Big ace energy to me
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Shout out to Willy Wonka, an aroace icon!
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I don't want a "glow up"

I know I could look more "attractive" if I wore certain clothing styles, did my hair a certain way, did my makeup, etc but the thought of being seen as more sexually desirable makes my skin crawl. I have a particular personal style that some might consider frumpy but it works for me and makes me happy. I don't have anything against people who "glow up" if it makes them happy too! But the idea that everyone needs to morph into the most sexually attractive versions of themselves in order to be respected and validated seems a bit flawed. I don't want to look hot and sexy because that wouldn't feel like "me". I always hated those makeover scenes in teen movies bc I look very much like all the "befores" and I don't really see anything wrong with it. Sometimes it baffles people that I'm not good looking but I'm also not insecure about it; some of them even seem to resent me for it.

One person I know suggested I need to do squats/workout because I have a flat butt and I was like uhhh I don't want to get a bigger butt and have more people looking at it and paying attention to me like that?!! Though to be honest sometimes it does hurt to sit on my bony ass Lol. Totally separately another person said I should cut and color my hair and it would look "so much prettier" on me. 🙄 But I like it how it is just fine.

I love the wintertime because I can dress modestly all the time and not worry about being sexualized as much. Oversized sweaters, puffy jackets, etc. Edit - Yes I could dress modestly in the summer too but the discomfort of the southern heat FAR outweighs the discomfort of people seeing/commenting on my body.

I'm not sure what I'm getting at but wondering if anyone has had similar thoughts? It seems like there's some misogyny involved too bc it's almost always women/girls who are glowing up like it's somehow our obligation to be "appealing" and be pretty decorations.

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Yes
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I got my first piece of ace apparel today and the person selling it to me was aphobic

I went to a LGBT apparel store in my city to support local business, and when I came to the counter with my ace flag apparel the person there told me they didn't think that flag shouldn't exist. They said that everyone turns "asexual" with age and that sex is natural and that a young person (like me) couldn't possibly be asexual. I was tempted to tell them if that's what they thought I didn't want to buy it from them anymore, but I didn't want to make a fuss and saying that I wanted it anyways felt like enough of a statement.

This has been my first time relating myself to asexuality and I was hoping it'd be a small moment of community. I instead was told I wasn't valid and even though I know I am, this experience has made me feel like the LGBT community doesn't welcome me. And I know it's not the case for every member of the community, but I'm also aware that our place there is not something everyone agrees on and that sucks because it means I can't expect to be validated in LGBT spaces, and today was an example of that.

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Do you masturbate?



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"healthy relationships"

So a weird thing happened today:

Right now I am at a new university as an exchange student and all new students there had to participate in a workshop called "healthy relationships." since I live in student housing, I figured that it makes sense, because we are basically interacting all the time when we are in common areas. So when I walked into the room, I thought that we would learn more about healthy everyday relationship dynamics, but boy, was I wrong.
We exclusively talked about sexual relationships and consent and I agree that it is very important. But for me as an asexual sex averse person, it would have been great to get a heads up. I was completely unprepared and it was so so weird for me and it took me so long to adjust to the situation...
Just choosing another name would have sufficed for me to know what to expect, but like this.... Honestly 🙄

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curse my age!
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Can't wait
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Fixed it
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Second cropped screenshot I made a year ago, which is still 100% true, compliment =\= flirting
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Never thought of that.
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Check out and like this film in pre-production on instagram!
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I am no longer questioning!

Hi! Long time lurker/commenter here. I have being questioning aro for a while now (1 or 2 months) this is probably going to die in new but i just wanted to tell reddit. I am now Aro Ace :D

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These colours were meant for me

I recently discovered I’m a gray ace but the colours of the ace flag(+red) have been in my life for years. If it’s clothing, stream layout, OCs or other, I find these colours wherever I look.

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big ace vibes off this, found a long time ago in my photo library
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My mother got me these shoes almost two years ago before I even knew what asexuality is.😂

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