The relationship advice for repulsed/sex averse aces is a little discouraging.
Every time there's a post on here from a repulsed/sex averse ace on here talking about how they're worried they'll be alone forever or never find anyone to date because they won't have sex, it seems like it's the aces that do have sex seem to give the advice.
For instance, if you see one of these posts and go to the comments the top one is usually from and ace dating an allo saying that it is possible, you just have to find the right person who will accept your asexuality and respect your boundaries. I think this is a great thing to see, but somewhere in the response they'll also say that they do have sex with their partners rarely, occasionally, or often. Then you go to the next comment and it's the same thing.
I do think these responses are positive and can be encouraging or helpful to some, but at the same time, it's not the same thing. For many allos (not all of course), no sex is dealbreaker. Telling someone who has sex strictly off the table, that its possible to have a happy relationship, even though this relationship they're speaking of includes sex is a little discouraging.
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Every time there's a post on here from a repulsed/sex averse ace on here talking about how they're worried they'll be alone forever or never find anyone to date because they won't have sex, it seems like it's the aces that do have sex seem to give the advice.
For instance, if you see one of these posts and go to the comments the top one is usually from and ace dating an allo saying that it is possible, you just have to find the right person who will accept your asexuality and respect your boundaries. I think this is a great thing to see, but somewhere in the response they'll also say that they do have sex with their partners rarely, occasionally, or often. Then you go to the next comment and it's the same thing.
I do think these responses are positive and can be encouraging or helpful to some, but at the same time, it's not the same thing. For many allos (not all of course), no sex is dealbreaker. Telling someone who has sex strictly off the table, that its possible to have a happy relationship, even though this relationship they're speaking of includes sex is a little discouraging.
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Maybe unpopular opinion: saying "I'm asexual" in response to a doctor asking you if you're sexually active isn't an answer at all
I've seen a couple posts here over the months saying stuff like "omg my doctor kept replacing ace with celibate when I told him I was ace when he asked about my sexual history.."
But asexual does not mean "doesn't have sex" and absolutely NOT all aces are apothisexual (sex-repulsed) either. The doctor is right to respond with "so you're celibate?" to clarify, because telling them you're ace doesn't answer your question.
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I've seen a couple posts here over the months saying stuff like "omg my doctor kept replacing ace with celibate when I told him I was ace when he asked about my sexual history.."
But asexual does not mean "doesn't have sex" and absolutely NOT all aces are apothisexual (sex-repulsed) either. The doctor is right to respond with "so you're celibate?" to clarify, because telling them you're ace doesn't answer your question.
https://redd.it/q7sgy1
@asexualityonreddit
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Maybe unpopular opinion: saying "I'm asexual" in response to a...
I've seen a couple posts here over the months saying stuff like "omg my doctor kept replacing ace with celibate when I told him I was ace when he...