It's been over a month and a half and I'm still reeling from what my doctor said to me
Okay, so for context: I went to meet my partner a state over in June. We had sex while I was there. In August I went to the doctor for a physical and to hopefully get a referral to a therapist (still waiting on the phone call to set up an appointment).
Somehow the topic comes up and I mention being asexual. This is while the doc is doing a physical examination and squishing me all over so it was hard to respond in any meaningful way. I don't remember exact details, but I have bullet points here:
- "you're not asexual, hun, you've had sex"
- "I only ever hear young people say that" (implying I'll grow out of it, I'm 19)
And the one that still pisses me off the most:
- "being asexual is like.. being 7 all the time. You just wanna play tag and eat peanut butter jelly sandwiches"
.. I'm.. sorry?? The fuck did you just say to me? She even tried to say 10 at first, but then corrected it to 7 after realizing that I had gotten my first period at 10. My mom, who didn't want to annoy this woman since she's her doctor too and also super petty, didn't say a thing. She did say when we were in the car that I had that look of "this straight bitch is REALLY gonna tell me how my sexuality works??" Like.. yeah, holy shit, what is wrong with this woman??
How hard is it to understand that I'm just not sexually attracted to people? I don't experience sexual attraction, but I can still have sex with my partner. Just.. ugh, that hugged the hell out of me, and I just hope my therapist isn't like this too.
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Okay, so for context: I went to meet my partner a state over in June. We had sex while I was there. In August I went to the doctor for a physical and to hopefully get a referral to a therapist (still waiting on the phone call to set up an appointment).
Somehow the topic comes up and I mention being asexual. This is while the doc is doing a physical examination and squishing me all over so it was hard to respond in any meaningful way. I don't remember exact details, but I have bullet points here:
- "you're not asexual, hun, you've had sex"
- "I only ever hear young people say that" (implying I'll grow out of it, I'm 19)
And the one that still pisses me off the most:
- "being asexual is like.. being 7 all the time. You just wanna play tag and eat peanut butter jelly sandwiches"
.. I'm.. sorry?? The fuck did you just say to me? She even tried to say 10 at first, but then corrected it to 7 after realizing that I had gotten my first period at 10. My mom, who didn't want to annoy this woman since she's her doctor too and also super petty, didn't say a thing. She did say when we were in the car that I had that look of "this straight bitch is REALLY gonna tell me how my sexuality works??" Like.. yeah, holy shit, what is wrong with this woman??
How hard is it to understand that I'm just not sexually attracted to people? I don't experience sexual attraction, but I can still have sex with my partner. Just.. ugh, that hugged the hell out of me, and I just hope my therapist isn't like this too.
https://redd.it/pzvvqn
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It's been over a month and a half and I'm still reeling from what...
Okay, so for context: I went to meet my partner a state over in June. We had sex while I was there. In August I went to the doctor for a physical...
Do you want to live in a country that is only for asexuals?
A country that is founded only for asexuals and there's nothings sexual there and all or most people are asexual there.
That country is as good as your current country. So the only difference is about its asexuality.
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A country that is founded only for asexuals and there's nothings sexual there and all or most people are asexual there.
That country is as good as your current country. So the only difference is about its asexuality.
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GF of four years just told me she was asexual.
I’ll cut to the chase, we had lots of sex when we started dating and the sex slowly started dwindling down and heard a lot of the times that sex is all I wanted from her and so on. I went 6 months without sex and when I finally asked her about it she explains to me that she’s asexual. I feel lied to but I also want to understand how she can go from having sex to no becoming asexual.
I just feel like I’m not good enough.
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I’ll cut to the chase, we had lots of sex when we started dating and the sex slowly started dwindling down and heard a lot of the times that sex is all I wanted from her and so on. I went 6 months without sex and when I finally asked her about it she explains to me that she’s asexual. I feel lied to but I also want to understand how she can go from having sex to no becoming asexual.
I just feel like I’m not good enough.
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GF of four years just told me she was asexual.
I’ll cut to the chase, we had lots of sex when we started dating and the sex slowly started dwindling down and heard a lot of the times that sex...
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I'm writing a paper on asexuality and I need some personal opinions from people who are asexual, queer, or straight. I would really appreciate it if you took this quiz but you don't have to.
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I CAME OUT! 🖤🤍💜
Soo this was something I wasnt even thinking about doing but it happened.
Yesterday night one of my friends and I were talking about general stuff, like religion, society, politics etc etc... Then while we were talking she mentioned how sex seems so disturbing to her and she doesnt understand why media is obsessed with it. Honestly her words gave me strength and I told her I feel the same and I identify as asexual. She accepted it with open arms and told me that as far as she knows asexual people want to be in a romantic relationship too(some context here: in our friend group when the topic of crushes open I always tell them how I dont like anyone or dont find any men attractive. Its not because I am aro, I am just homoromantic and I couldn't say that to them so I just acted like I like no one). I said yes I want to be in a relationship and before I knew it I also told her I like woman. I was so nervous that I couldn't stop shaking and my chin was constantly trembling. She said she still accepts me and sees me as her friend and I couldn't be happier. It felt like a dream, that I finally told someone and my world didnt crash. I just wanted to post it here to remind to all of us that even in the most religious and homophobic spaces there are people who will still love us.
This sounded so corny lol, anyways stay safe everyone.
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Soo this was something I wasnt even thinking about doing but it happened.
Yesterday night one of my friends and I were talking about general stuff, like religion, society, politics etc etc... Then while we were talking she mentioned how sex seems so disturbing to her and she doesnt understand why media is obsessed with it. Honestly her words gave me strength and I told her I feel the same and I identify as asexual. She accepted it with open arms and told me that as far as she knows asexual people want to be in a romantic relationship too(some context here: in our friend group when the topic of crushes open I always tell them how I dont like anyone or dont find any men attractive. Its not because I am aro, I am just homoromantic and I couldn't say that to them so I just acted like I like no one). I said yes I want to be in a relationship and before I knew it I also told her I like woman. I was so nervous that I couldn't stop shaking and my chin was constantly trembling. She said she still accepts me and sees me as her friend and I couldn't be happier. It felt like a dream, that I finally told someone and my world didnt crash. I just wanted to post it here to remind to all of us that even in the most religious and homophobic spaces there are people who will still love us.
This sounded so corny lol, anyways stay safe everyone.
https://redd.it/q0cggp
@asexualityonreddit
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I CAME OUT! 🖤🤍💜
Soo this was something I wasnt even thinking about doing but it happened. Yesterday night one of my friends and I were talking about general...