Before you discovered your asexuality did you think that there was something wrong with you
So before you discovered your asexuality and/or asexual microlabel did you think that there was something wrong with you, like you had some issue that needed correction
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I Know They Don’t Understand But I Feel Unaccepted
I know that my parents don’t understand asexuality but it still hurts. I was eating dinner with my parents and was getting up to throw my plate away when my mom said “you look wonderful in those jeans”. I thanked her like usual and was about to leave the room when she said “you have no ass though”. I laughed because I know it’s true and replied “at least men won’t stare at my butt!” My mom laughed then replied saying “well, women like ass too!”
My mother knows that I’m a lesbian. I’ve dated two girls in my past. It wasn’t until recently that I figured out I was on the ace spectrum and accepted that, it was who I was. I knew my asexual labels would confuse the hell out of my mom, so I told her that I was on the ace spectrum. She replied that “I only think too deep into these things”.
Anyway, I stated back to her “I don’t even like it if women stare there as well!” Personally, I don’t like being stared at, so it wasn’t like I was flaunting or alluring to me being ace. I walked away, threw my plate away, and changed into comfortable pajamas. I came back to hear my mom say to my dad “She recently started calling herself asexual,” in this nasty tone. It made me feel bad that I went upstairs.
I understand that my mother is probably confused about me being asexual and a lesbian at the same time but the way she states my asexuality is a curse or weird. Sorry guys! I needed to rant.
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I know that my parents don’t understand asexuality but it still hurts. I was eating dinner with my parents and was getting up to throw my plate away when my mom said “you look wonderful in those jeans”. I thanked her like usual and was about to leave the room when she said “you have no ass though”. I laughed because I know it’s true and replied “at least men won’t stare at my butt!” My mom laughed then replied saying “well, women like ass too!”
My mother knows that I’m a lesbian. I’ve dated two girls in my past. It wasn’t until recently that I figured out I was on the ace spectrum and accepted that, it was who I was. I knew my asexual labels would confuse the hell out of my mom, so I told her that I was on the ace spectrum. She replied that “I only think too deep into these things”.
Anyway, I stated back to her “I don’t even like it if women stare there as well!” Personally, I don’t like being stared at, so it wasn’t like I was flaunting or alluring to me being ace. I walked away, threw my plate away, and changed into comfortable pajamas. I came back to hear my mom say to my dad “She recently started calling herself asexual,” in this nasty tone. It made me feel bad that I went upstairs.
I understand that my mother is probably confused about me being asexual and a lesbian at the same time but the way she states my asexuality is a curse or weird. Sorry guys! I needed to rant.
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I Know They Don’t Understand But I Feel Unaccepted
I know that my parents don’t understand asexuality but it still hurts. I was eating dinner with my parents and was getting up to throw my plate...
Wearing the colors helps us find each other! This was the first Pride event where I met other Ace folks — one with an Ace shirt, and two each wearing an Ace flag. Stoked!
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Demi & Ace: an upcoming aromantic romcom with a-spec characters
The teaser: https://youtu.be/tKEvuXdSMaM
I'm not associated with the production of this web series but it was just so amazing to see a-spec representation that I had to post about this. Demi & Ace is a rom-com about two a-spec friends. The series aims to break stereotypes about asexuality. Demi (Laura Eklund Nhaga) is demiromantic and demisexual and Ace (Katri Swan) is aromantic and asexual. The series was written by Eklund Nhaga, who is also demiromantic and demisexual like her character.
The production crew is Finnish and many of them are LGBTQIA+ but the series itself is spoken in English. It will also have Finnish and Swedish subtitles. It will air in early 2022.
Here's the source (in Finnish): https://kehraaja.com/aromanttinen-komedia-etsii-joukkorahoitusta-sarja-pyrkii-purkamaan-stereotypioita/
They also have Instagram, Twitter and Tumblr account
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The teaser: https://youtu.be/tKEvuXdSMaM
I'm not associated with the production of this web series but it was just so amazing to see a-spec representation that I had to post about this. Demi & Ace is a rom-com about two a-spec friends. The series aims to break stereotypes about asexuality. Demi (Laura Eklund Nhaga) is demiromantic and demisexual and Ace (Katri Swan) is aromantic and asexual. The series was written by Eklund Nhaga, who is also demiromantic and demisexual like her character.
The production crew is Finnish and many of them are LGBTQIA+ but the series itself is spoken in English. It will also have Finnish and Swedish subtitles. It will air in early 2022.
Here's the source (in Finnish): https://kehraaja.com/aromanttinen-komedia-etsii-joukkorahoitusta-sarja-pyrkii-purkamaan-stereotypioita/
They also have Instagram, Twitter and Tumblr account
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Demi & Ace: upcoming web series
Demi & Ace is an aromantic comedy, following two best friends on the asexual spectrum navigating through their early adulthood and questions of romance and friendship.
Coming out in early 2022 from the creators of Project Green Gables!
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Laura Eklund…
Coming out in early 2022 from the creators of Project Green Gables!
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Laura Eklund…
Two weeks ago, I had an engagement ring. Today, I have on my first ace ring. It’s been tough, but I’m glad to be able to start living my truth.
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I think I lost my friends because of coming out
Sooo I have this friend group where all of us are lgbtqia+ and i'm the only aspec person. I came out to them as ace just about a week ago, and one of them called me an aceggot as a joke and everyone kinda laughed. I said it wasnt funny and no one said anything rude after that. Until today, when we all met up again and out of the blue two of my friends started joking again about me being an aceggot. I said again that it wasnt funny to me, but this time they all said that I'm overreacting and since it's not a real slur, its not "that deep". I asked if they want me to start calling them slurs and they said they knew all cishet aces were secretly homophobic..... which literally makes no sense because they were the ones starting to call me names and shit. Then they started bringing up the fact that I'm sexually active and said that I just didnt want to be the only "straightie" so I "decided to come up with a way to be special" like them. I really thought they were my friends but I dont think they ever even liked me and I feel so alone now
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Sooo I have this friend group where all of us are lgbtqia+ and i'm the only aspec person. I came out to them as ace just about a week ago, and one of them called me an aceggot as a joke and everyone kinda laughed. I said it wasnt funny and no one said anything rude after that. Until today, when we all met up again and out of the blue two of my friends started joking again about me being an aceggot. I said again that it wasnt funny to me, but this time they all said that I'm overreacting and since it's not a real slur, its not "that deep". I asked if they want me to start calling them slurs and they said they knew all cishet aces were secretly homophobic..... which literally makes no sense because they were the ones starting to call me names and shit. Then they started bringing up the fact that I'm sexually active and said that I just didnt want to be the only "straightie" so I "decided to come up with a way to be special" like them. I really thought they were my friends but I dont think they ever even liked me and I feel so alone now
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I think I lost my friends because of coming out
Sooo I have this friend group where all of us are lgbtqia+ and i'm the only aspec person. I came out to them as ace just about a week ago, and one...
What is your romantic preference?
I am a 23/f panromantic ace, and I'm currious how many others are in this thread. I haven't met any other aces before. Answer if you're comfortable doing so and have a good day!
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Has anybody else noticed a rise in blatant aphobia on TikTok?
Recently I've been getting a lot of videos on my fyp that are just blatantly acephobic, and it's extremely disheartening, especially because it's other *queer* people making these videos.
Most of the videos are attacking demisexuality, calling it a "personality trait," saying hook-up culture has ruined our perspective of normal relationships, and that straight people are calling themselves demisexual to sound queer.
First of all, it seems there is a big misunderstanding as to what demisexuality is. All it means is that a person will absolutely not experience sexual attraction unless they have a close emotional/romantic bond with a person. It also seems like people are conflating sexual attraction with sex. Yes, it's true, hook-up culture is very normal in western countries, but there are many allos who can be sexually attracted to a complete stranger and only be willing to have sex with their partner(s).
I've also seen people say demisexuality is just another way of saying "spicy straight." Demisexuality is not a sexuality only heteromantics use, but one that lesbian, gay, bi, pan, and people of other romantic orientations can be.
The comments under these videos are worse. Some people are even saying asexual people are forcing themselves into the LGBTQIA+ community to be queer. If you are not heteronormative (meaning: you are not allo cishet), you are queer. Being queer is not a sexual orientation, and I'm tired of people treating it as such. I've even had other queer people say I'm forcing myself into the community when I'm a bi-ace who's simply trying to defend het-aces who belong in the community. (Oddly enough, a lot of this aphobia seems like repackaged biphobia, so bi people who date people of the opposite gender also experience being told they're not "queer enough").
Some even try to redefine what it means to be LGBTQIA+. Apparently, straight people can't be in the community, but that completely erases straight trans and other straight gender minorities. I've also been told that aces can't be part of the community because we don't experience oppression. Asexuals have been recognized as members of the LGBTQIA+ community since the early 1900s. We belong in here for our asexuality just as much as any sexual orientation.
It's extremely tiring being a minority in a community of "bigger" minorities, because while we don't face systemic oppression, our issues are widely ignored and don't get enough attention. We are at risk of facing aggression from potential partners or people who want to have sex with us, being treated less than human or even broken for experiencing 0 or limited sexual attraction, being accused of not loving romantic partners, having our romantic relationships invalidated if we don't have sex, having doctors misdiagnose us with mental health issues we don't have, experiencing corrective rape, and more. But now we have to also experience aphobia within the community that's supposed to be so accepting??? It's fucked up and I'm exhausted.
On that note, I'd just like to remind everybody that they are valid. If you're an ace who has your romantic orientation (or lack thereof) figured out, you're still questioning your romantic orientation, you're straight, or you choose to go unlabeled, you're so fucking valid.
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Recently I've been getting a lot of videos on my fyp that are just blatantly acephobic, and it's extremely disheartening, especially because it's other *queer* people making these videos.
Most of the videos are attacking demisexuality, calling it a "personality trait," saying hook-up culture has ruined our perspective of normal relationships, and that straight people are calling themselves demisexual to sound queer.
First of all, it seems there is a big misunderstanding as to what demisexuality is. All it means is that a person will absolutely not experience sexual attraction unless they have a close emotional/romantic bond with a person. It also seems like people are conflating sexual attraction with sex. Yes, it's true, hook-up culture is very normal in western countries, but there are many allos who can be sexually attracted to a complete stranger and only be willing to have sex with their partner(s).
I've also seen people say demisexuality is just another way of saying "spicy straight." Demisexuality is not a sexuality only heteromantics use, but one that lesbian, gay, bi, pan, and people of other romantic orientations can be.
The comments under these videos are worse. Some people are even saying asexual people are forcing themselves into the LGBTQIA+ community to be queer. If you are not heteronormative (meaning: you are not allo cishet), you are queer. Being queer is not a sexual orientation, and I'm tired of people treating it as such. I've even had other queer people say I'm forcing myself into the community when I'm a bi-ace who's simply trying to defend het-aces who belong in the community. (Oddly enough, a lot of this aphobia seems like repackaged biphobia, so bi people who date people of the opposite gender also experience being told they're not "queer enough").
Some even try to redefine what it means to be LGBTQIA+. Apparently, straight people can't be in the community, but that completely erases straight trans and other straight gender minorities. I've also been told that aces can't be part of the community because we don't experience oppression. Asexuals have been recognized as members of the LGBTQIA+ community since the early 1900s. We belong in here for our asexuality just as much as any sexual orientation.
It's extremely tiring being a minority in a community of "bigger" minorities, because while we don't face systemic oppression, our issues are widely ignored and don't get enough attention. We are at risk of facing aggression from potential partners or people who want to have sex with us, being treated less than human or even broken for experiencing 0 or limited sexual attraction, being accused of not loving romantic partners, having our romantic relationships invalidated if we don't have sex, having doctors misdiagnose us with mental health issues we don't have, experiencing corrective rape, and more. But now we have to also experience aphobia within the community that's supposed to be so accepting??? It's fucked up and I'm exhausted.
On that note, I'd just like to remind everybody that they are valid. If you're an ace who has your romantic orientation (or lack thereof) figured out, you're still questioning your romantic orientation, you're straight, or you choose to go unlabeled, you're so fucking valid.
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Has anybody else noticed a rise in blatant aphobia on TikTok?
Recently I've been getting a lot of videos on my fyp that are just blatantly acephobic, and it's extremely disheartening, especially because it's...
my mom said she doesn't believe asexuality exits
I'm not out to her, but somehow asexuality came up and she said that she thought it was just a mental disorder. And guess what, it's all because of that stupid fucking house episode. So yah, that's just great.
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I'm not out to her, but somehow asexuality came up and she said that she thought it was just a mental disorder. And guess what, it's all because of that stupid fucking house episode. So yah, that's just great.
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my mom said she doesn't believe asexuality exits
I'm not out to her, but somehow asexuality came up and she said that she thought it was just a mental disorder. And guess what, it's all because...
I hate that sex is everywhere. I don't think I'm asexual, but oh my god I'm so sick of everyone always talking, singing, promoting, etc sex. I'm sick of seeing it everywhere. it's such a superficial desire that I wish was less of a big deal because it seriously bums me out. It's all anyone cares abt
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I hate that sex is everywhere. I don't think I'm asexual, but oh...
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