Sex is not sacred
I hate this new wave of puritans crying about "hookup culture is bad" "sex is sacred" "it's the closest you'll ever get to a person" like PUHLEASE. You're just telling on yourselves that a lot of yall are perfectly shallow and the only way that you're able to show love is by bumping privates. Like how lukewarm and stupid is that? You obviously only have sex when you're horny and not any other time. So obviously you do it for your own pleasure. It's not sacred. It's a cope. It's irritating.
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I hate this new wave of puritans crying about "hookup culture is bad" "sex is sacred" "it's the closest you'll ever get to a person" like PUHLEASE. You're just telling on yourselves that a lot of yall are perfectly shallow and the only way that you're able to show love is by bumping privates. Like how lukewarm and stupid is that? You obviously only have sex when you're horny and not any other time. So obviously you do it for your own pleasure. It's not sacred. It's a cope. It's irritating.
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First time attraction or intrusive thoughts?
I’ve identified as asexual for about 6 years now. When I first learned what asexuality was my entire life made sense. I’m also agender and somewhere on the demiromantic aroflux spectrum. I started anti depressants about a year ago and since starting them I have had thoughts of engaging in physical intimacy which I never had before. These thoughts have only been on friends/“crushes” (hence the demiromantic questioning). I also have depression, some symptoms of anxiety, and very likely ADHD which I’m in the process of getting a diagnosis for. The last few months I’ve had a crush on a friend and fantasize physical intimacy with them, even though I’ve never done any physical intimacy with anyone before. It has really thrown my mental health in a loop since I was so confidently aroace for such a long time. I was wondering if anyone else has had something like this happen before? I’ve also been reading up on OCD, I think OCD very likely runs in my family. I never really resonated with it. But when I did some reading on intrusive thoughts and “pure O” those things resonated with me, not just about the sexual intimacy but other thoughts I’ve had as well. I’ve never exhibited signs physically of OCD but I’m wondering if I do have this more mental component. I know the advice will probably be to talk to my doctors about it, which I definitely will. I’m currently seeing a therapist and psychiatrist. But because being ace and aro has been such a part of me for so long I wanted to hear from this community and if anyone else can relate? It’s hard for me to determine if my crush on my friend is purely intrusive because sometimes I do think it would be nice to be with someone, but I’m wondering if the way I’m thinking about it is more OCD? Anyway I’m questioning all my identities now and it’s not fun 🙃 thank you so much to anyone who read this whole thing! I don’t have any ace or aro people in my life so it can feel quite lonely.
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I’ve identified as asexual for about 6 years now. When I first learned what asexuality was my entire life made sense. I’m also agender and somewhere on the demiromantic aroflux spectrum. I started anti depressants about a year ago and since starting them I have had thoughts of engaging in physical intimacy which I never had before. These thoughts have only been on friends/“crushes” (hence the demiromantic questioning). I also have depression, some symptoms of anxiety, and very likely ADHD which I’m in the process of getting a diagnosis for. The last few months I’ve had a crush on a friend and fantasize physical intimacy with them, even though I’ve never done any physical intimacy with anyone before. It has really thrown my mental health in a loop since I was so confidently aroace for such a long time. I was wondering if anyone else has had something like this happen before? I’ve also been reading up on OCD, I think OCD very likely runs in my family. I never really resonated with it. But when I did some reading on intrusive thoughts and “pure O” those things resonated with me, not just about the sexual intimacy but other thoughts I’ve had as well. I’ve never exhibited signs physically of OCD but I’m wondering if I do have this more mental component. I know the advice will probably be to talk to my doctors about it, which I definitely will. I’m currently seeing a therapist and psychiatrist. But because being ace and aro has been such a part of me for so long I wanted to hear from this community and if anyone else can relate? It’s hard for me to determine if my crush on my friend is purely intrusive because sometimes I do think it would be nice to be with someone, but I’m wondering if the way I’m thinking about it is more OCD? Anyway I’m questioning all my identities now and it’s not fun 🙃 thank you so much to anyone who read this whole thing! I don’t have any ace or aro people in my life so it can feel quite lonely.
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How often do you think about sex?
They say the average person thinks about sex 10-20 times per day. I would say, for me, the lower end of that is probably pretty accurate. So, I'm curious about how other people on the ace spectrum compare. Would you say you're above, below, or about average? For reference I'm aegosexual with rare, but not non-existent, sexual attraction.
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They say the average person thinks about sex 10-20 times per day. I would say, for me, the lower end of that is probably pretty accurate. So, I'm curious about how other people on the ace spectrum compare. Would you say you're above, below, or about average? For reference I'm aegosexual with rare, but not non-existent, sexual attraction.
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Kids, I tell ya!
I (M) teach middle school, and late last week a student came out to me as aroace/nonbinary when I asked them about the beads on their shoelaces.
They knew I had previously dated someone, but that it didn't work out (I told their class this months ago during work time)
Yesterday I told the student that I myself am ace, and their first reaction was, "So THAT'S why you broke up with that person?!"
Not at all the reaction I was expecting, but it was still a nice moment of making meaningful connection with a student.
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I (M) teach middle school, and late last week a student came out to me as aroace/nonbinary when I asked them about the beads on their shoelaces.
They knew I had previously dated someone, but that it didn't work out (I told their class this months ago during work time)
Yesterday I told the student that I myself am ace, and their first reaction was, "So THAT'S why you broke up with that person?!"
Not at all the reaction I was expecting, but it was still a nice moment of making meaningful connection with a student.
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maslow’s hierarchy of needs is acephobic
like why does this world have to be so goddamn sexual? why can‘t people actually want an emotional connection before sex? why is physical connection prioritized over emotional? why does sex have to be so important? why is it seen as a „need“ i don‘t understand it. i wanna bring up the maslow hierarchy of needs of how sex is in it; i mean it was clearly designed by and for the needs of a heterosexual white man who can be privileged enough to achieve all on the pyramid but like i hate that sex is on there bc it‘s saying that everyone needs sex to survive and it perpetuates people’s acephobic beliefs about us to make us think we’re broken or there’s something wrong with us or we’re liars because we say we can survive without sex. the pyramid proves even more how sexual everyone in the world is and that most typical people really are sexual and would need sex.
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like why does this world have to be so goddamn sexual? why can‘t people actually want an emotional connection before sex? why is physical connection prioritized over emotional? why does sex have to be so important? why is it seen as a „need“ i don‘t understand it. i wanna bring up the maslow hierarchy of needs of how sex is in it; i mean it was clearly designed by and for the needs of a heterosexual white man who can be privileged enough to achieve all on the pyramid but like i hate that sex is on there bc it‘s saying that everyone needs sex to survive and it perpetuates people’s acephobic beliefs about us to make us think we’re broken or there’s something wrong with us or we’re liars because we say we can survive without sex. the pyramid proves even more how sexual everyone in the world is and that most typical people really are sexual and would need sex.
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Feeling sex repulsed is nothing to be ashamed about
It is fine to seek spaces void of sex, it's fine to inherently be disgusted by the thought of it, you are not in the wrong for feeling like you don't want that around you. You are very valid, and I hate the implication that sex repulsed people need therapy. If that's who you are then that's who you are, who cares? As long as you're not trying to shame people for having sex, then its not really their right to try to shame you, and you're allowed to feel uncomfortable when people non-consensually bring you in on the topic.
Hope this helps someone today ✨
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It is fine to seek spaces void of sex, it's fine to inherently be disgusted by the thought of it, you are not in the wrong for feeling like you don't want that around you. You are very valid, and I hate the implication that sex repulsed people need therapy. If that's who you are then that's who you are, who cares? As long as you're not trying to shame people for having sex, then its not really their right to try to shame you, and you're allowed to feel uncomfortable when people non-consensually bring you in on the topic.
Hope this helps someone today ✨
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Just got a Sign from the Universe, someone was selling pins And i found the exact amount of Money i needed on the ground lol
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How do I convince my mom that asexual people don't have a hormone problem?
I'm not asexual, so I'm sorry if this post is not allowed or if I have any misunderstandings of how asexuality works. If I do, I'd appreciate if you'd clear them up for me.
My mom thinks people should wait until marriage to have sex and I think they should only do that if they actually want to. I pointed out that you don't know if you're sexually compatible with the person until you have sex with them and if you wait until you get married you either have to have not as good of sex, a dead bedroom, or divorce, which is a bigger process than breaking up.
She said (paraphrasing), "if you're a man and they're a woman everything will be fine because you have the right parts." I asked what if the person is asexual and doesn't know it because they've never had sex before? She said, "they should see a doctor because something is wrong." How do I convince her that asexuality is not a disease (like she is implying)?
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I'm not asexual, so I'm sorry if this post is not allowed or if I have any misunderstandings of how asexuality works. If I do, I'd appreciate if you'd clear them up for me.
My mom thinks people should wait until marriage to have sex and I think they should only do that if they actually want to. I pointed out that you don't know if you're sexually compatible with the person until you have sex with them and if you wait until you get married you either have to have not as good of sex, a dead bedroom, or divorce, which is a bigger process than breaking up.
She said (paraphrasing), "if you're a man and they're a woman everything will be fine because you have the right parts." I asked what if the person is asexual and doesn't know it because they've never had sex before? She said, "they should see a doctor because something is wrong." How do I convince her that asexuality is not a disease (like she is implying)?
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