showerthought: Asexuals possibly be the only people that would be genuinely insulted by the phrase "go fuck yourself".



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I mean...
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From my deleted post but with the real one
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By far the best experience i’ve ever had buying something online
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Relationships?

I’ve recently realized I’m asexual and am in couples counseling with my allo husband (for this among other problems). Our therapist suggested making a needs/ wants list for personal, romantic relationships, and platonic relationships. I’ve realized the platonic and romantic have shockingly similar lists, same content with different wording. I’m starting to wonder of aromantic also describes me? I was calling myself biromantic before. I’m also a person who has very strong, life long, tell them everything, count on them for anything friendships.

Could anyone who is Ace/ Aro talk about how their partnerships are different than really strong or close friendships?

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I wanna be your bf n' sew us matching jammies to cuddle in while I watch you play a videogame.
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I don't like chocolate

I've never liked chocolate. I just don't like it, I don't like how it sticks to your teeth, and anything chocolate flavored makes me want to throw up when I taste it. I've grown up with people reacting surprised when I tell them. How can you not like chocolate! Everyone likes chocolate! Well I don't.

The last time I ate chocolate was in summer camp. It was a snack bar, and it had chocolate in it. I came very close to throwing up, and I had to drink a lot of water after eating it.

I've always been very wary of brown looking sweets, and I wouldn't eat any out of fear of chocolate being part of the ingredients. Because I REALLY don't like chocolate. But I've lately realized that some brown sweets are actually not chocolate, and I've come to enjoy some of them. I still don't like chocolate though. And I still get people surprised by the fact that I don't, thinking I'm messing with them, looking at me like I'm a weirdo of some sort.

Now some of you might find some or many of the things I said relatable. Maybe you've been in similar situations or you've been told similar things. You might feel like not liking chocolate sucks and people will never understand what it's like. But I'm grateful that I don't like chocolate, because when people come to terms with it, it's a lot easier for them to accept that I don't like sex either.

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Have sum garlic bread, you deserve it🧄🍞

Hello amazing community of aces, aros and a-spec folks, which I'm part of. I just wanted to remind you that you're completely valid, no matter what sexuality or your gender identity is. You should be loved for being who you are.

For the aces and ace-specs, you're amazing, wether you feel or not feel sexual attraction. Sex is not a vital thing, you're not obligated to do that if you don't want to, and if you want to, it's ok too. You can live your life the way you want to live your life. If your partner don't respect your sexuality or your decision to not have sex with them, then they're not worthy of you.

For the aros and aro-specs, you're amazing too, wether you feel or not feel romantic attraction. You're not obligated to be a part of a romantic relashionship, since it's not a vital thing either. And if you don't want to live "lonely", you still have your parents and friends to spend time with, or even live with you. If someone ever tells you that your aromanticism(idk if it's right) is not normal, don't believe them, because it's not true, same for aces.

If you ever feel like you don't belong anywhere, remember that the lgbtq+ and a-spec will always be here for you, to respect and support you. You're a part of the most colorful community, who accepts people of all kinds(except lgbtphobes, racists and misogynists). Life must be difficult at some point of your life, people might laugh at you because of who you are, but never let those assholes make you think you're not worthy of love and respect. 💜💚🤍🖤

Now take sum garlic bread🧄🍞, and if you can't eat garlic bread, take sum cake🍰

(also idk which flair should i use so i put none) :D

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Don't know if it belong here or not but closer parking
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This is what happens when I hear aphobes
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Well, it was a good five years.

Maybe writing this down will help myself feel normalized.
Today isn't a day of celebration as it normally would be on September 10th for myself. It is the 5th anniversary of my relationship with my "current" partner. Unfortunately, she sat me down at lunch time. I thought the conversation would be, "happy anniversary babe!" Or "we should spoil ourselves today, we deserve it!". Instead, I was met with the dreaded: "we should talk".

My Aro and Grey-Sexual identity has taken its toll on her. We communicated throughout our relationship about it and everything seemed fine. Today- or sometime during the last few weeks- was her breaking point. I'd like to think of myself as a good provider and a great relationship giver. I have my shit together (mostly). I can't help but feel utterly defeated and alienated by my own body and mind.

Needless to say we are in the process of breaking up. It wasn't personal. I hate the fact that she was suffering. But... I just feel betrayed. Melancholy and self-loathing are also emotions I am experiencing. Anyone have any advice? I don't mean to vent too hard. I just don't have many supports and wanted to give Reddit a shot.

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Not sure if he's a true ace, but he's a straight mood
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found for your non-enjoyment in r/theowlhouse (go watch it)
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Made an Ace, AroAce, and Aro bracelet for myself.
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I told a fuckboy I was ace

And he said "Well you didn't seem so asexual when you were making out with me." He asked me to go back to his dorm with him and I said I need to leave and he asked why so I told him the truth, I'm asexual.

Like wtf, you kissed me literally one hour after you met me and without any warning. I only kissed back because I didn't know what else to do.

And also, even if I did like kissing that doesn't mean I want sex. And I might actually like kissing, but the only time I kind of enjoyed it (still think it's gross) was when I was asked for consent.

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Am I proud of how it looks? No. Am I proud of what it represents? Hell yea!

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Allos and Their Complaining

Anyone else tired of hearing it? I'm tired of hearing allos complain about how hard they have it. I get dating's rough, and I try to be supportive. But I hate talking with straight guys because I can't relate at all.

If I have to hear one more guy, especially on Reddit, complain about how nobody hugs him or compliments him, how much he wants his girl to pat his head like she's his fucking mother, or says "people say all men want is sex but that's not true!" because we all know damn well they won't consider dating an asexual woman, especially one that's sex-repulsed. If you truly cared about being loved, sex's importance would be further down the list.

It's impossible to relate to allos when they talk about online dating, too. I can't even pick "asexual" as my orientation. Even when it's in my description, I have to remind people of it in case they didn't read the two sentences I put in there and get turned down anyway. I can't ask to be paired with only other asexuals or I would do that.

In general, people complain about being single, incel, or "forever alone." Well, at least you have a fucking chance, douchebag, and you're squandering it. You don't have to whip out your Powerpoint presentation explaining your entire sexuality on the first date, or be asked out, only for that person to say "nevermind" when you mention you're asexual.

Whenever they have marriage problems, they come to me for someone to talk to because I "get it." Or they tell me I'm lucky that I don't have to deal with all this. You think I chose to be like this? I would love a chance at what you have! SHUT UP.

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Aro/ace vibes from this post
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Join the void
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Question for my ace-spec peps who have periods

How do you feel about using tampons?

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