So I was talking with a coworker about my love life, and...
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Not being picky
Even though I'm confident with identifying as Asexual, I still wonder if I'm just being picky. Yes, I do have some standards and wouldn't date anyone just because they say they like me. Occasionally though, I can't help but think, "what if Ijustput myself out there?".
But then I remember that even if I met someone who is exactly my type AND we hit it off, I would still have no desire to be intimate with them on that level.
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Even though I'm confident with identifying as Asexual, I still wonder if I'm just being picky. Yes, I do have some standards and wouldn't date anyone just because they say they like me. Occasionally though, I can't help but think, "what if Ijustput myself out there?".
But then I remember that even if I met someone who is exactly my type AND we hit it off, I would still have no desire to be intimate with them on that level.
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Am I asexual or stone butch. Sigh.
I think the flair is to be as you see it and rant. I don't know. Sigh.
I think I'm asexual. If I did have sex; I think I'd want for the person to use a body toy that doesn't have a head and is in my skin tone. Best I know how to explain it is like; the person wants to fuck me with a strap and so on; but I don't want to be fucked. But I do want to have sex and I do want the person to do some fucking.
No to pets, kids and being fucked.
Yes to kissing, cuddling; fucking the person with a strap, the person strap fucking the toy I said and all else life.
Also...
I am a lesbian. I am grunge lesbian. That stereotypical ness of long hair. I'm basically look like the actress Sara Gilbert and the singer inside her music video of her song "What I Am Is What I Am Is What You Are" minus the curls and cowboy boots.
You see the specific I am and am into? I'm a 1992 born kid. I feel limited for liking and being into lesbians specifically looking like them two.
Come on. There's got to be Grungy lesbians that look like them two of my age group and are as I explained my best with; with the Asexual.
When saying who I am out loud; I just say grunge lesbian because I have autism as well and don't like the way Assexual sounds. The word itself. Not what it is. All good. ...and just explain myself my dos and donts to the person. Bdbdhdjrhdhehehegeh annoying.
I highly doubt anyone understands.
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I think the flair is to be as you see it and rant. I don't know. Sigh.
I think I'm asexual. If I did have sex; I think I'd want for the person to use a body toy that doesn't have a head and is in my skin tone. Best I know how to explain it is like; the person wants to fuck me with a strap and so on; but I don't want to be fucked. But I do want to have sex and I do want the person to do some fucking.
No to pets, kids and being fucked.
Yes to kissing, cuddling; fucking the person with a strap, the person strap fucking the toy I said and all else life.
Also...
I am a lesbian. I am grunge lesbian. That stereotypical ness of long hair. I'm basically look like the actress Sara Gilbert and the singer inside her music video of her song "What I Am Is What I Am Is What You Are" minus the curls and cowboy boots.
You see the specific I am and am into? I'm a 1992 born kid. I feel limited for liking and being into lesbians specifically looking like them two.
Come on. There's got to be Grungy lesbians that look like them two of my age group and are as I explained my best with; with the Asexual.
When saying who I am out loud; I just say grunge lesbian because I have autism as well and don't like the way Assexual sounds. The word itself. Not what it is. All good. ...and just explain myself my dos and donts to the person. Bdbdhdjrhdhehehegeh annoying.
I highly doubt anyone understands.
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Asexuals who aren't aromantic, what do you call yourselves?
I'm an asexual but recently have been thinking... I am not interested in kissing a man but I will a woman, and I am a woman. Now the question is, what the heckle do I call myself? Cause technically I am not a lesbian cause I do not like sex but should I consider that as a title? And just say I'm not homo like that's a difference? Or is there another word for a woman who is attracted to women romantically but not sexually?
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I'm an asexual but recently have been thinking... I am not interested in kissing a man but I will a woman, and I am a woman. Now the question is, what the heckle do I call myself? Cause technically I am not a lesbian cause I do not like sex but should I consider that as a title? And just say I'm not homo like that's a difference? Or is there another word for a woman who is attracted to women romantically but not sexually?
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I really just want a movie or TV show with an asexual main character
I know there's some movies and TV show with aroace character and they're good! I love them! but sometimes I really just want a proper piece of media that's only completely about an asexual person and their struggles and thoughts and daily lives. I think it'd be nice to see representation like this and have something to fully relate to as someone who's aroace, you know? that's basically also why I'm patiently waiting for the lovess book live action, cause even tho I'm for sure over the age of the original target audience I'd love to see the story portrayed in a TV show
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I know there's some movies and TV show with aroace character and they're good! I love them! but sometimes I really just want a proper piece of media that's only completely about an asexual person and their struggles and thoughts and daily lives. I think it'd be nice to see representation like this and have something to fully relate to as someone who's aroace, you know? that's basically also why I'm patiently waiting for the lovess book live action, cause even tho I'm for sure over the age of the original target audience I'd love to see the story portrayed in a TV show
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Asexuals in a healthy relationship with a loving partner, SHARE YOUR STORIES💕
Had a dream which hit me with a lil sadness about possibly being those people who end up alone for the rest of their lives bUT I know people out there do have loving relationships with their partners while either their partner is also ace OR they respect their boundaries! Also feel free to share how you met and I'm looking for stories that symbolize long term relationships but please feel free to share anything! I need some good emotions and encouragement to know I possibly mAY find the one💕🥰 and even if I don't, I'm happy that you all have💕
You can also add articles if you want if stories from history as well if u have any!
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Had a dream which hit me with a lil sadness about possibly being those people who end up alone for the rest of their lives bUT I know people out there do have loving relationships with their partners while either their partner is also ace OR they respect their boundaries! Also feel free to share how you met and I'm looking for stories that symbolize long term relationships but please feel free to share anything! I need some good emotions and encouragement to know I possibly mAY find the one💕🥰 and even if I don't, I'm happy that you all have💕
You can also add articles if you want if stories from history as well if u have any!
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How to shut people's mouth when they say "you re not asexual, you just have to give sincere try"?
I am a 21F who identifies as asexual. Even the people closest to me keep saying that I just need to explore more, meet more people, and go through different experiences. It's really annoying to hear those suggestions from them. Based on my past experiences, I can confidently say that I'm not being true to myself if I try to engage in sex—the thought itself feels very gross.
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I am a 21F who identifies as asexual. Even the people closest to me keep saying that I just need to explore more, meet more people, and go through different experiences. It's really annoying to hear those suggestions from them. Based on my past experiences, I can confidently say that I'm not being true to myself if I try to engage in sex—the thought itself feels very gross.
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Watching Dragon Ball for the first time since I was a kid and realizing this is just ace on ace crime
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im dating a sex repulsed girl who says she wants to try and work towards sex
ive dated this girl for a couple months and she is one of the sweetest people ive ever known. so far everything has been fun and what i appreciate the most is how easy talking about everything is with her. she told me ahead of time that she was asexual and sex repulsed and she was nervous and anxious about intimate stuff that wasnt sexual too. through some simple asking hugging came pretty fast and has been great and through some thorough communication and moving slowly kissing also went down pretty smoothly and she says she enjoys both a lot.
i have never had sex in my life but i am not asexual. i told her from the beginning that i dont want to swear off sex for the rest of my life and that i dont know yet if it is something i need in my romantic relationship. i was talking to her about it a couple days ago about how the intimate stuff weve been trying was kinda the last things that werent sexual in nature and that if we move on that wont be the case anymore. she told me that she was fine with it and that maybe if we did some of the milder stuff id be able to live without the more intense stuff ie sexual intercourse. i told her that i dont think that would be the case at all. ive thought about it some more and it reallly is not that what i have going on with her right now isnt fun or intimate but im still quite young and i dont think id want a romantic relationship without sex.
i read a lot of people their experience online and they say its all about being willing to do so and loving someone enough to do that, but i dont think id be able to love anyone enough to have a romantic relationship without sex (i know about poly options and it will allways be something worth considering but it doesnt feel like it will satisfy me and she is kinda open to iit but she wouldnt be happy about it so thatd be its own can of worms). the thing is that i dont know if me not being able to do that is just me "needing it in my relationship cause thats just who i am" or something id have to get over that i just cant cause of emotional immaturity.
i talked to her again after that and i told her how i feel like i couldnt do it, but how i also see how having sex would make her uncomfortable and that i wouldnt want to make her do anything that would make her feel bad. i told her how i really liked her as a person and how i do want whats best for us even if that meant breaking it off. i asked her would you want a romantic relationship without sex and she said yes. (i dont know if i should have asked her the next thing but she did tell me multiple times already that she would be willing to try things) i asked her if she would be willing to carefully try and work towards sex. she said yes and asked me if i expected that answer. i told her i was not willing or daring to expect anything.
since then weve talked about it a couple times and from what she said to me she is still pretty chill with the idea. she told me she thinks its scary but that shes also a bit curious, and that the thought of doing that with me doesnt repulse her at all which she also finds weird and a little scary. ive told her im glad but that any door shes opened can be closed whenever she wants and that i would want it to be a fun process for her as well. ive told her i want to take it very slow and that there should allways be 4 eyes checking if shes still happy and not just two while were trying things. she told me she thinks im very sweet.
the problem im having is i feel like im asking a lot, because i am. and eventhough shes cool with it im kinda terrified that shes trying to change herself for me. she tells me shes never been more comfortable around anyone and i believe her, but i still overthink this situation a lot. from what ive read about sex repulsed people ive seen sex repulsion as something to be respected, and i kinda dont know where that leaves me here. i want to believe her and i feel like i should, but ive also read that trying to "get over sex repulsiion" can be traumatizing and
ive dated this girl for a couple months and she is one of the sweetest people ive ever known. so far everything has been fun and what i appreciate the most is how easy talking about everything is with her. she told me ahead of time that she was asexual and sex repulsed and she was nervous and anxious about intimate stuff that wasnt sexual too. through some simple asking hugging came pretty fast and has been great and through some thorough communication and moving slowly kissing also went down pretty smoothly and she says she enjoys both a lot.
i have never had sex in my life but i am not asexual. i told her from the beginning that i dont want to swear off sex for the rest of my life and that i dont know yet if it is something i need in my romantic relationship. i was talking to her about it a couple days ago about how the intimate stuff weve been trying was kinda the last things that werent sexual in nature and that if we move on that wont be the case anymore. she told me that she was fine with it and that maybe if we did some of the milder stuff id be able to live without the more intense stuff ie sexual intercourse. i told her that i dont think that would be the case at all. ive thought about it some more and it reallly is not that what i have going on with her right now isnt fun or intimate but im still quite young and i dont think id want a romantic relationship without sex.
i read a lot of people their experience online and they say its all about being willing to do so and loving someone enough to do that, but i dont think id be able to love anyone enough to have a romantic relationship without sex (i know about poly options and it will allways be something worth considering but it doesnt feel like it will satisfy me and she is kinda open to iit but she wouldnt be happy about it so thatd be its own can of worms). the thing is that i dont know if me not being able to do that is just me "needing it in my relationship cause thats just who i am" or something id have to get over that i just cant cause of emotional immaturity.
i talked to her again after that and i told her how i feel like i couldnt do it, but how i also see how having sex would make her uncomfortable and that i wouldnt want to make her do anything that would make her feel bad. i told her how i really liked her as a person and how i do want whats best for us even if that meant breaking it off. i asked her would you want a romantic relationship without sex and she said yes. (i dont know if i should have asked her the next thing but she did tell me multiple times already that she would be willing to try things) i asked her if she would be willing to carefully try and work towards sex. she said yes and asked me if i expected that answer. i told her i was not willing or daring to expect anything.
since then weve talked about it a couple times and from what she said to me she is still pretty chill with the idea. she told me she thinks its scary but that shes also a bit curious, and that the thought of doing that with me doesnt repulse her at all which she also finds weird and a little scary. ive told her im glad but that any door shes opened can be closed whenever she wants and that i would want it to be a fun process for her as well. ive told her i want to take it very slow and that there should allways be 4 eyes checking if shes still happy and not just two while were trying things. she told me she thinks im very sweet.
the problem im having is i feel like im asking a lot, because i am. and eventhough shes cool with it im kinda terrified that shes trying to change herself for me. she tells me shes never been more comfortable around anyone and i believe her, but i still overthink this situation a lot. from what ive read about sex repulsed people ive seen sex repulsion as something to be respected, and i kinda dont know where that leaves me here. i want to believe her and i feel like i should, but ive also read that trying to "get over sex repulsiion" can be traumatizing and
i, ofcourse, really really REALLY dont want THAT.
im kinda writing this more as a "how should i deal with this mentally" but please do feel free to give your ten cents about the situation and what you think we should do. i want to be in a relationship with this girl but what i want even more than that is for her to be happy, and if i can have both thats awesome but i dont want to hurt her by chasing something that could never be.
thank you for your replies in advance
she knows im feeling this way btw, i just thought i wanted some outsider opinions from people more experienced in this stuff.
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im kinda writing this more as a "how should i deal with this mentally" but please do feel free to give your ten cents about the situation and what you think we should do. i want to be in a relationship with this girl but what i want even more than that is for her to be happy, and if i can have both thats awesome but i dont want to hurt her by chasing something that could never be.
thank you for your replies in advance
she knows im feeling this way btw, i just thought i wanted some outsider opinions from people more experienced in this stuff.
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