Two weeks ago, I had an engagement ring. Today, I have on my first ace ring. It’s been tough, but I’m glad to be able to start living my truth.
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I think I lost my friends because of coming out
Sooo I have this friend group where all of us are lgbtqia+ and i'm the only aspec person. I came out to them as ace just about a week ago, and one of them called me an aceggot as a joke and everyone kinda laughed. I said it wasnt funny and no one said anything rude after that. Until today, when we all met up again and out of the blue two of my friends started joking again about me being an aceggot. I said again that it wasnt funny to me, but this time they all said that I'm overreacting and since it's not a real slur, its not "that deep". I asked if they want me to start calling them slurs and they said they knew all cishet aces were secretly homophobic..... which literally makes no sense because they were the ones starting to call me names and shit. Then they started bringing up the fact that I'm sexually active and said that I just didnt want to be the only "straightie" so I "decided to come up with a way to be special" like them. I really thought they were my friends but I dont think they ever even liked me and I feel so alone now
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Sooo I have this friend group where all of us are lgbtqia+ and i'm the only aspec person. I came out to them as ace just about a week ago, and one of them called me an aceggot as a joke and everyone kinda laughed. I said it wasnt funny and no one said anything rude after that. Until today, when we all met up again and out of the blue two of my friends started joking again about me being an aceggot. I said again that it wasnt funny to me, but this time they all said that I'm overreacting and since it's not a real slur, its not "that deep". I asked if they want me to start calling them slurs and they said they knew all cishet aces were secretly homophobic..... which literally makes no sense because they were the ones starting to call me names and shit. Then they started bringing up the fact that I'm sexually active and said that I just didnt want to be the only "straightie" so I "decided to come up with a way to be special" like them. I really thought they were my friends but I dont think they ever even liked me and I feel so alone now
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I think I lost my friends because of coming out
Sooo I have this friend group where all of us are lgbtqia+ and i'm the only aspec person. I came out to them as ace just about a week ago, and one...
What is your romantic preference?
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Has anybody else noticed a rise in blatant aphobia on TikTok?
Recently I've been getting a lot of videos on my fyp that are just blatantly acephobic, and it's extremely disheartening, especially because it's other *queer* people making these videos.
Most of the videos are attacking demisexuality, calling it a "personality trait," saying hook-up culture has ruined our perspective of normal relationships, and that straight people are calling themselves demisexual to sound queer.
First of all, it seems there is a big misunderstanding as to what demisexuality is. All it means is that a person will absolutely not experience sexual attraction unless they have a close emotional/romantic bond with a person. It also seems like people are conflating sexual attraction with sex. Yes, it's true, hook-up culture is very normal in western countries, but there are many allos who can be sexually attracted to a complete stranger and only be willing to have sex with their partner(s).
I've also seen people say demisexuality is just another way of saying "spicy straight." Demisexuality is not a sexuality only heteromantics use, but one that lesbian, gay, bi, pan, and people of other romantic orientations can be.
The comments under these videos are worse. Some people are even saying asexual people are forcing themselves into the LGBTQIA+ community to be queer. If you are not heteronormative (meaning: you are not allo cishet), you are queer. Being queer is not a sexual orientation, and I'm tired of people treating it as such. I've even had other queer people say I'm forcing myself into the community when I'm a bi-ace who's simply trying to defend het-aces who belong in the community. (Oddly enough, a lot of this aphobia seems like repackaged biphobia, so bi people who date people of the opposite gender also experience being told they're not "queer enough").
Some even try to redefine what it means to be LGBTQIA+. Apparently, straight people can't be in the community, but that completely erases straight trans and other straight gender minorities. I've also been told that aces can't be part of the community because we don't experience oppression. Asexuals have been recognized as members of the LGBTQIA+ community since the early 1900s. We belong in here for our asexuality just as much as any sexual orientation.
It's extremely tiring being a minority in a community of "bigger" minorities, because while we don't face systemic oppression, our issues are widely ignored and don't get enough attention. We are at risk of facing aggression from potential partners or people who want to have sex with us, being treated less than human or even broken for experiencing 0 or limited sexual attraction, being accused of not loving romantic partners, having our romantic relationships invalidated if we don't have sex, having doctors misdiagnose us with mental health issues we don't have, experiencing corrective rape, and more. But now we have to also experience aphobia within the community that's supposed to be so accepting??? It's fucked up and I'm exhausted.
On that note, I'd just like to remind everybody that they are valid. If you're an ace who has your romantic orientation (or lack thereof) figured out, you're still questioning your romantic orientation, you're straight, or you choose to go unlabeled, you're so fucking valid.
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Recently I've been getting a lot of videos on my fyp that are just blatantly acephobic, and it's extremely disheartening, especially because it's other *queer* people making these videos.
Most of the videos are attacking demisexuality, calling it a "personality trait," saying hook-up culture has ruined our perspective of normal relationships, and that straight people are calling themselves demisexual to sound queer.
First of all, it seems there is a big misunderstanding as to what demisexuality is. All it means is that a person will absolutely not experience sexual attraction unless they have a close emotional/romantic bond with a person. It also seems like people are conflating sexual attraction with sex. Yes, it's true, hook-up culture is very normal in western countries, but there are many allos who can be sexually attracted to a complete stranger and only be willing to have sex with their partner(s).
I've also seen people say demisexuality is just another way of saying "spicy straight." Demisexuality is not a sexuality only heteromantics use, but one that lesbian, gay, bi, pan, and people of other romantic orientations can be.
The comments under these videos are worse. Some people are even saying asexual people are forcing themselves into the LGBTQIA+ community to be queer. If you are not heteronormative (meaning: you are not allo cishet), you are queer. Being queer is not a sexual orientation, and I'm tired of people treating it as such. I've even had other queer people say I'm forcing myself into the community when I'm a bi-ace who's simply trying to defend het-aces who belong in the community. (Oddly enough, a lot of this aphobia seems like repackaged biphobia, so bi people who date people of the opposite gender also experience being told they're not "queer enough").
Some even try to redefine what it means to be LGBTQIA+. Apparently, straight people can't be in the community, but that completely erases straight trans and other straight gender minorities. I've also been told that aces can't be part of the community because we don't experience oppression. Asexuals have been recognized as members of the LGBTQIA+ community since the early 1900s. We belong in here for our asexuality just as much as any sexual orientation.
It's extremely tiring being a minority in a community of "bigger" minorities, because while we don't face systemic oppression, our issues are widely ignored and don't get enough attention. We are at risk of facing aggression from potential partners or people who want to have sex with us, being treated less than human or even broken for experiencing 0 or limited sexual attraction, being accused of not loving romantic partners, having our romantic relationships invalidated if we don't have sex, having doctors misdiagnose us with mental health issues we don't have, experiencing corrective rape, and more. But now we have to also experience aphobia within the community that's supposed to be so accepting??? It's fucked up and I'm exhausted.
On that note, I'd just like to remind everybody that they are valid. If you're an ace who has your romantic orientation (or lack thereof) figured out, you're still questioning your romantic orientation, you're straight, or you choose to go unlabeled, you're so fucking valid.
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Has anybody else noticed a rise in blatant aphobia on TikTok?
Recently I've been getting a lot of videos on my fyp that are just blatantly acephobic, and it's extremely disheartening, especially because it's...
my mom said she doesn't believe asexuality exits
I'm not out to her, but somehow asexuality came up and she said that she thought it was just a mental disorder. And guess what, it's all because of that stupid fucking house episode. So yah, that's just great.
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I'm not out to her, but somehow asexuality came up and she said that she thought it was just a mental disorder. And guess what, it's all because of that stupid fucking house episode. So yah, that's just great.
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my mom said she doesn't believe asexuality exits
I'm not out to her, but somehow asexuality came up and she said that she thought it was just a mental disorder. And guess what, it's all because...
I hate that sex is everywhere. I don't think I'm asexual, but oh my god I'm so sick of everyone always talking, singing, promoting, etc sex. I'm sick of seeing it everywhere. it's such a superficial desire that I wish was less of a big deal because it seriously bums me out. It's all anyone cares abt
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I hate that sex is everywhere. I don't think I'm asexual, but oh...
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Happy National Coming Out to Everyone!!
To everyone coming out on National Coming Out Day, all love to you! If you don't feel comfortable coming out today as well, all love to you!
I will say that ever since I came out as asexual to everyone, I've never felt happier in life than now. Joy is something everyone deserves.
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Studies show that coming out is something that brings positive emotions and better mental health.
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Everyone deserves to live their truth out. Don't let anyone disaffirm yours.
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To everyone coming out on National Coming Out Day, all love to you! If you don't feel comfortable coming out today as well, all love to you!
I will say that ever since I came out as asexual to everyone, I've never felt happier in life than now. Joy is something everyone deserves.
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Studies show that coming out is something that brings positive emotions and better mental health.
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Everyone deserves to live their truth out. Don't let anyone disaffirm yours.
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Happy National Coming Out to Everyone!!
To everyone coming out on National Coming Out Day, all love to you! If you don't feel comfortable coming out today as well, all love to you! I...
The rise of asexual representation
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The Rise of Asexual Representation
from jughead to spock, todd chavez to sheldon cooper - let's talk about the history of ace representation on screen!
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Is it easier to explain asexuality in a language with multiple words for love?
It’s a trope that Romance languages have all these different words for love, but English has just one. That one word is often translated to the word for romantic love in the other language, even if that is not what a native speaker would use. Similarly, sexual attraction often gets conflated with love. Do people using a language other than English have an easier time getting people to understand the difference?
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It’s a trope that Romance languages have all these different words for love, but English has just one. That one word is often translated to the word for romantic love in the other language, even if that is not what a native speaker would use. Similarly, sexual attraction often gets conflated with love. Do people using a language other than English have an easier time getting people to understand the difference?
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Is it easier to explain asexuality in a language with multiple...
It’s a trope that Romance languages have all these different words for love, but English has just one. That one word is often translated to the...
3 months ago i posted some art i made and i said in the title that im bisexual. well i realized last weekend that im ace. oh yeah also here is some new art i made.
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