it happened yesterday

i went to a party and met a lot of new people, two boys wanted to make out with me, since i'm not disgusted with kisses we did make out, even one of them ended in my bed (he's next to me as i'm typing this). the thing is, both of them understood the fact that i'm ace and never tried anything they thought would make me unconfy, even the one next to me, after we made out he asked to stay at my place just to sleep and respected the fact that i don't wanna be touched, made me feel really good and valid

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And I’m also ace, but I mean anxiety is part of it.
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I- I’m apparently good?
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Idk why but this gives off some ace energy
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Basically
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I just wanted to know what omnisexual meant 😐😐
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Had my favorite Twitch Streamer (ProtonJon) read out a donation message about Asexuality, got a supportive response in return :)

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Hey, guys! I just wanted to share a picture of delicious garlic bread, that I'm going to eat for dinner.
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LOVE THIS
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Confused allo is confused
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This has probably been posted before but… are we doing this??? 😳
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Came out to my partner, happy ending<3

Hi I just, literally just, came out to my partner (2 years together, used to have a very active sex-life) as gray-asexual and explained him what it means for me. I was so scared that I cried through the conversation. I was afraid he'd be upset or think there's something wrong with him etc. But he hugged me and thanked me that I trusted him enough to share this with him. He also thanked me for telling because as he said it "now that I know, I can treat you right". (just to clarify he's never treated me badly, he was just happy that now he understands me better and so can treat me even better/more accurate than before) <3

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I don’t want kids of my own… am I selfish for not wanting to be a surrogate mother for my sister?

I (21 F) realised I was asexual in February and almost immediately came out to me best friends, parents, and close cousin. Took a few weeks more to come out to my sister (25 F) because I just knew she would be the least supportive out of everyone. I was right. Her first response was: “have you ever tried sleeping with a woman?”

The talk proceeded with more acephobic comments from her until, finally, she suddenly seemed more positive about my sexuality. I thought she had accepted me… but then she asked “so would you be a surrogate if I couldn’t have children?”

She’s been to the hospital a few times for tests, etc, and so she’s worried she might be infertile (however has not had tests to confirm or deny this). So, I stupidly said yes. It was the first almost positive thing she had said about me being asexual and I was desperate for her validation. However, I knew then that I did not want to carry and children.

Since then, we had briefly had a chat in the car about how her bf’s sister would happily be a surrogate for them. I expressed gratitude to this, explaining that I would doubt I would ever be comfortable enough to carry a child for her. This chat seems to have meant nothing to her, as tonight when I mentioned possibly tying my tubes in the future, her first response was “so that means you won’t be able to have children for me?”

I said no. I don’t want to have kids of my own - what would make me okay with carrying kids for her?

Am I being selfish?

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Do you have sex?

I'm interested if Asexual people have sex and how you get feel about it... Is it just pleasure or do you feel something outside of attraction to your partner during sex?

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How tf do I date as a 19m asexual in college?

I’m (19m) and currently dealing with a lot of issues in college after realizing I’m asexual. How the fuck do I date people? It’s not like there’s some “A-sexual’R’Us” I can drive to. It feels like everyone in college expects guys to be down for sex 100% of the time, all the time, with whoever and if not then there’s something wrong with them or they’re weird.

I want to date, I want to kiss, I want to cuddle, I want to go to petting zoos together, I want to teach a girl all my favorite cooking recipes, write poetry about her and hide it in her closet so she finds it days later and smiles, but sex is so important to people my age that I can’t hold a relationship (I completely understand and respect that, but it doesn’t make it any less frustrating)

I’m fortunate enough to be considered attractive, and I work really hard to be in good shape, and I’m lucky enough to get approached sometimes while out with friends. The problem? All these girls want are hookups. They’re all very pretty and I would love to date them, but as soon as they find out I’m not down to hookup, they get angry and leave even when I’m upfront about it. It makes me feel like I’m just a slab of meat for people to choose from and hey it’s ok because I’m a guy and guys are happy just to get some right?

It hurts even more when I find someone I really click with on an emotional level, but they are not asexual. I wish so desperately I could just have sex with them to make them happy, but my body literally does not get physically aroused. I would be so willing for some of the girls I’ve met as they are just the kindest, brightest, and most beautiful souls, but I can’t. And they are just as sad because while they like me to, no sex is a dealbreaker for them (which once again I totally understand and respect, but it doesn’t make it hurt any less)

My emotional life just feels like one long exhale and idk what to do about it. Any and all help appreciated.

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I’m looking for the asexual young adults 💜🤍🖤

So pick your age, hoomans. Comment below with your age if you’re ok with someone PM’ing you (probably not me though, I’m a shy one).

^Also ^I’m ^sorry ^I ^don’t ^know ^how ^I ^could ^make ^the ^title ^less ^pervy ^sounding.

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I just realized that I'm asexual.

I've always felt somewhat asexual, but I decided to take a look for the prerequisites for aegosexuality, and decided that's probably what I am. Anyways, just wanted to say that. Have a nice day if you're reading this! :)

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TIL we are eels
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I have a love-hate relationship with this feeling
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I was just rejected for being Ace 😕

I really liked this person, even though we haven’t known each other for long. We both said that we’d be open to a relationship if it went that way, but then I mentioned I was Ace and it all came crashing down in front of me. Why do people care about sex? Why did I have to be the one who was hurt just because I don’t wanna have sex? Why do I have to have sex with you to have some kind of value? Why do I have to give you something for you to like me? Why can’t I just enjoy sex and be “normal”? I’m 17 and have never kissed anyone or dated anyone, and I feel as though I’m missing out on being a teenager because everyone just wants sex. This hurts so much. I just really need a pep talk right now.

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