My friend made me this 💜💜
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So….. My Mom Read My Shirt…

So I’ve said before how I came out to my mom as being asexual bi romantic. And long after that I bought an oh deer I’m queer shirt with the silhouette of a deer with the asexual colors. She saw me wearing it for the first time today asked why I’m wearing it. I told her because I’m asexual bi romantic and her exact words were ‘oh my god! You’re gonna get beat up wearing that!’ I told her I wasn’t because people around here don’t care(unless I go to the neighboring city’s down town area which you can get beat up for wearing almost anything). Then she said ‘doesn’t asexual mean you reproduce with yourself meaning you have sex with yourself’ which I replied with ‘we’ve been over this a long time ago’ and she claims we haven’t at all. Clearly she forgot or wasn’t paying attention at all when I came out to her. Now she seems offended.

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Got this after being hit on at the bar one too many times
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After too many people misinterpreted my "role-playing" hobby...
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inspirobot knows
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To produce a kilogram of honey, bees fly the equivalent of three times around the world in air miles.
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I officially have a QPR and I am so so so happy!

The other day me and my friend made it official that we're in a queer-platonic relationship and I am so happy! So, I've known that I'm ace for a few years (almost 5) at this point and for a long time I struggled with feeling like I was never going to be able to have a happy/fulfilling relationship because of having to find someone who would love me in all the ways I want them to while also being ok with me being ace and not caring about sex.

About my platonic partner: I met this person at college and we got along really well almost immediately. I don't know what it was I just felt like we connected and I could trust them (I was actually very hesitant about them at first because I was scared of how good they seemed). We've been friends for a few months and after a while of hanging out with other friends and just talking about things we realized that both of our primary love languages are physical touch and we both were very open to platonic touch (hugs, leaning on each other, sitting close, cuddling, etc). We started out with just a lot of hugs and sitting close to each other but eventually we ended up cuddling because they were having a bad day and we both needed it. IT WAS AMAZING! I have trauma around certain touch and certain areas of my body and they have been nothing but respectful. They constantly check in and ask what I want, what I'm comfortable with, and make sure they aren't doing anything that could trigger my trauma. We started cuddling a lot more and spending time in each others dorm rooms, still purely platonic. I learned what a queer-platonic relationship was after we became friends and I mentioned it to them because it sounded like the kind of relationship we had. They had made jokes before about us "platonically dating" because we spend so much time together and cuddle frequently. When I mentioned that it sounded like we were in a QPR they asked if that was something I was ok with and I said yes but we never talked about it after or really clarified anything so I wasn't sure what that meant for what we were. This was like 2 months ago, and we recently had finals so we were all headed home from college for winter break. We both had a full day of no finals before they had to fly back (they live like halfway across the country) and I was driving them to the airport so we just decided to hangout the whole day and night before they had to leave on an early-morning flight. We hung out, played video games, ate snacks, talked about different things and how much we would miss each other, and spent most of the day just in casual contact (leaning against each other, one of us wrapping their arms around the other, sitting in each other's laps, hugs). At some point I made a "What are we joke?" and they responded, seriously, "Platonically dating, obviously" so I laughed and then clarified because I'm an idiot and cannot pick up conversation clues. IT TURNS OUT, this idiot thought we were platonic partners the whole time while I thought we were still friends because I was too scared to ask in case it made them uncomfortable. I told them as much, we had a laugh about it, and then I was beaming because I have a platonic partner so they cuddled with me for like half an hour before we had to leave. Anyway, I'm just so happy because this human is someone I love and care about a lot and they get me so well and now they're my partner! I've been smiling so much since we officially clarified we are in a queer platonic relationship even though I guess not much has changed. It just made me really happy and I wanted to share because I've struggled for a long time with the fear that I would never find a partner or eventually all my friends would leave me for romantic allosexual relationships and I'd be alone because finding partners as an ace person is hard. It's just so nice to have someone who I know will be there for me outside of the normative strict definitions of romantic and platonic relationships.

TLDR: One of my friends who I love immensely officially became my queer

platonic partner yesterday (after them thinking we were in a QPR for 2 months and me thinking we were still just friends because we are bad at clarifying things 😆) and I am so happy I had to share it

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I came out recently and it went great!

For background: I'm kind of both in and out of the closet about being ace. I don't use the terms aro and ace to describe myself in day to day, but I also don't pretend to have crushes or want romantic relationships. I've come out once before to a very small group of friends, but with COVID and the distance involved, we don't really talk anymore.

So I have a work friend that I get along with very well, generally very accepting of everyone. One day we were joking back and forth and she noticed my ace ring and jokingly said, "Who are you married to? Wait, that's the wrong finger!" We laughed and I realized this might be the moment. So I took a deep breath and said, "That's my ace ring. I'm asexual."

Her eyes got really wide and she said, "Oh, I didn't know that ace rings were a thing! That's really cool." We just continued our conversation and she never said a word about it since.

Yesterday I got a new set of silicone rings delivered at work (shipping time was tons better) that are all in ace flag colors. When I told her what the package was, she immediately went, "You should wear them all at once, show your ace pride!"

Basically coming out to her was the right choice and it's nice to have someone know who is an active part of my life. I see so many coming out stories that don't go this well, so I wanted to share a positive one.

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Thinking about getting this shirt for Christmas
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"Asexuality isn't real you just have a low libido" bitch i literally masturbate to nothing i just sit there staring into the void jerking it how is that anything but ace?



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I do want a nice black sofa…
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Ace vibes

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What is next ater Denmark?
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my first experience with acephobia. definitely interesting I have to say. I'm glad that I'm not letting it get to me because I have really struggled with stuff like that in the past
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please help

for years ive been off and on about my asexuality. i know deep down that i am, and the thought of sex repulses me, but i ive had sex before (consentually and nonconsentually) and it makes me feel like a fake. Im also in a relationship right now and my partner has a very high sex drive. i dont know what to do, we love eachother very much but im so ashamed because i feel like i have to do something for them but i cant bring myself to. im so overwhelmed and i thought maybe some people on here could help me.

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credits to: @i.put.the.ace.in.disgrace 🤍
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Feelings During Movie Sex Scenes

So I realize I either feel nothing or grossed out by movie/ film sex scenes.

Asexuality I know is a spectrum and many will feel things during these scenes, but personally I do not.

Anyway, I just want to know what you all here feel during movie sex scenes, if anything?

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Today on straight men being weirdly accurate ace representation:
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[OC] Clarification from my last post- Calling people “hot” as an ace is VALID and will not disprove or invalidate your asexual identity!
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