Partner Recently Came Out to Me
The other day me partner and I were on a video call (we're long-distance). They've known that I'm on the asexual spectrum since before we got together, and we've been together for over a year now.
While we were talking about stuff they said, "I've been talking to my housemate, and I think I'm asexual." They got more into the details about it and I was so happy for them figuring this out about themself. From the get-to they said that they're not a very sexual person, so they were chill with my asexuality. Little did they know they were also ace!
After they told me this I realized that we're such a mirror. Both of us are trans-masc/nonbinary, biromantic, and asexual. We both have a type and it's ourselves apparently. 😂
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The other day me partner and I were on a video call (we're long-distance). They've known that I'm on the asexual spectrum since before we got together, and we've been together for over a year now.
While we were talking about stuff they said, "I've been talking to my housemate, and I think I'm asexual." They got more into the details about it and I was so happy for them figuring this out about themself. From the get-to they said that they're not a very sexual person, so they were chill with my asexuality. Little did they know they were also ace!
After they told me this I realized that we're such a mirror. Both of us are trans-masc/nonbinary, biromantic, and asexual. We both have a type and it's ourselves apparently. 😂
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Partner Recently Came Out to Me
The other day me partner and I were on a video call (we're long-distance). They've known that I'm on the asexual spectrum since before we got...
Getting Cozy With Labeling as Ace ☺️
Before I found I out I was aroace, I bounced around between a couple different labels a lot and would get all excited thinking “yes. Finally, I know how to describe the way I feel.” However, no label truly encompassed my experiences, so I always felt uneasy calling myself bi, queer, pan, etc.
Now, I’ve been identifying as ace for 4 months and aro for a little less than 2 and it’s a completely different experience!
I observe the things that kinda alienate me from my allo peers and realize with a smile that it’s because I’m ace. Even just hearing the word is a warm embrace full of love and assurance. It’s something that’s wiggled into my heart, seeped into my bones, and truly feels like home.
It’s become more than just a label but my IDENTITY as well.
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Before I found I out I was aroace, I bounced around between a couple different labels a lot and would get all excited thinking “yes. Finally, I know how to describe the way I feel.” However, no label truly encompassed my experiences, so I always felt uneasy calling myself bi, queer, pan, etc.
Now, I’ve been identifying as ace for 4 months and aro for a little less than 2 and it’s a completely different experience!
I observe the things that kinda alienate me from my allo peers and realize with a smile that it’s because I’m ace. Even just hearing the word is a warm embrace full of love and assurance. It’s something that’s wiggled into my heart, seeped into my bones, and truly feels like home.
It’s become more than just a label but my IDENTITY as well.
https://redd.it/pfl8ku
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Getting Cozy With Labeling as Ace ☺️
Before I found I out I was aroace, I bounced around between a couple different labels a lot and would get all excited thinking “yes. Finally, I...
where yall mfs hiding
i go to a roller rink that gets about 350 people every night, and the estimated asexual population is 1% right? so that means statistically there are at least three of us. if im one, where the other two at? come out mfs i wanna be your friend
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i go to a roller rink that gets about 350 people every night, and the estimated asexual population is 1% right? so that means statistically there are at least three of us. if im one, where the other two at? come out mfs i wanna be your friend
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where yall mfs hiding
i go to a roller rink that gets about 350 people every night, and the estimated asexual population is 1% right? so that means statistically there...
Im a greysexual sex worker!
Oh my god, what a ride!
So for years and years I’ve essentially just been pretending to have a higher sex drive than what I do because my friends were doing it, they do it in movies, etc. Like, sex has always been portrayed as some essential ingredient to a happy life? I always thought I was broken because I honestly don’t get the hype over sex? Don’t get me wrong, I can enjoy it from time to time, but I’ve really gotta be in the right mood, otherwise nothing is gonna work on me and I’ll just lay there like a dead fish pretending (sorry if that’s too much information).
Anyway, the funny thing about all of this is I’m a sex worker (posting on an alt account to avoid unintentional promo). I’ve always felt that my job requires me to be horny like all of the time. I didn’t even start sex work for the sex part, I don’t even make that kind of content, I started because it just helped me to boost my self esteem and continues to make me feel good about my body!
Anyway, as I was taking quiz after quiz being told I’m a Grey Ace and listening to a Gary Vee podcast in the background, I realised I don’t need to pretend to be or feel anything, I just need to be true to myself and in that moment I felt such a massive weight lift from my shoulders and grey ace just felt right to me.
So yeah, if you got to the bottom, thank you for reading this short, chaotic story. Idk what I really expected from posting this, it just felt like to right place to let it out
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Oh my god, what a ride!
So for years and years I’ve essentially just been pretending to have a higher sex drive than what I do because my friends were doing it, they do it in movies, etc. Like, sex has always been portrayed as some essential ingredient to a happy life? I always thought I was broken because I honestly don’t get the hype over sex? Don’t get me wrong, I can enjoy it from time to time, but I’ve really gotta be in the right mood, otherwise nothing is gonna work on me and I’ll just lay there like a dead fish pretending (sorry if that’s too much information).
Anyway, the funny thing about all of this is I’m a sex worker (posting on an alt account to avoid unintentional promo). I’ve always felt that my job requires me to be horny like all of the time. I didn’t even start sex work for the sex part, I don’t even make that kind of content, I started because it just helped me to boost my self esteem and continues to make me feel good about my body!
Anyway, as I was taking quiz after quiz being told I’m a Grey Ace and listening to a Gary Vee podcast in the background, I realised I don’t need to pretend to be or feel anything, I just need to be true to myself and in that moment I felt such a massive weight lift from my shoulders and grey ace just felt right to me.
So yeah, if you got to the bottom, thank you for reading this short, chaotic story. Idk what I really expected from posting this, it just felt like to right place to let it out
https://redd.it/pfquut
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Im a greysexual sex worker!
Oh my god, what a ride! So for years and years I’ve essentially just been pretending to have a higher sex drive than what I do because my...
Some things maybe are actually better left unlearned; self-discovery is not for the faint of heart. I would change in a heartbeat, wish on any star in the sky.
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If you are ace-spec, please share whether you have had one of these experiences:
I know these aren't mutually exclusive, I would've included some more common experiences if they didn't conflict so much, and I can't add more options
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I know these aren't mutually exclusive, I would've included some more common experiences if they didn't conflict so much, and I can't add more options
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People
You know, as a disabled person I sometimes can’t help but feel like a failure. But then I see people being like: “BuT HoW do YoU eVen knoW YOu cAn’T fEel SeXuaL aTtraCTiOn WhEn yOU neVeR eVeN TRiED it.”
And suddenly I’m like “Yup, not that much of a failure, could’ve been much worse.”
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You know, as a disabled person I sometimes can’t help but feel like a failure. But then I see people being like: “BuT HoW do YoU eVen knoW YOu cAn’T fEel SeXuaL aTtraCTiOn WhEn yOU neVeR eVeN TRiED it.”
And suddenly I’m like “Yup, not that much of a failure, could’ve been much worse.”
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People
You know, as a disabled person I sometimes can’t help but feel like a failure. But then I see people being like: “BuT HoW do YoU eVen knoW YOu...
A small win
I have an aphobic person in my life, who I (unfortunately) can't block. She tries to pose as my "friend" who "helps me understand myself", so she doesn't do anything harmful (like trying to tell my family), but having to listen to her falsely cheerful sermons is quite unpleasant.
Anyway, recently we had a small celebration, and she gave me a gift saying: "I know you're shy to buy these things, so I got them for you. After you try them, you will discover a new world". It was a big bottle of lube and 2 "toys". I considered telling her that asexual people can use them too, but that was boring. Then I remembered a certain fact that I accidentally read about lube...
A week passed and today she asked me if I liked her gift. I said that I loved it and added that it smelled too weak, so I added a bit of lemongrass oil and now it's my favorite product. After she started beaming with self-satisfaction, I continued: "See how well it moisturizes my hands! They were so dry from the constant hand-sanitizing, and it was really hard to find a product that doesn't irritate my skin!" The look on her face was, honestly, priceless.
TL;DR: Acephobe gave me lube, I used it as a hand moisturizer to spite her. (it moisturizes exceptionally well, btw)
https://redd.it/pfwetw
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I have an aphobic person in my life, who I (unfortunately) can't block. She tries to pose as my "friend" who "helps me understand myself", so she doesn't do anything harmful (like trying to tell my family), but having to listen to her falsely cheerful sermons is quite unpleasant.
Anyway, recently we had a small celebration, and she gave me a gift saying: "I know you're shy to buy these things, so I got them for you. After you try them, you will discover a new world". It was a big bottle of lube and 2 "toys". I considered telling her that asexual people can use them too, but that was boring. Then I remembered a certain fact that I accidentally read about lube...
A week passed and today she asked me if I liked her gift. I said that I loved it and added that it smelled too weak, so I added a bit of lemongrass oil and now it's my favorite product. After she started beaming with self-satisfaction, I continued: "See how well it moisturizes my hands! They were so dry from the constant hand-sanitizing, and it was really hard to find a product that doesn't irritate my skin!" The look on her face was, honestly, priceless.
TL;DR: Acephobe gave me lube, I used it as a hand moisturizer to spite her. (it moisturizes exceptionally well, btw)
https://redd.it/pfwetw
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A small win
I have an aphobic person in my life, who I (unfortunately) can't block. She tries to pose as my "friend" who "helps me understand myself", so she...
I'm currently watching Carrie Pilby and let me tell you I forgot how much ace energy and aphobia is there
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