Does the world feel unsafe to you now?

I tend to view sexuality as a very private thing, and it always had been this way for me growing up, and not anybody’s business to define another person except for that person (if they even choose to define themselves). Ever since 2015 though, it feels like everyone is so obsessed with sexuality that it makes me feel extremely extremely uncomfortable and unsafe. I want to feel just human, be treated as human, without feel pressed to define myself. I don’t even want to talk about sex and gender and sexuality anymore. I want to feel safe not even talking about it. The only safe setting that I’ve ever felt has been in the professional realm, where things are generally not hypersexualized (depending on the company, but at mine it’s not). I don’t want to feel unsafe anymore, or defined, I just want to feel like I can go on with life without having to discuss sexuality. Thoughts? Anyone relate (or not)?

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Could I be asexual?

I'm a happily married female. I know we don't have sex as often as my husband would like but I don't get 'horny'. Sex feels nice and I do orgasm from it but it's never something that is at the top of the list of things I want to do. I'm willing to sleep with my husband but he needs to initiate it. When I look at people, I don't find myself wanting to sleep with them even if they are 'sexy'. It's just something that is meh to me. I'd be happy never having sex. I'd rather cuddle and read, to be honest. Could I be asexual even though I do get pleasure from sex?

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Weird conversation I had with someone a long time ago.

So, I was once talking about LGBTQ+ merch during Pride Month and other stuff with an ally. Anyways, the conversation was going well and such until we started to talk about asexuality

this guy deadass said "asexual women are actually so lucky because they cant get their period"

i died

i fucking died

like, im not asexual, im a straight transgender hoe

but this guy thought that like a women's entire reproductive system would vanish if she was asexual like WOW

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aroace dragon :D
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At what age did u realise u were ace?

I read that the average queer person realises their orientation/gender identity at 12, but I thought ace people would probably realise it later bc of the lack of information and representation there is, I, at least did at 17, last year.

If u have time, could u put the specific age in the comments and/or tell ur story?

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Click to see it full (Meme made by me!)
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Captain Acebeard! [Credit: aroaceinyourface.tumblr.com]
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Ace Vibes (got this from @NoContextHumans on Twitter)
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I whipped up some ideas
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Who cares about Aphobes? We have garlic bread!
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I love seeing ace rings here, so here's my first. It's so pretty! Look at how the light reflects!
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my dad thinks i have a disorder

because of my anorexia he thinks i am asexual and if my ed would be gone i would be straight and “normal”. according to him it’s disordered and sick to not be sexually attracted to anyone. he wants to take me to a doctor and keeps saying how “sexy“ i was before i lost weight (due to ana) it makes me hella uncomfortable him saying that about my former 13 year old body and it triggers my ed to not wanting to gain weight even more. i hate this. why are parents like this? :(

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Bad response from my roommate to coming out

I’m in college now. I told my dorm roommate that I’m ace bc we r close and I thought she would want to know more about me. Her response was just saying kinda harshly “I don’t give a fk.” I know she meant to just act like sexuality doesn’t matter and everyone can be who they r without telling everyone, but it kinda hurt. She made it worse when she later said that I probably only think I’m ace bc of past trauma(which is a completely valid reason to be ace) but even so, I told her that I’ve been like this my whole life. She just brushed it off. I like her but now I just never wanna talk about being ace ever again.

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Pain
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Ace Pride Flag I got at my college’s Pride picnic
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‘No sex’-inclusive sex ed

So for uni we have do do an online induction and there’s a mandatory module on consent (in sex and relationships)

I just thought I’d share a positive and inclusive experience,

“sex isn’t for everyone, but everyone can benefit from learning about consent” was the opening line, and throughout the module they were inclusive of both non-heterosexual relationships, and relationships without sex. It was refreshing and so different from the sex Ed I received in school that started with “you’re all going to have sex at some point” which, granted, is better than abstinence-only eduction, but made me feel even more alienated as a young sex-averse teenager.

I think consent and boundaries is an especially important topic for asexuals as I have personally struggled with setting boundaries (that are much more ‘strict’ than most) and having my reluctance to do things not taken seriously, and I’ve heard of many others in the community with similar experiences.

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Me, an asexual once every century:
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Made a origami cube with asexual colors.
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sex isn’t the only form of intimacy 💜
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I LOVE THIS QUOTE
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