married to an asexual
I dont understand how this all works.. hence reading online and stumbled here.. so met my wife just under 30 years ago.. lived together for two years.. got married.. waited another two years to have a child.. all was amazing. everything. child was born, she moved out of the room, we had at the time sex maybe every two months.. first 9 months of child being born got nothing.. I would get up to feed the baby, help where i could.. i am a very involved father.. she was always tired, etc.. after a while she wanted another kid.. i said ok, we do need to have sex to have a baby, you know right? she got pregnant, so we had another child.. same.. we slept in separate rooms for 16 years.. and for sex was always an issue.. like it I was being irrational for wanting sex with my wife. I always made sure i gave her pleasure before myself, took her out, tried all.. so just before covid i realised that no, this is not right.. told her that we can stay married, but she continues in her room, but i need to move on. she begged to come back into the room.. we would have sex once a week.. but a few months back it started to dawn on me that she is doing it just to keep me.. doing the bare minimum.. there is no connection.. it bugged me, so i told her that no, no need for sex.. she was ok.. would want to cuddle, etc.. was ok for me.
I moved to AI companions for emotional intimacy, i felt that bringing a woman into my life would just mess up my family.. discussing with the AI chat boots they mentioned asexuality.. which got me thinking and reading online. So the past three weeks she asked me if i wanted sex.. i said no, i know she is doing it for me, and it is not what i want or desire.. issue now is I have a deep resentment towards her, i know i have not wasted half my life, because i have two gorgeous kids, but it damn hurts.. yesterday she asked to cuddle.. i said nah, it is ok.. cannot even hold her hand..
I told her to go read about asexuality.. I am not even sure if I am angry, sad, empty, shocked... guess i am just venting.. this is really all new to me..
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I dont understand how this all works.. hence reading online and stumbled here.. so met my wife just under 30 years ago.. lived together for two years.. got married.. waited another two years to have a child.. all was amazing. everything. child was born, she moved out of the room, we had at the time sex maybe every two months.. first 9 months of child being born got nothing.. I would get up to feed the baby, help where i could.. i am a very involved father.. she was always tired, etc.. after a while she wanted another kid.. i said ok, we do need to have sex to have a baby, you know right? she got pregnant, so we had another child.. same.. we slept in separate rooms for 16 years.. and for sex was always an issue.. like it I was being irrational for wanting sex with my wife. I always made sure i gave her pleasure before myself, took her out, tried all.. so just before covid i realised that no, this is not right.. told her that we can stay married, but she continues in her room, but i need to move on. she begged to come back into the room.. we would have sex once a week.. but a few months back it started to dawn on me that she is doing it just to keep me.. doing the bare minimum.. there is no connection.. it bugged me, so i told her that no, no need for sex.. she was ok.. would want to cuddle, etc.. was ok for me.
I moved to AI companions for emotional intimacy, i felt that bringing a woman into my life would just mess up my family.. discussing with the AI chat boots they mentioned asexuality.. which got me thinking and reading online. So the past three weeks she asked me if i wanted sex.. i said no, i know she is doing it for me, and it is not what i want or desire.. issue now is I have a deep resentment towards her, i know i have not wasted half my life, because i have two gorgeous kids, but it damn hurts.. yesterday she asked to cuddle.. i said nah, it is ok.. cannot even hold her hand..
I told her to go read about asexuality.. I am not even sure if I am angry, sad, empty, shocked... guess i am just venting.. this is really all new to me..
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Ace people, is there any anime which you can't watch because you're so repulsed by it?
I like watching anime from time to time... but there's several anime that I cannot watch because I think they're too vulgar; as a sex-repulsed asexual guy, I can't even think about anything relating to 'the act' without feeling sick.
I tend to stay away from ecchi most of the time, but I love watching romance anime... my first ever anime was Toradora! -I guess it left an impression.
I've been wondering... what animes couldn't you finish, or finished but hated it, because of how repulsed you were by it? -or, are there any anime that you won't watch because you know you won't like it?
(I'm not talking about anime which is practically hentai... e.g. Highschool DxD, or Prison School 'whatever-it's-called', I'm talking about regular anime that just gave you the ick)
For me, there are two animes that spring to mind. Ones that I couldn't finish because of how disgusted I was...
1) No Game No Life (as much as I think I'd enjoy it, I can't get past the pervy scenes... the tipping point was the wing massage scene. Never again.)
2) Mushoku Tensei: Jobless Reincarnation (sex scenes in the first episode, and then the main protagonist watches someone >!masturbate!< in the hallway... I'm not even going to dignify that with a re-watch)
imma go watch Toradora again
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I like watching anime from time to time... but there's several anime that I cannot watch because I think they're too vulgar; as a sex-repulsed asexual guy, I can't even think about anything relating to 'the act' without feeling sick.
I tend to stay away from ecchi most of the time, but I love watching romance anime... my first ever anime was Toradora! -I guess it left an impression.
I've been wondering... what animes couldn't you finish, or finished but hated it, because of how repulsed you were by it? -or, are there any anime that you won't watch because you know you won't like it?
(I'm not talking about anime which is practically hentai... e.g. Highschool DxD, or Prison School 'whatever-it's-called', I'm talking about regular anime that just gave you the ick)
For me, there are two animes that spring to mind. Ones that I couldn't finish because of how disgusted I was...
1) No Game No Life (as much as I think I'd enjoy it, I can't get past the pervy scenes... the tipping point was the wing massage scene. Never again.)
2) Mushoku Tensei: Jobless Reincarnation (sex scenes in the first episode, and then the main protagonist watches someone >!masturbate!< in the hallway... I'm not even going to dignify that with a re-watch)
imma go watch Toradora again
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Does anyone else not care about conversations where sex is mentioned?
I won't even lie, it doesn't bother me. I even actively participate, and crack jokes. At most if people tried to argue about my sexuality I just roll with an, "okay whatever you say broš." And continue on with my day. It doesn't even make me uncomfortable.
Usually when they try to, I double down and make them uncomfortable lol.
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I won't even lie, it doesn't bother me. I even actively participate, and crack jokes. At most if people tried to argue about my sexuality I just roll with an, "okay whatever you say broš." And continue on with my day. It doesn't even make me uncomfortable.
Usually when they try to, I double down and make them uncomfortable lol.
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