Do you masturbate?



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"healthy relationships"

So a weird thing happened today:

Right now I am at a new university as an exchange student and all new students there had to participate in a workshop called "healthy relationships." since I live in student housing, I figured that it makes sense, because we are basically interacting all the time when we are in common areas. So when I walked into the room, I thought that we would learn more about healthy everyday relationship dynamics, but boy, was I wrong.
We exclusively talked about sexual relationships and consent and I agree that it is very important. But for me as an asexual sex averse person, it would have been great to get a heads up. I was completely unprepared and it was so so weird for me and it took me so long to adjust to the situation...
Just choosing another name would have sufficed for me to know what to expect, but like this.... Honestly 🙄

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curse my age!
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Can't wait
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Fixed it
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Second cropped screenshot I made a year ago, which is still 100% true, compliment =\= flirting
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Never thought of that.
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Check out and like this film in pre-production on instagram!
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I am no longer questioning!

Hi! Long time lurker/commenter here. I have being questioning aro for a while now (1 or 2 months) this is probably going to die in new but i just wanted to tell reddit. I am now Aro Ace :D

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These colours were meant for me

I recently discovered I’m a gray ace but the colours of the ace flag(+red) have been in my life for years. If it’s clothing, stream layout, OCs or other, I find these colours wherever I look.

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big ace vibes off this, found a long time ago in my photo library
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My mother got me these shoes almost two years ago before I even knew what asexuality is.😂

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People at my school don't regonice the ace flag

I have an ace friend at my school and they knitted themselves an ace scarf which has the colours of the ace flag repeated multiple times. Not a single person has regoniced it as ace. They have gotten multiple compliments for the beautiful colours and even unironically been called an alphamale thanks to the scarf and leather jacket they wear. I wanted to post this as I find it very funny that you can literally wear the ace flag and not be regoniced as an ace.

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I see a few allos here so what are the ratios of allo to ace

( for reference an allo is someone who does experience sexual attraction )

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I have to be
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I really thought I had come to terms with being ace but now all my bad feelings are coming back and I feel crappy

I have identified as ace for maybe 4 years at this point, and it's been something I've really struggled with in the past. I really wanted to be able to have romantic relationships, and being ace makes that kind of complicated. At least in my experience. And I really, really tried to force myself to be not ace, for a long time. Spoiler alert: it didn't work, just made me traumatized. :-) But then I kind of came to terms with it, or at least I thought I did. And now I'm just... I don't know. I think I kind of have a crush on a person I barely know and it's really fucking with my head because it's just reminded me that a part of me really wants love, but I don't feel like it's possible for me. Like, I joke all the time and say that I don't believe in love, but I kind of don't. Not for me at least. But I want to. And it just makes me so sad and angry and tired, because I want to be able to believe that I could find some kind of love. And at the same time I just... I feel so difficult, even if I ignore the fact that I'm ace, because I have a crap-ton of other issues.

And now I think I have a crush on a person who I barely know if I even like, because we barely know each other, and it's making me feel shitty about being the way that I am. And I mentioned being ace to some people today and they didn't really say anything or make any kind of deal about it which in theory is maybe a good thing because maybe that means it's not a big deal to them? But maybe they silently think I'm weird. And it's making me anxious and I wish I never said anything and now I want to hide in my bed and cry forever. I don't know what to do. I just want to believe that people can like me for who I am, but it's really hard today.

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Can you know you’re ace without falling in love and having sex?

I’m beginning to think I might be ace. I really don’t like the idea of actually having sex, although I probably could do it, it just doesn’t sound worth it (if you get what I mean?). I do masturbate, but apparently a lot of aces do that? So I think it’s allowed? (Please correct me if I’m wrong!). I’m also a virgin who’s only had one “bf” (for like 2 weeks and he was panphobic so rip). Anyway, because of that I’m not sure if I just haven’t met the right person yet. Did any of you guys know for sure you were ace without trying everything out? (Ie without having sex or falling in love). Also, extra question, but how hard is dating when you’re ace? What’s the best way to go about it without attracting creeps? (I’m a woman btw, so creeps are already a worry).

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I outed myself to my entire class

Ok so in my clothing class we were talking about how clothes and accessories communicate different meanings and stuff. And one person in my class mentioned the ace ring but they forgot which hand it went on. So I chimed in saying how I was asexual and how it was the right hand and middle finger. Then I realized what I did and quickly said that I wasn’t out to anyone else except for my brother. Saying in asexual out loud for the first time is honestly so empowering lol.

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