more. I literally use sexuality test. And it will ALWAYS GIVE ME THE SAME FRICKIN ASNWER. And i would make sure to use different ones bc different ones will give you different questions. And that i wouldn’t take a similar answer so that i won’t ’’ purposefully take an obvious answer ‘’


And BOOM, it still gives me the same answer..ace

Like…i am going insane on this to the point that i just call myself ‘’ allo in denial ‘’

Sooo yeah, there is my story on how i go insane abt it. No i don’t want reassurance, not confort. I just like to feel Heard thank you very much. And if you relate its ok if you can vent abt it too if you want.


Ty for listening!


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New tattoo
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Am I asexual?

Hi everyone, I'm still very new to understanding my own sexuality and I’ve recently started exploring the idea of asexuality. I’d really appreciate hearing from others here who might relate or have some perspective.

I’ve had a hard time feeling sexual attraction toward my past partners. It’s not that I find sex gross or repulsive — I just feel pretty indifferent or “meh” about it most of the time. However, there’s one specific fetish I have, and whenever a partner engages in it, I suddenly feel very sexually responsive — like I get a strong desire for sexual activity and even feel sexual attraction to them in that moment. That said, those feelings usually fade away until the fetish is brought up again.

I’m wondering if this still falls under the asexual spectrum, or if it might be something else like a different sexual orientation or a kink-related response. I know sexuality can be complex and personal, but I’d really appreciate any insights or similar experiences you’re willing to share.

Thanks in advance!

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