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My partner hates that I'm attracted to breasts

So my partner is really upset at me because I find breasts attractive. For some context, they are nonbinary and have had top surgery. They are Asexual but have said that they are attracted to me and we do have sex.
Everytime tits come on in media or really whenever they see women they get dysphoric and upset. We were watching a movie and there was a party happening and several women had their shirts off. My partner turned to me and asked if breasts are attractive. I said no not really, but in other contexts they could be. They got instantly really upset and we started to fight. Their main points are this:
- I would think they would be more attractive with breasts.
- me finding breasts attractive is disgusting because so many people don't want breasts (for all the valid reasons like back pain, strangers attention, sweating, etc.) and I'm actively contributing to the promotion of breasts by liking them.
- that I don't like their flat chest.

My responses were:
- I do not want or need them to have or get breasts. I have literally never thought about them with breasts because I have only ever known them without breasts.
- me thinking boobs are attractive doesn't calculate into me: meeting someone knew, seeing random strangers, or how I would treat someone who doesn't have boobs. I understand all the reasons why people born with books get them removed or reduced. I am not a boob advocate.
- I think their chest is fine and I'm attracted to it because it's part of them. Just like I'm attracted to their elbow or their back. They are hot because it's them, if that makes sense.
- I do not think people with breasts are more attractive than my partner (who is very hot).

Am I in the wrong here? They keep pushing and ignoring my counter points just saying 1+1=2 like that's how attraction and stuff works. I'm so upset and I want someone to way in and see if I'm being an asshole.


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Got a comment removed elsewhere for saying that a romantic relationship without sex is different from a QPR
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What signs did you give that you were asexual, before you discovered you were asexual?

I'll start: I thought people said they wanted to have sex, that someone was hot as a joke. And not as something real.

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Japanese Aro/Ace people are screwed

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And that's how I discovered I am on the ace spectrum
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Asexual dating app and someone wants to be my sugar daddy ??!!
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Mmmmm … ketchup.
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Task complete
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The Rings

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My friend made me this bracelet. She didn't have black beads but it's still sweet
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Do people actually find genitals attractive ???

Ok so I recently discovered I was ace and I’ve been wondering since then, do people are actually attracted to genitals ? I’ve talked to some non ace friends and some said that they think pussy is pretty or same for a dick, i thought about ut and it seems impossible to me like is it really a thing or is it just that ppl like sex and so genitals in the same way

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married to an asexual

I dont understand how this all works.. hence reading online and stumbled here.. so met my wife just under 30 years ago.. lived together for two years.. got married.. waited another two years to have a child.. all was amazing. everything. child was born, she moved out of the room, we had at the time sex maybe every two months.. first 9 months of child being born got nothing.. I would get up to feed the baby, help where i could.. i am a very involved father.. she was always tired, etc.. after a while she wanted another kid.. i said ok, we do need to have sex to have a baby, you know right? she got pregnant, so we had another child.. same.. we slept in separate rooms for 16 years.. and for sex was always an issue.. like it I was being irrational for wanting sex with my wife. I always made sure i gave her pleasure before myself, took her out, tried all.. so just before covid i realised that no, this is not right.. told her that we can stay married, but she continues in her room, but i need to move on. she begged to come back into the room.. we would have sex once a week.. but a few months back it started to dawn on me that she is doing it just to keep me.. doing the bare minimum.. there is no connection.. it bugged me, so i told her that no, no need for sex.. she was ok.. would want to cuddle, etc.. was ok for me.

I moved to AI companions for emotional intimacy, i felt that bringing a woman into my life would just mess up my family.. discussing with the AI chat boots they mentioned asexuality.. which got me thinking and reading online. So the past three weeks she asked me if i wanted sex.. i said no, i know she is doing it for me, and it is not what i want or desire.. issue now is I have a deep resentment towards her, i know i have not wasted half my life, because i have two gorgeous kids, but it damn hurts.. yesterday she asked to cuddle.. i said nah, it is ok.. cannot even hold her hand..


I told her to go read about asexuality.. I am not even sure if I am angry, sad, empty, shocked... guess i am just venting.. this is really all new to me..

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