Allos and Their Complaining

Anyone else tired of hearing it? I'm tired of hearing allos complain about how hard they have it. I get dating's rough, and I try to be supportive. But I hate talking with straight guys because I can't relate at all.

If I have to hear one more guy, especially on Reddit, complain about how nobody hugs him or compliments him, how much he wants his girl to pat his head like she's his fucking mother, or says "people say all men want is sex but that's not true!" because we all know damn well they won't consider dating an asexual woman, especially one that's sex-repulsed. If you truly cared about being loved, sex's importance would be further down the list.

It's impossible to relate to allos when they talk about online dating, too. I can't even pick "asexual" as my orientation. Even when it's in my description, I have to remind people of it in case they didn't read the two sentences I put in there and get turned down anyway. I can't ask to be paired with only other asexuals or I would do that.

In general, people complain about being single, incel, or "forever alone." Well, at least you have a fucking chance, douchebag, and you're squandering it. You don't have to whip out your Powerpoint presentation explaining your entire sexuality on the first date, or be asked out, only for that person to say "nevermind" when you mention you're asexual.

Whenever they have marriage problems, they come to me for someone to talk to because I "get it." Or they tell me I'm lucky that I don't have to deal with all this. You think I chose to be like this? I would love a chance at what you have! SHUT UP.

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Aro/ace vibes from this post
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Join the void
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Question for my ace-spec peps who have periods

How do you feel about using tampons?

View Poll

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Once again, are the allos ok? (Hint: the answer is no)
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The Tale of the Breadless Horseman (OC)
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I came out to my mom as aroace

And it couldn't have gone better, I'm so happy right now words cannot describe it. And i want to say thank you to everyone for the support on my last post, I'm going through a hard time currently and seeing all the upvotes and comments makes me so happy. Thank you. This community is truly the best.

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No you're not 'just asking' when you question our humanity, our rights, our representation, or our inclusion.

Questions about our right to exist are inherently offensive. There is no 'good faith' question about those topics. We dont need to debate our rights to exist. It's not a 'fun logic puzzle'. It's our lives. Just asking those kinds of questions is dehumanizing and discriminatory.

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I don't care if we are together or not, if you don't know the passcode, you shall not pass
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Ive got an ace up my sleeve. Its me. Im ace. And im up these sleeves
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Don't touch my food
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Suddenly ace (is there a sub for that lmao, there should be)
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what the actual hell allos
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Childhood teddy and I so proud 💜🖤🤍

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Cuddle Drive?

Hey guys, quick question. Does anyone have like a sex drive, but instead of for sex it's for hugs and cuddles? Like sometimes I'll get this fuzzy feeling and really want/need a hug and can't concentrate well on anything else until I get one. This can happen both randomly, or also when I hear/read about people hugging and cuddling. It's kinda weird. I'll sometimes also have platonic fantasies as I call them about me hugging/cuddling with my favorite characters.

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Asexual or allo?

I’ve been labelling myself as Asexual for a bit now, but I’ve recently been thinking about changing it. It’s mostly because I don’t know what sexual attraction feels like anymore.

What I’ve been experiencing is vague sexual fantasies of people, but their faces are always darkened to the point that I can’t see their face. I can’t imagine myself having sex either. It’s usually just a placeholder in my mind. Does this still count as asexuality?

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(26F) I think I'm an ace but I live in a country and a family that will never understand asexuality

Long story short. I'm from India. I have tried telling my parents, friends and even my sister that I'm asexual. Everyone thinks it's a phase. I'm being forced to think of getting married soon. I get nightmares frequently of being married forcefully.

In India, marital r*p* is not considered illegal. If I say yes to arranged marriage I'll be r*p*d practically every day. It's so hard to convince my folks that I never ever want to get married. I truly have no desire for companionship. I don't know how to find a solution. Any thoughts are welcome. Thanks in advance.

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Just one extra data point in the “no, my hormones don’t need to be checked”

I figured I’d share with y’all as a group who might appreciate this, but-

I’m trans and as a result of going on HRT, they had to first take a baseline of my hormones to see where I was at, and I was fully expecting to some extent, either as an ace person or a trans person who had heard from so, so many people that it must’ve been a result of some sort of hormonal imbalance (ugh), that maybe I did have an unexpected hormonal level somewhere.

Instead, my T count to start was at the high end of the scale, but otherwise completely typical. I’ve since completely changed my hormonal balance in my body, where my T is now happily near the bottom of the scale, and surprise surprise, I was ace before and I’m ace now!

We get told so many things to explain away who we are and why we are, but it’s garbage. Be ace, eat cake.

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