Realised my bats design could be modified into an Ace flag. Would love to hear what you guys think about it =)
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Definitely a repost, but I found this and thought of you dudes
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I told my best friend I'm asexual, and now she's telling all of our friends without my consent.
I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm fine with them knowing I'm ace. I don't care if I just met you, I'll tell you, but I don't know how to process this. Yeah I'm okay if they know but I don't want her telling everyone as soon as I come up in some sort of Convo. I wanted so bad to come out to my friends on my own terms, not have her ruin it for me. I tried to "come out" to one of our good friends and he looked dead at me and said "yeah I knew. (Girl) told me already." And I sat there so dumbfounded. That was the second time I had been told she'd done that. She's one of my only friends and I don't want to lose her so I don't know how to bring it up to her. I love her so much but I seriously hate her for this. How could she? It feels like she betrayed my trust. I don't know what to do. :(
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I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm fine with them knowing I'm ace. I don't care if I just met you, I'll tell you, but I don't know how to process this. Yeah I'm okay if they know but I don't want her telling everyone as soon as I come up in some sort of Convo. I wanted so bad to come out to my friends on my own terms, not have her ruin it for me. I tried to "come out" to one of our good friends and he looked dead at me and said "yeah I knew. (Girl) told me already." And I sat there so dumbfounded. That was the second time I had been told she'd done that. She's one of my only friends and I don't want to lose her so I don't know how to bring it up to her. I love her so much but I seriously hate her for this. How could she? It feels like she betrayed my trust. I don't know what to do. :(
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I told my best friend I'm asexual, and now she's telling all of...
I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm fine with them knowing I'm ace. I don't care if I just met you, I'll tell you, but I don't know how to process...
I feel like queer relationships in media are often much more well written and relatable as an ace person than heteroromantic-heterosexual relationships are
I was watching clips of the TV show Hannibal and the way that Hannibal and Will’s relationship isn’t sexual but is clearly more than just platonic just strikes a chord with me. I usually am not really a fan of romance, but the way they touch each other and hold each other kind of makes me want a relationship despite me being aro-spec. It’s just so pure and loving and it showcases this adoration and acceptance for the other person as a whole, not just as a sexual partner. I’m not trying to romanticize their relationship since it definitely was abusive, but it’s still much more enjoyable than shows where straight characters make eye contact and the next scene is them undressing in the middle of a dimly lit street (ok mild exaggeration on my part but you get the picture). I hate how straight characters get together purely because they’re the opposite gender and I feel like because queer relationships are less accepted when they do get shown in media they are much more well thought out. This isn’t to say that there aren’t great straight relationships in media, just that I relate to them much less on a personal level.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that the queer relationships I have seen in media are usually much more than just sex for the sake of having it in the show with not much other development or chemistry between characters.
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I was watching clips of the TV show Hannibal and the way that Hannibal and Will’s relationship isn’t sexual but is clearly more than just platonic just strikes a chord with me. I usually am not really a fan of romance, but the way they touch each other and hold each other kind of makes me want a relationship despite me being aro-spec. It’s just so pure and loving and it showcases this adoration and acceptance for the other person as a whole, not just as a sexual partner. I’m not trying to romanticize their relationship since it definitely was abusive, but it’s still much more enjoyable than shows where straight characters make eye contact and the next scene is them undressing in the middle of a dimly lit street (ok mild exaggeration on my part but you get the picture). I hate how straight characters get together purely because they’re the opposite gender and I feel like because queer relationships are less accepted when they do get shown in media they are much more well thought out. This isn’t to say that there aren’t great straight relationships in media, just that I relate to them much less on a personal level.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that the queer relationships I have seen in media are usually much more than just sex for the sake of having it in the show with not much other development or chemistry between characters.
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I feel like queer relationships in media are often much more well...
I was watching clips of the TV show Hannibal and the way that Hannibal and Will’s relationship isn’t sexual but is clearly more than just platonic...
subtly coming out to people by posting a pic of me next to ace cards on instagram, i doubt it worked though
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Being ace is so difficult
I hope I did this right - had to create a reddit account for it as I don't know where else to go to vent about all this.
I've had a lot of stuff happen over the past few days which is related to friendships I've lost, which I don't deal that well with for a few reasons but one is because my friends are all I have.
I don't tell most people I'm ace and even with those who know, everyone believes me when I say I'm "single by choice" and totally happy. But I'm not. I know being ace doesn't make it impossible to have a romantic relationship but the truth it that it's a lot harder and it just doesn't happen for everyone. I'm almost 40, I've always been single and I'm just so lonely right now.
Every time a lose a good friend (usually because they get into a relationship and don't need me anymore) it feels like a breakup. I pretend I'm fine and most of the time I suppose I am, but deep down it hurts that I'll never be anyone's first choice, that nobody will ever be in love with me, that I don't get to have that because of my sexuality. And when I try to tell people how I feel they tell me that there's still time or I don't need a relationship to be happy or whatever and I know they're trying to be supportive but it just invalidates my feelings.
Honestly, I've known I'm ace for close to 20 years and I've always hated it. And 95% of the time I'm mentally well and it's okay. But when I feel like this it's just... hard. I'm sad, and I have to deal with being sad on my own and it's unfair and it sucks.
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I hope I did this right - had to create a reddit account for it as I don't know where else to go to vent about all this.
I've had a lot of stuff happen over the past few days which is related to friendships I've lost, which I don't deal that well with for a few reasons but one is because my friends are all I have.
I don't tell most people I'm ace and even with those who know, everyone believes me when I say I'm "single by choice" and totally happy. But I'm not. I know being ace doesn't make it impossible to have a romantic relationship but the truth it that it's a lot harder and it just doesn't happen for everyone. I'm almost 40, I've always been single and I'm just so lonely right now.
Every time a lose a good friend (usually because they get into a relationship and don't need me anymore) it feels like a breakup. I pretend I'm fine and most of the time I suppose I am, but deep down it hurts that I'll never be anyone's first choice, that nobody will ever be in love with me, that I don't get to have that because of my sexuality. And when I try to tell people how I feel they tell me that there's still time or I don't need a relationship to be happy or whatever and I know they're trying to be supportive but it just invalidates my feelings.
Honestly, I've known I'm ace for close to 20 years and I've always hated it. And 95% of the time I'm mentally well and it's okay. But when I feel like this it's just... hard. I'm sad, and I have to deal with being sad on my own and it's unfair and it sucks.
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Being ace is so difficult
I hope I did this right - had to create a reddit account for it as I don't know where else to go to vent about all this. I've had a lot of stuff...